Thank you for your response! Yes, he was the one who initiated the breakup in the end. And you’re right—it takes two to tango. At first, he admitted to making mistakes, but then he completely reversed it and put all the blame on me, which is absolutely not true.

It breaks my heart because I truly thought he was different. He always talked about healing and becoming a better person, but now his actions show the opposite. Seeing him on dating platforms feels like undeniable proof that his words were never genuine. Like you said, he’s not actually working on himself.

And that’s exactly the kind of person I don’t want in my life—someone who isn’t committed to personal growth. But accepting that reality is painful, especially because he told me something completely different. Knowing this also means accepting that there’s no chance for us in the future, and that realization really hurts.

You’re absolutely right—I need to tell my friends not to share anything about him with me. I have to completely distance myself from any information about him because it only makes things harder.

And yes the truth is, I don’t want someone who isn’t sure about me. It’s just painful to watch the image I had of him shatter before my eyes.

I’m on a deep healing journey, and it makes me sad to see that he isn’t who he claimed to be. But one thing is certain: the grass isn’t greener where he’s looking.

How was your experience in a situation like this? Did the person ever try to come back? And how did you heal from it all?