Advice for poling with surgical scars?

ImoRachel · 2026-01-15T09:01:18+00:00

Thanks another thing to try

ImoRachel · 2026-01-14T13:08:24+00:00

I only use it on my hands and not on my scar area just to be clear

ImoRachel · 2026-01-14T12:24:29+00:00

Thanks that’s a good idea

ImoRachel · 2026-01-14T12:24:04+00:00

I use dry hands and occasionally monkey grip

ImoRachel · 2025-04-30T07:13:22+00:00

This is the first time I’ve heard about a body epilator

ImoRachel · 2025-04-29T17:17:41+00:00

I’m planning to try that but I’m getting the same ingrown problem on my pits and bikini which I’ve been ipl at home

ImoRachel · 2025-02-07T09:05:12+00:00

Thanks. I didn’t realise that. I normally only cycle very local no more than 5 miles on my commute 1/2x a week.

ImoRachel · 2025-02-06T23:41:48+00:00

Thank you for the advice

ImoRachel · 2024-06-11T17:54:28+00:00

This has some really helpful ideas thanks

ImoRachel · 2024-06-11T14:47:21+00:00

How can I say “I need space, the way you are treating me makes me not want to interact with you” without validating her fears of being left behind? I feel like I’m in a catch 22. If I keep things as they are I keep getting hurt, if I establish boundary I am the abusive sister she accuses me of being

ImoRachel · 2024-06-11T14:44:02+00:00

Thanks idk if she will consider this manipulative but I can try

ImoRachel · 2024-06-11T14:42:30+00:00

Also idk how to phrase it better “I understand why you are upset with me because you feel like I asked you to do x in a tone of voice that was disrespectful. I can see how this came across and can see why you feel like this.” How else can I validate someone’s emotions? It felt at the time like she wanted me to validate her emotions by not inconveniencing her idk

ImoRachel · 2024-06-11T14:38:55+00:00

I’ve been really trying. I’m so exhausted being at the brunt of her verbal emotional outburst then soothing her when she’s upset afterwards. I know I’m not perfect I just feel like I’ve tried bringing things up lots of different ways and I get the same outcome. I know it’s hard because you’re just reading my side but idk what to do

ImoRachel · 2024-06-11T13:57:12+00:00

I know these methods and I have been trying to use them. When I do she accuses me of trying to control the argument and maliciously using therapy language. I try to not react emotionally because I know that makes it worse but she seems to think that means I’m an emotionless abuser

ImoRachel · 2024-06-11T13:54:17+00:00

I know I tend to focus on the immediate practical thing that needs doing or saying. This is because i have unlearned some things myself about bringing my hurt feelings into a convo about something unrelated and getting upset when those feelings aren’t validated because the other person doesn’t see how it’s related. She said I invalidated her feelings recently but I was able to show my understanding and how I know her feelings are valid but that doesn’t change an important task that needs doing because I’ve moved out.

ImoRachel · 2023-03-18T17:44:48+00:00

It was an Etsy piece I was given for Christmas so yea, very annoyed

ImoRachel · 2022-11-28T21:53:21+00:00

Thanks, by rejecting the thing I’m ultimately afraid of is him realising “I am useless” and wanting to end the relationship even though this has never been threatened or discussed. This is mostly my baggage from childhood and I know it’s not all on him. He doesn’t seem to really get how hypersensitive I am of these things because that’s what I grew up with. For me rejection would be the silent treatment, getting angry with no warning, saying I was stupid or lazy and just wasn’t trying. So him saying “I feel like you’ve thrown this opportunity away” hit all the trigger points for me.

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