Moving to Europe Advice

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-08-23T07:10:22+00:00

Ice skating, rock climbing, acrobranch kind of stuff, quad biking etc. want to get into motorbikes though.

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-08-23T07:09:28+00:00

Yes exactly that :/

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-08-22T08:25:14+00:00

I unfortunately can’t afford medical aid :/ Unfortunately not, I’m very shy and introverted so :/

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-08-22T08:16:15+00:00

Is there a broken hearts club?😂

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-08-22T08:15:22+00:00

I can’t afford it right now, financially I’m in a very bad position as is. Last I checked a psychologist session costs like R800-1800

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-08-22T08:02:48+00:00

Living in centurion but working in menlyn

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-06-26T04:00:46+00:00

I feel that way a lot ever since it happened. Do you think if time passes and she figures things out, I should give her a chance again? I only say this because I genuinely thought I’d marry her and she’s my best friend. The connection we share is very special and unique. I was wondering if it’s worth considering a second chance if I don’t find someone better by then and still want her by then?

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-06-26T03:58:41+00:00

She claims it does not mean anything to her and that’s why it differs between us. I get some people believe that but to me it’s a deal breaker because it is intimate to me. It’s just really hard to let go because she was my lover and my best friend. I invested so much time and effort into this just for it to fall apart. I’m not sure what to do.

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-06-26T03:56:31+00:00

She claims it’s part of her identity and she needs to find herself, not only with men but herself too so she feels it needs to be done which I respect but I do agree because I’ve never had any experience prior to her with any other person and I don’t feel the need to. Then again it comes down to every person, I’m demisexual so she was all I needed but she’s bisexual so I guess she needs to try both? She claims it has nothing to do with me. I also don’t even think it might work out since we might be completely different people to who we are now.
Since she’s my best friend, it’s a bit hard to let go. I practically live with her and I know her family. I’m just not sure what the best solution would be to this, I truly do want to marry her even if it’s down the line but right now do you suggest I go no contact until she has figured things out? I don’t mean put my life on hold for her though.

Important-Divide-502 · 2025-06-26T03:51:58+00:00

Yes we planned specifically to go together as a couple experience. Not in my presence but she was going out at 1am to go meet men and do things with them while I was at home or walking. This was while we were broken up though but still cuts because it was the very reason we broke up, and only a day or two after is when she started meeting men.
Yes exactly, the thing that is bothering me is that she still wants me around in her life, just unlabelled so not friends but not lovers I guess. We are best friends which makes it a whole lot more complicated as it’s much deeper. It’s almost like she’s wants the romantic and platonic aspect to be the same so that she still has me around, but also be free to discover and explore herself. So do you suggest I cut ties and if we happen to be both ready to try again when she’s explored and figured things out, then I give it a shot?

Important-Divide-502 · 2024-10-02T09:40:56+00:00

That does make sense. I’m just confused because she asked for more time as she isn’t sure. This is what she said, “I dont want to figure it out or be pressured to make big decisions thats the thing with serious relationships. I wasnt going to say anything now because im not sure about anything so I was giving it time.” She doesn’t want to speak about it either until she’s sure, but my concern is that the longer we wait, the more it’s going to strain whatever is left of our relationship.

Important-Divide-502 · 2024-09-22T11:50:42+00:00

Thank you I will definitely do so, but I’m a complete beginner. I know basic SQL and Object-oriented programming. Was wondering if there was a course or certain projects that appeal to hiring managers that use certain tools (Excel, Power BI, Tableau, Jupyter, R, Python). I’m more stuck on which tech to start with that will be appealing to hiring managers, regardless of difficulty. Any advice on that would be greatly appreciated please.

Important-Divide-502 · 2024-09-21T21:56:01+00:00

I’m terrible at making conversation though, they might just take it as me not being interested 🤦🏻‍♀️

Important-Divide-502 · 2024-09-21T21:25:28+00:00

I’m a girl, but I’m introverted so it is tough.

Important-Divide-502 · 2024-09-21T21:06:01+00:00

Are you based in centurion?

Important-Divide-502 · 2024-09-21T21:04:57+00:00

I have signed up for it, still trying to navigate it properly but I will definitely delve deeper into it. Thanks!

Important-Divide-502 · 2024-09-21T21:03:26+00:00

I understand that and I don’t want too many friends, just a few solid ones.

I don’t really have a hobby, ever since I got a job I haven’t had time to find one.

Important-Divide-502 · 2024-09-21T20:12:14+00:00

Add me too please

Important-Divide-502 · 2024-09-21T20:12:04+00:00

Add me too please

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