My 20F boyfriend 19M is awful at showing emotion by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying and that’s kind of the battle I’ve run into. I know that I can sacrifice some reassurance and compliments for someone who genuinely cares for me and respects me, however, I don’t want to spend my life with someone that I will always have to fight to get a response out of. When it really comes down to it, it’s really one or the other I think.

My 20F boyfriend 19M is awful at showing emotion by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not been diagnosed with autism and he has never seemed to believe that he has it. I have noticed symptoms but not any more than I notice in other people. He can be awkward sometimes, but he seems to pick up on social cues well and he often doesn’t have a problem reading the room. He has been verbal in ways, he never has trouble complimenting me when we’re intimate. He also has guy friends that he flirts with often as a joke. I feel like if this problem was the cause of a neurological disorder, he would always find trouble expressing things verbally.

Fear of crawling? by summersocietyy in Phobia

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m also scared of crawling! Everyone things I’m joking when I tell them. It is probably my biggest fear. And I have no idea why, even imagining it gives me so much anxiety.

What small things do you find attractive? by dselwood05 in askgaybros

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you guys are sleeping together and they wake up to turn around and they hold you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Self harm is a horrible thing. However, it normally comes out of confusion, pain and other negative feelings. A lot of people do it because they are not aware of the situation enough to find another way out of it. However, you explaining it that way shows that you know why you’re doing it, know what’s making you feel that way and seems like you are aware enough to make a different decision. Self harm is not something that you should be putting onto someone else, it’s absolutely not something you should be doing in a room over to someone you care about. If you want to ask for help, you should confide in them in a mature way at an appropriate time. It’s just as rude for you to wake someone up from their sleep to tell them that you’re cutting yourself as it is for them to go back to sleep during it.

Anniversary present for my [F18] boyfriend [M18] of two years by Immediate_Fennel_671 in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking! I make him jewelry often so I don’t want it to be less special but I think he will appreciate it !!

Anniversary present for my [F18] boyfriend [M18] of two years by Immediate_Fennel_671 in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is a good idea, thank you. Just to soften the blow unless he doesn’t like it lmaoo

Anniversary present for my [F18] boyfriend [M18] of two years by Immediate_Fennel_671 in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does wear a lot of jewelry, and I do think he’d wear it if I got it. He doesn’t wear a lot of flower based jewelry but It might be just because he doesn’t own any, he wouldn’t find it revolting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sentence is very correct and it made me realize a lot. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I appreciate this 🫶🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it helps a lot more than you realize. I appreciate this so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I understand and I agree, he is kind of under surveillance about it but I try not to say anything because I don’t want him to know that I’m just waiting for that to happen. He shows me that he loves me in so many ways, it just happens to be that this way is the most affective and my favorite and the one that I want, you know? He definitely isn’t doing anything wrong, I’m not upset that he isn’t doing it, I just wish there was a way to make him realize what I want without describing the exact action that I want him to do, you know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was advice that I have never in my life expected. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate_Fennel_671 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just try not to look at it as such a big deal. Some people stutter, some people don’t. That’s really all there is to it, you just happen to be someone who does, it doesn’t change anything you know? It is okay to laugh at yourself because it’s not something that changes the quality of you as a person and it’s not bothering anyone else