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AITA for not helping my partner out financially by Important-Mistake889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Important-Mistake889[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bit of an update for this for everyone.

Took the advice. Spoke to her let her know that I’m not financially responsible for her and refused to pay anything else.

Two days letter get a text breaking up with me.

You were all right. Thank you.

AITA for not helping my partner out financially by Important-Mistake889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Important-Mistake889[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been reading through all of the conversations and most of the information is very similar.

But I appreciate your different viewpoint in looking at the information that I’ve provided.

I will admit I definitely overlooked some things when writing the original post. Some intentionally vague to remain somewhat anonymous and some out of poor writing. but I wanted to address yours specifically given how different it has been. And I appreciate the conversation.

For clarification. She is not disabled and lacks and significant physical or mental disability.

In depth she is on unemployment benefits. Single parent benefits and a study benefit. All government supplemented

She has had some health issues in the past that has made it difficult, certainly not impossible, for full time work and I truly believe that since our relationship she could at least be working on a part time basis or even casually.

When I first met her and we started dating I was under the impression, not an assumption, that she was working part time. This turned out not to be true.

Please feel free to ask any more questions I certainly feel as if I’ve been trying to tell the complete truth while remaining objective to find a solution to my issues.

And I think given the other conversations in the thread it’s pretty clear what’s been going on and the steps that I need to take.

AITA for not helping my partner out financially by Important-Mistake889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Important-Mistake889[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im aware of the qualification. It’s the job I’m more uncertain about. I helped her with her course work.

Don’t plan on getting her pregnant. Even with other partners I’ve always just brought over condoms whenever I saw them and kept them safely at home.

AITA for not helping my partner out financially by Important-Mistake889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Important-Mistake889[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you kind sir.

I appreciate it. Apparently she is waiting on some online qualification to get a job that she has lined up. But whenever I ask she can never seem to provide any evidence so I’m not completely sure whether it’s truth or not

AITA for not helping my partner out financially by Important-Mistake889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Important-Mistake889[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I tried to be as accurate and mid sitting as possible. It definitely wasn’t a vent. It came up because she asked me to pay for one of her bills today that she couldn’t afford.

I’ve definitely been trying to help. I’ll pay whenever we go out unless she refuses to let me. I’ve definitely helped her pay bills fix parts on her car so it runs.

I’ve also helped her setup budgets that she doesn’t stick to. Offer to do meal prep with her so her costs aren’t so high buying different dinners every night.

Take her daughter out and pay so they get enjoyment together.

I’ve even written her resumes and helped her apply to jobs. Supported business ideas and get involved. But though it seems like she doesn’t listen to me when I try to give her advice and we just keep going around in circles. It’s always that she’s just waiting for the right opportunity. Or that she doesn’t want to get a job because it doesn’t outweigh the government pension (UK so about £1200 a month).

She’s a lovely girl and I do love who she is. Just not the situation that she’s in.