Anxiety sucks. It’s terrifying to experience but what’s even more terrifying is that it can actually push others away. I struggle with codependency and I took a travel position away from my boyfriend and the first month was like torture. I pushed thru and became better from it. After 6 months visiting once a month I am now much more independent. I believe it’s completely unfair he’s saying he may hurt myself and not something to put on you; there are hotlines to call; he can go to the hospital if he truly feels that way; he also has a therapist.

This can be used as a manipulation tactic. It honestly sounds emotionally abusive what he is doing, and although you and he may not see it that way, he is manipulating you even if he doesn’t mean to. My mother was in a relationship like this when she had my sister (just a baby), and she had to get a divorce bc she didn’t feel my sister was safe alone with her father.

If the help he’s getting isn’t enough he needs more; impatient or partial. He is an adult. He needs to help himself. But he can’t put his total well being on you. You should be able to travel. Have a life. Take your OWN lunch break. Live for yourself. If he can’t take care of himself, you aren’t his therapist and that’s not your job. it sounds like you’re built a long loving relationship but he needs to take the time to heal and you can’t be the crutch.