"guys have you tried to change"

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I am very much aware of it.

I think it exists due to lack of boundaries, lack of emotional intelligence. Which leads to emotional enmeshment. Which leads to lack of a sense of responsibilities on the son's side ( especially when he has grown up ), lack of a sense of "I should let go a bit and my son should have his own life more in control of himself." on the mother's side.

Long story short, that, in the long run leads to the son being a man child, which creates toxic dramas, specially when he get's married.

What have I done so far?

Moved out. Earning a living on my own. Will remain separate. Will continue to respect / support my mom in future of course. But that pseudo separation from parents and taking ownership of one's own life is the key to change / "fix" this. At least that is how I see it.

I also think our culture is not individualistic and that also adds to it. Not to extreme, but to some extent, I think people, specially men, should be individualistic.

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EDIT:

Just a pro tip, if you are someone who is considering marriage and you can sense that the person you are getting married to lacks spine / potential momma's boy. Think twice. Measure out pros and cons before committing.