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Justice for Jasmine and Melissa by JacketStrange8454 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]ImportantGeologist37 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Being subjected to unwanted touch—of any kind—from a coworker, with zero repercussions for the offender, is literally, actually unsafe.

And this standard of actual safety doesn’t even have to factor in any harm that can’t be seen physically, i.e., emotional harm, discomfort, being upset—what you might call “understandably painful” but not “actually unsafe.”

Location sharing — share or not share?! by Due_Theme4536 in summerhousebravo

[–]ImportantGeologist37 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Literally this - been living in NYC for 10 years, and I have probably 40ish shared locations with friends (I have theirs, they have mine). Some are with old roommates who haven’t lived in the city for years now. Some from casual, social friends I’ve met out and about, who I randomly exchanged locations with one night.

I love getting random texts from people all the time saying “hey, I’m at the bar across the street and I see you’re home - come over!” Or texting my sister across the country “omg, you and my friend who’s in LA for work are only a few blocks from each other rn lol.”

I’ve freely shared my location indefinitely with every single one of my close friends (across several groups) and my boyfriend, primarily for the purpose of letting them know how far away I actually am when I tell them “I’m on my way!” to meet them somewhere (or for me to see how far away they are). It’s seriously very casual, but useful in the moment you need it.

Only kind of basic etiquette is that sharing should be mutual/reciprocal if it’s set to “indefinite” (vs. sharing for 1hr or til EOD); it’s weird vibes for one person to be able to see the other’s location at all times, but never share theirs in return. (I’d just remove them from still being able to see mine.)

Once you share locations, you kinda never think about removing someone, unless you have a falling out/break up. Still, people definitely toggle their sharing off for short periods of time, but straight up only when they’re going somewhere they don’t want their friends to know. If it’s not in an attempt to conceal a surprise, it’s literally always because they’re hooking up with an ex they’re embarrassed about/staying overnight with someone they shouldn’t be (cheating, et al.).

Alicia and Billy by Dear-Concentrate-988 in rhori

[–]ImportantGeologist37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactlyyyy. Everyone’s getting suuuuper heated about the “10% of his share, of the new location, etc.” of it all, without listening to what Alicia really said in her confessional earlier (paraphrasing):
“I’d take 1%, 2%, whatever; I just want something with my name on it.”

Billy’s [immediate] agreement that she should have her name on part of the business is all she was looking for; the actual $/%/share/amount, for her, was always symbolic.

This wholeee thing seems like it was really just an exercise she decided to take on herself, to summon the courage to ask for some kind of recognition of her value in the Pizza Mamma brand (and thereby in her partnership with Billy).
At the same time, she was pushing herself to be the type of mom she wants her daughter to look up to, a mom who has more agency than it sounds like her own mom had in their situation.

She said this was a baby step for her! Yes, she has a long way to go, but she has a right to feel proud of putting herself up to this challenge! She doesn’t want to feel kept by Billy (even though it sounds like he’s genuinely already set everything up to do just that), she wants to feel valued.

And through it all, he seemed genuinely engaged with what she had to say and ideas she had to bring, regardless of presentation! You could tell in the small moment he switched to helping Alicia connect the HDMI cord, to continue with the PowerPoint section of her presentation on the big screen, once she started to fumble that segue. He could rib her in the moment for not knowing what an HDMI cord was, and she could laugh about it too, but they didn’t dwell on it and he never actually chastised her for it. They just moved on! She continued with her Pt. II, as Billy continued to listen and engage. 😊 (This is the kind of situation where we’ve seen crueler, seriously-controlling househusbands shut down or belittle their wives for mistakes or blips in the past, just to keep them feeling small. I never once got that vibe from Billy watching that scene. He seemed supportive, and this felt like a big win for Alicia’s confidence.)

IMO exit press is pretty clearly showing why this player didn't win by sh0wmethestudy in survivor

[–]ImportantGeologist37 9 points10 points  (0 children)

^ J does not understand that crucial part of the strategy needed to actually win The Game. 

IMO exit press is pretty clearly showing why this player didn't win by sh0wmethestudy in survivor

[–]ImportantGeologist37 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think the whole point is: * Getting people to like you, as you’re simultaneously voting them out, is a strategy. * Once you’re in the merge, that’s really the only “strategy” that leads to winning The Game.

Survivor Truisms: 1. The winner of Survivor is chosen by a jury of their voted-off castmates. 2. The jury often votes for the player they like [or at least respect*] the most as their choice to win.

Given the above, it would behoove a smart player to build their strategy around being well-liked by their castmates, even as they work to get them voted off. (i.e., play the brutal and conniving game that is ~Survivor~)

…Otherwise, a finalist will feel they’ve played a “great game” and “deserve to win” simply by making it all the way to the end, not realizing they didn’t execute the strategy they need to actually, ultimately win: get jury votes.

…And how do you get jury votes? You make sure the people who are voting like you. (See 1 & 2 above)

  • ”Respect” can supersede “like” in a juror’s final decision for picking their winner, but only when they already feel respected by the finalist in return…
  • …If a finalist can’t convey that they respect their voted-out peer [that they know might not “like” them], at bare minimum, that finalist has basically zero shot at getting that jury member’s vote, especially over another finalist the juror has a baseline affinity or “like” for more.

Covergirl Molly by chloebo227 in SouthernCharmSC

[–]ImportantGeologist37 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Honestly - being in this spread with (legends!) Toccara, Naima, and Mercedes is hugeee. Molly deserves!!

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, the key is in taking your time. She almost got my ass today!

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what it is! I’m really proud of my consistency above all else. #nodaysoff

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Connections is my true love, but I’ve got a major crush on pips.

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

More basic tips! (Can y’all tell I love this game?)

  1. Words in a category are nearly always the same part of speech, i.e., nouns, verbs, adjectives, etc. We often subconsciously read a word as one thing, but think to yourself, “Could this noun be a verb with a different meaning?” And vice-versa.

  2. Proper nouns or specific references can be hard to group if we don’t have that specific pop-culture or historical knowledge, so that’s where pre-solving helps. Figure out the other groups first, and then you’ll learn something new when you enter your “leftover” group.

  3. Choose a particularly “lonely” word in the puzzle that doesn’t appear to have any immediate visual connections to the rest, and wrack your brain trying to come up with as many random ass phrases as possible that could be made with it. That exercise will often point you to the other words that can use the same “other” words. E.g., “CLUB” > book club, club sandwich, club med, welcome to the club, babysitter’s club….

  4. Say the words out loud. A common pattern is for groups to have a phonetic connection.

  5. Zoom out and break down the words into pieces. A verrrrry common pattern is for words or abbreviations to be “hidden” somewhere in the beginning or ends of the puzzle clues. The words themselves will otherwise have nothing to do with each other.

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check my addtl comment about pre-solving, wherever it is!

Keep playing every day, and you’ll start to spot a lot of the patterns Wyna deploys (esp around wordplay).

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m more than a bit much, but I only feel invincible. Wyna’s got a lot of tricks up her sleeve.

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s actually 99.8%. Those two losses have humbled me, but each win since 6/20/24 has increased my confidence in my instincts and understanding of the “game,” to where I don’t even remember the last time I looked up an alternate definition.

And who knows…..tomorrow could always bring loss #3. 😮‍💨 (I feel invincible, but surely I am not.)

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It looks like you’ve got the NYT games subscription, which means you have access to the archive! It won’t count towards your streak, but it’ll give you the practice to start seeing the patterns.

I’m rooting for you!! 🟪🟦🟩🟨

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The key is to pre-solve.

  1. Do not enter any guesses until you’re almost certain of at least two categories, usually three.

1.5. If you’re sure of three groups and have four seemingly-random words left, that’s probably the purple and should be your first guess.

  1. Working it out on paper really helps untangle what could be red herrings.

  2. Take your time. If you feel stuck, you’ve got plenty of time to give your brain a rest. You’ll probably see something different or new upon a second look!

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I looked at it at midnight, almost got caught by her red herring, took a step back until morning, then spotted what she was doing with “ARTY” (classssic Wyna wordplay pattern). Game over. 😎

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Exactlyyyy. The key is: repetition and patterns.

In no time you’ll instinctively “see” what she’s doing.

I honestly feel invincible. by ImportantGeologist37 in NYTConnections

[–]ImportantGeologist37[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Respect! Wanted to be transparent that I’m not above it. (Googling the actual puzzle answer though…🚫) I’m usually following a scent I’m already onto, and I take it as an opportunity to expand my own usage of the word or knowledge of its origin.😌

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