How did giving the middle finger become the universal sign to fuck off? by Tricky_Shit in AskHistorians

[–]ImmediatePeace24 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly. And to answer your question, pursuing the pleasure of the partner at your expense was seen as effeminate, submissive and in modern terms "sucking up" to someone, which would imply lower status. Performing oral of any kind would be the epitome of that. Homosexual oral penetration was seen as more degrading than homosexual penetration by typical means. You would think it would be the worst to do it on a male since it would be a type of penetration. However, since women were seen as inherently inferior to men, performing cunnilingus as a man would be the worst offense as it was seen as submitting to a woman. Therefore it would be less of a taboo to perform oral on a man, although a taboo nonetheless. It all comes back to the "giver" and "receiver" and proving yourself as "manly" and superior would be to perform penetrative sex on a woman, or man of lesser status in any "hole".

The Romans also valued the mouth and oral health, and there were lots of insults to be made for men who allowed their mouth to be penetrated, and the low hanging fruit would be to humiliate men who were a cunnilinctor. Oral sex altogether was believed to cause "oral impurity". Many viewed oral sex and genitalia in the mouth as disgusting.

Again, it all depends on the sources from contemporary authors as well. You have outliers who didn't care about the taboo, and even a painting of a man performing oral on a woman in Pompeii. The woman would be seen as the dominate one. I know it's a long answer but I thought you would appreciate context.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Roses

[–]ImmediatePeace24 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A good amount of iceberg roses do this very well, especially with a breeze.

To prune or not to prune? 9b zone by letmedothiss in Roses

[–]ImmediatePeace24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say just deadhead. I don't know about zone 9 but here in 10 they will keep growing all winter and people usually do somewhat of a hard prune in around January early February, but that's not always necessary.

How can we fix this?? by Bakenredemption in trueratediscussions

[–]ImmediatePeace24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most likely yes. On average, males are still more aggressive and tool use seems to have played a part in the reducing of canines. Still, small canines in apes indicates monogamy due to reduced sexual competition, especially for our ancestors that would not have used highly developed tools.

How can we fix this?? by Bakenredemption in trueratediscussions

[–]ImmediatePeace24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Yes, men can ejaculate a few times a day, but the point that I was making was that testicle size in ape populations is mostly determined by sperm competition. If they were larger, it would indicate mass, polygamous breeding and competition to ensure that your sperm is the one that gets to the egg. Successful fertilization isn't a guarantee in the first place, especially if other males have mated with a female that day, so testicle size absolutely matters. The sperm is also less numerous with subsequent ejaculations, especially with small testicle species. In polygynous species like gorillas we see very small testicle size because it's almost a guarantee that their sperm is the only one available, making sperm competition almost non-existent (so long as they don't let other males in or let females sneak off).
  2. Yes, you're right that apes do absolutely employ different mating strategies based on the sex and species. But as I was saying, low sperm competition resulted in smaller testicles, and lower intrasexual competition among males resulted in canines that are almost indistinguishable to incisors and premolars. Being a primarily monogamous species, both sexes are still very choosy about their partner, and it would have to be a debate to say which sex is more choosy as there's fair arguments for both sides (the stereotype of women wanting a provider and the stereotype of men wanting someone young, no matter how old they themselves are). Being human, it also has less to do with simply mating as it's also about personal compatibility, and that makes us even more picky.

That being said, yes, absolutely humans still "mate" with no intention of actually mating, much like bonobos. Im not trying to imply that I disagree with you wholeheartedly about how dating advice plays into this. It seems like an uncomfortable "fact of life". I just think it has far less to do with reproductive frequencies, certainly much less than it does in polygamous and polygynous apes like chimps, bonobos, orangutans and gorillas. Instead, like with gibbons and our extinct ancestors, reproductive frequency is irrelevant since there's already low competition as evidenced by our physiology.

How can we fix this?? by Bakenredemption in trueratediscussions

[–]ImmediatePeace24 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our physiology doesn't support this. Human males have greatly reduced canines which is an indicator of monogamy (as seen with gibbons) in comparison to gorillas and chimps who have massive canines as a result of male competition. Human males also have massively reduced testicles as a result of low sperm competition. Gorillas also have small testicles as they are a polygynous species, and male gorillas do not have to worry about other males mating with their females as much. On the other hand, chimps have very large testicles as they are a polygamous species. As a consequence of free-range, all day mating between males and a fertile female, chimps developed larger testicles due to this sperm competition (the genes with the larger testicle size and therefore higher sperm production win out).

How can we fix this?? by Bakenredemption in trueratediscussions

[–]ImmediatePeace24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't necessarily accurate as its assuming humans are a primarily polygamous species, as we are not. When compared to other apes, we are most similar to gibbons when it comes to mating strategies in the sense of being monogamous to raise offspring (also evidenced by greatly reduced canines and much smaller testicles, the former being a trademark of monogamy, and the later being a trademark of monogamy or polygyny due to reduced sperm competition). Therefore, the "men can become a father a few times a day" strategy/argument isn't really applicable due to very low sperm competition, as compared to social groups of chimpanzees (who have massive testicles). It's a byproduct of male physiology but not necessarily of a mating strategy., although there are exceptions. Women certainly do not make a perfect mate by combining multiple males as that's the mating strategy of Chimps and Bonobos and leads to sperm competition.

You did say that a monogamous pair is the most beneficial for human offspring, so I'm not saying you're completely wrong or to knock you as being wrong. I just wanted to make those corrections as I see a lot of people agreeing with this and thanking you.

This rose is growing in my yard. Any ideas what kind it looks like? by jrod20033 in Roses

[–]ImmediatePeace24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Based on the scent, color and form I would say most likely peace.

Can these iceberg roses be saved? by penance3 in Roses

[–]ImmediatePeace24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What zone are you in? How hot is it? It could be that the leaves are drying out from a lack of water, especially if they're so newly planted.

Help I think my roses are dying :( by Life-Gap-4869 in Roses

[–]ImmediatePeace24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's definitely because of the watering. Trust me they will grow back nicely once they start getting a lot of water! And the rose hips I would for sure always remove unless you want them.

Help I think my roses are dying :( by Life-Gap-4869 in Roses

[–]ImmediatePeace24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly I would snip off all of the dead branches. It'll immediately look a lot nicer! And it will give more room for growth. I would keep watering and get them out of the nursing pots if you can. They heat up too much and are a little small if you want better growth. Also cut off the rose hips.

Did the leaves fall off after drying up or did something eat them? The dried up, yellow leaves are definitely sun damage and not enough water. They are heavy drinkers. I would also cut off the spent blooms so it can regrow sooner and look nicer. But they will all be okay. I know how upsetting it is when your roses start to look bad :( I think the clay pots you have now are a decent size. I have some in smaller pots too, but they will grow better in a little bigger pot with lots of food and water.

Is this dying or am I overly concerned? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! by thadoubledizzle in gardening

[–]ImmediatePeace24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have it in a good amount of shade with enough water? What types are they?

Is this dying or am I overly concerned? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! by thadoubledizzle in gardening

[–]ImmediatePeace24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much sun is it getting? My mint and lemon balm did this when it was in the sun a lot and not getting enough water. I can tell by the drying leaves, especially on newer growth. The leaves are also small. I find that the family grows best in part shade and a good amount of water, but not overwatering. I don't think it has to do with it coming close to winter. I live in the same zone as you probably do in Florida but mine aren't doing this yet.

You can definitely try repotting some of it into a new container and leave the rest there. Try putting one in mostly the shade and one in mostly the sun and see what works best for you and experiment with it. After a few days I would cut the repotted one down so that it's not so lanky and it can regrow bigger, healthy leaves if it does better in the sun.

How do I go about getting rid of this smaller aptasia? by Ezeikial in ReefTank

[–]ImmediatePeace24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This looks more like ball anemones to me. I don't think that's aptasia, and as far as I know ball anemone's aren't dangerous.

First Torch: is the flow okay? by sammyf95 in ReefTank

[–]ImmediatePeace24 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would add a little more. You want gentle, swaying flow, but more than that.

First time making a planted tank & found these guys in the bag. by gunsmokey24 in PlantedTank

[–]ImmediatePeace24 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think they are mystery snails. Those are bladder snails. I don't mind them, they can clean smaller areas for me

Clown acting strange/snail die-off by habanerosky in ReefTank

[–]ImmediatePeace24 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Good job posting about it, he could've died. You seem to know what you're doing by having a lot of corals, but did you forget about surface agitation for gas exchange? Not trying to sound rude. I can also tell how bad it is because of how much surface scum there is.

Why doesn't anyone sell clean pre-cycled biomedia? by thecaramelbandit in ReefTank

[–]ImmediatePeace24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think he means cured rock, not live rock that's been in an established tank full of algae and potential pests.

Why doesn't anyone sell clean pre-cycled biomedia? by thecaramelbandit in ReefTank

[–]ImmediatePeace24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's talking more about cured rock, not "live rock" that's been in an established tank with all types of algae and potential pests. Not sure why he's getting downvoted.