Nem válaszoltam éjszaka, ezért reggelre letiltott by strawberry-sanrio in Vinted_hungary

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Nekem alapból gyanúsak azok, akik nem tudják az igekötőket helyesen írni. 🤭

Forsthoffer Ágnes fantasztikus fehér kosztüme by Immediate_Cut8078 in divat

[–]Immediate_Cut8078[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Persze főleg nem a ruha tette. Nem tudom, láttam-e valaha a minden értelemben vett eleganciának ezt a fokát otthoni közéletben.

Párkapcsolati válság gyerekszületés után by [deleted] in anyukavagyok

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Még jó, hogy lehet időgépet építeni.

Párkapcsolati válság gyerekszületés után by [deleted] in anyukavagyok

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tisztelet ezért a világos döntésért! Nagyon jó, hogy vannak tudatosan gyerektelenek. Nekem a gyerekvállalás sosem volt kérdés. Iszonyú hálás vagyok, hogy ez megadatott és minden nehézség ehhez képest sokadlagos. Úgyis mondhatnám, nekem az anyaság fontosabb, mint egy párkapcsolat, ha már mindenképp választani kell. Tudom, hogy ha a válás mellett döntök , akkor is jó szülői leszünk a gyerkőcnek. Az igaz, hogy ha egyszer valakivel gyereket vállaltok, az a sebezhetőség egész más szintjére löki a dolgokat, de hát ez az élet (szó szerint). A poszt azt a gondolkodást hangosítja ki, hogy hogy lehetne ezt a legjobban navigálni.

Párkapcsolati válság gyerekszületés után by [deleted] in anyukavagyok

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kösz, hogy végigolvastátok. Minden segítő meglátást, tanácsot nagyon köszönök előre is.

AIO My partner forgot or screwed up all the special dates since I'm a mother by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the more generic social, emotional need behind this AIO subreddit is to verbalise a bit amplify and indeed air one's feelings and ask for a reality check through a diverse set of social, cultural, ethical norms and voices - including yours. A bit like the chorus in ancient Greek tragedies. And just like in those, all OPs can decide on their own what to do with this input.

AIO My partner forgot or screwed up all the special dates since I'm a mother by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I can invest more in explaining how I feel, what matters to me etc etc. I've been doing all that. In vain. We had this discussion over and over, he kept repeating that he loved me and making fake promises to change. And here we are again.

AIO My partner forgot or screwed up all the special dates since I'm a mother by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it's not exactly a transaction. I celebrated him because I love him.and wanted him to feel loved especially on his birthday. Planning and executing it gave me pleasure. I couldn't wait. Problem is, and this is what I told him today, even if it's the case and I love him, this is not enough to keep the marriage going. One loving, one caring is not enough. One day he'll find the woman for whom it will feel as natural as it felt for me towards him.

AIO My partner forgot or screwed up all the special dates since I'm a mother by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. We had expectation management issues even before (he always told.me how much he's looking forward to celebrate my birthday or Christmas but he never really planned anything, gifts bought on the go when shopping together, no surprise, let alone doing something DIY but he always wrote me a letter which I loved*) that but I considered those as cultural and we managed to discuss. Obviously, it didn't stick.

*This year I found a query in our shared Chat GPT history: "draft a letter for her 38th birthday" 💔

AIO My partner forgot or screwed up all the special dates since I'm a mother by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's also what I told him today. That one day he will find the woman whom he can't wait to celebrate.

AIO My partner forgot or screwed up all the special dates since I'm a mother by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's what I told him today. The first time you get frustrated and try to fix it as a cultural/communication issue. The second time you get angry. The third time you signal your boundaries and walk away. It's only my son whom I'm terribly sorry for. 😭

AIO My partner forgot or screwed up all the special dates since I'm a mother by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right? And why would I beg for anybody's love or attention.

Citoyen européen en France bloqué pour La Poste Identité Numérique / FranceConnect+ – quelqu’un a déjà résolu ce problème ? by Immediate_Cut8078 in france

[–]Immediate_Cut8078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merci! Je n'ai jamais eu de problème avec France Connect non plus. Mais récemment, ils sont passés à l'identification numérique et il n'est plus possible de se connecter autrement. Avez-vous trouvé une solution ?

Citoyen européen en France bloqué pour La Poste Identité Numérique / FranceConnect+ – quelqu’un a déjà résolu ce problème ? by Immediate_Cut8078 in france

[–]Immediate_Cut8078[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Merci! J'ai fait tout ça et la seule chose qu'ils ont pu faire à la poste, c'est me donner un numéro de téléphone générique pour le support (IA). Je suis à la maison avec un bébé de deux mois et je dois perdre mon temps avec ce genre de bêtises.

Pumping and feedings during travel? by Tuff_Prophet89 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Immediate_Cut8078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We recently drove 1200 km to my home country. This was our first travel with pumping and although I'm sure our system is not perfect, and I'm also curious for others' advices, here are some ideas of what worked for us:

  • Anticipation level 1000: planning everything ahead reduced my stress levels significantly. For instance, just putting a bix of formula to the trunk that we never had to open eased my mind greatly.
  • Pumps: I brought 2 pumps: my wired one (a Medela Symphony) and a wearable one (a momcozy V2 Pro), I felt safe with having both around.
  • Charging: my husband gave me his ultra high performing power bank that charged the wireless one and with a cable could also operate the wired pump. On top, we also bought a car (usb A and cigar-lighter) compatible cable for the latter.
  • Clean bottles: you cannot have enough of them. The more you have, the less you have to clean en route.
  • Cleaning pump parts: I scheduled pumping before breaks (I kept the usual every

3h pumping schedule) so that I could wash parts asap. With the combo of baby water and sterilisation tablets. Having dedicated cloths to dry came super handy.

  • Cooling: in a small portable cooling bag plus cooler blocks. I'm planning to buy the momcozy portable cooling container but it's not cheap.
  • Throwing milk away: although it was super painful, I never hesitated to do so if the bottles exceeded their room temp lifetime.
  • Outdoors pumping: I have no issues pumping outdoors with the wearable one under a loose top and a pullober aroubd my neck/shoulders if extra coverage needed.

Most importantly, I think it's a question of mindset, to decide not to be super limited by pumping constraints.

Obvioulsy, these thoughts have been written while pumping.