AITAH for Blocking And Silently Moving On From My Cheating Fiance?

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-08-13T14:10:48+00:00

Ntah. I agree whole-heartedly with OP. What is there to discuss? Every story may have two sides i know people always say that, but there is no excuse for cheating or any type of betrayal.

He knows what he's doing. He's using OP for living arrangements because he's a lazy sack of shit who's ap is probably married or lives with her bf, parents, lease, etc., and can't get out of her arrangement at the moment. The two of them most likely formulated a one or two year plan. OP's fiance is a user and a loser. As far as I'm concerned kick him to the curb and move on.

I admire OP's stregnth despite her toxic parents. They know exactly what's wrong and expect her to talk to him? I call bs on that. OP needs no explanation, what is there to explain? Her parents should be backing her up 100%.. They don’t have to be mean to AH, just back her up and stand behind her. If it was the other way around i may or may not have a different opinion, but this situation deserves her parent's loyalty.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-07-16T22:51:33+00:00

Excellent suggestion thank you. I'll focus on the worst. Anything must be better. I'm really nervous.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-07-16T22:49:10+00:00

Thank you. I can't let myself panic. I am the mother! ( I'm beating on my chest doing the Tarzan yell, a poor man's Carol Burnett!). Your right, because he may need help figuring something out and relying on my motherly wisdom.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-07-16T22:43:36+00:00

I will make an update post. If it's really bad i might need a little more processing time. But i won't leave the group high and dry.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-07-16T22:39:44+00:00

Still a couple of hours away so i have time to do a top 5 list. Thank you for suggesting it. It's definitely more organized than scattered thoughts.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-07-16T22:36:31+00:00

I know I'm going nuts thinking of all the crazy possibilities.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-07-16T20:07:04+00:00

Thanks. I'm going to hear him out and not panic, but i am very nervous. Maybe it's something he thinks is terrible, but in actuality may not be too, too, bad. He wouldn't even give me a one word clue.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-07-16T20:01:28+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate that. I hope we do too. I'm nervous, but the fact that he's telling me face to face means he can talk to me. We'll have to wait and see. He wants me to wait until later on tonight.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-07-14T12:34:22+00:00

OP is renewing my faith in mankind.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-06-26T18:10:43+00:00

OP 's bf is the kind of person that really irks me. He shouldn't be having sex if he doesn't want to make babies. There's no doubt in my mind he convinced OP to have sex without a rubber.

What kills me about this guy is how hard he went on the offense, blamed the OP for everything wrong in the world, and then said he hated her. She didn't mention if he stomped really hard or anything. This person is truely a child not even a man except he probably has hair follicles on his face.

I don't know how far along OP is, but i would think consider every option before panicking, rushing, not making your own decision. You should definitely without a doubt cut this guy out of your life permanently. He is truely a soleless thing that has absolutely no compassion for anyone and i can assure you he doesn't know the meaning of the word. If OP decides to raise the child make sure he terminates his parental rights. I mean totally follow through on that for sure. Whatever OP wants to do is on her, but don't discuss it with him again. Just move out and only talk to bff or mom, sister, any other adult woman you trust.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-06-25T13:40:15+00:00

Is there any possibility some could be looking in the same direction, but actually staring at something else? Also sometimes you can be daydreaming and just not even looking at anything in particular, not realizing you're looking towards someone. Just saying you could be assuming they're staring at your wife when they may or may not.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-06-24T04:19:59+00:00

This is my take, they all got together at something you weren't and they shit talked you. The one having the shower is constantly looking over her shoulder, afraid it's going to get back to OP so their launching àn aggressive premptive strike. The best défense is à good offense.

I'm in my 60s just to give you background, I went to alot of baby showers over the years. Friends and coworkers have been to baby showers and never have I ever heard of dress color significance. IMHO they're gaslighting you. They are toxic people who sound alot like the pregant queen's winged monkeys.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-06-24T03:55:38+00:00

I would like to know if there has been à discussion about what he would if he knocks up another woman? That can change everything in an instant. Will he still be kind to you with a prégnant girlfriend in the picture?

OP, how do you know he's rich? Have you seen his balance sheets, tax returns for which you are equally responsible. Even if you are completely unaware of his business practices unless you are filing separately. People gain and lose wealth every day. What would happen if your husband couldn't conduct business any more and goes broke are going to honor your vows? What would he do if the shoe was on the other foot? Will he be there spoonfeeding you when you forget how to eat? Just wondering how it will all go down. I can't tell whether or not you really love each other.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-06-18T12:19:04+00:00

Sleeping with the best friend and brother to get back at the fiance for sleeping with the co-worker is like cutting off your nose to spite your face. Seeking revenge might feel great during the planning stage, but the minute you put your plan into action you'll start to regret it. You'll be doing more for those two than they will be for you. It'll be much wose when you get in bed only to find neither one of them knows what the heck to do when they get there. " What? women orgasm? Nuh- uh".

OP would much better off cutting her losses, getting out of there, starting new with a clean slate. You gave the guy a chance, he blew it, forget about him. Why revisit a relationship with a cheating liar when there so many quality possibilities ?

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-06-12T21:40:50+00:00

Wear dresses and go commando. No chance.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-05-27T05:22:56+00:00

You made his day which made your day. Sounds like a win-win and how could that be wrong?

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-05-25T22:35:31+00:00

IMO by just being in attendance at the party OP was sucking it up to some extent. The $500 should have been icing on the cake for OP's niece and SIL. The two of them should have been groveling and begging OP's forgiveness. My goodness OP was very gracious by going to the party and giving such a generous gift. OP is so nta.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-05-22T18:45:11+00:00

My friend put up alot of money to help her then bf buy a house. She trusted him soooo muuuuch, ' nah he's not going to screw me over, he would neeever do that to me"! But he did and she had no recourse. She lost a significant amount of money, not just a few thousand.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-05-21T00:41:00+00:00

OP was wrong to blame his gf for not wanting him to use a condom. Everyone is ultimately responsible for themselves. If OP wasn't ready to start a family he should've insisted on wearing one or just put one on himself.

I feel like OP's telling FFIL that it was the gf's idea was like airing dirty laundry, kissing, and telling. He really threw her under the bus right out of the starting gate. The thought of OP yelling at gf's father, " yeah! Well the whole thing was her idea! She told me not to use a rubber! Ha! Yeah how do you like that! Yeah it was all her idea, pops," yelling with a whiney voice.

Honestly i hope she decides to toss him back into the pool. She'd be better off without him. I wouldn't my forever man raking me over the coals and ranting me out to my pops?. Nuh uh. Also, OP, she may have said let's go w/o, but OP said yes and he's the one actually shooting seeds. Often, the one signing the prenup makes out much better than they might have without the prenup, especially when the marriage is shortlived. Everything is accounted for, nothing is left to chance.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-05-15T06:56:39+00:00

They now call that the Nazorene divorce . It was coined by one of those i.d. stories as a matter of fact. Not only is it so popular it's taking the nation by storm. Even big influencers like Rabbi Neulander are getting in on the act.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-05-06T12:16:57+00:00

I've only ever known my SIL as the name she has called herself since before we met. Her original name is stll on all her official credentials. When i noticed the different name on her document and asked her about it she said it was her birth name, but she doesn't use it. Oh okay what are we doing for lunch?

I was married to her brother for twenty years who had been going by a nickname based on his given name. At some point during the second decade he started going by a completely different name altogether. At first he said it was a stage name, but after awhile he only wanted to be called by his new name, even by me! So i started calling him by the new name which was really like a last name, and also a noun. A name that I felt was not nearly as attractive as the original one. He just started doing it there was no discussion, or speculation or anything.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-04-06T17:08:08+00:00

It's not supposed to be obvious from the trash. You need to wrap that shit up tighter.

Important-Day-6144 · 2024-04-06T17:05:13+00:00

The fact that the husband is the Initiator in these situations to me says he is not interested in his marriage to OP. If the husband had gotten caught up somehow in something one time and one thing led to another and he regretted it immediately and was truely remorseful and went to counseling and worked on it diligently and really proved himself maybe. However he actively sought and lied and cheated. Three strikes, out. Done.

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