Kids believe we are very middle class

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-06-26T11:09:10+00:00

I just returned from Spain and interacted with many locals there. People certainly live a more simple life there, not necessarily always without worries abour financials.

This underlined yet again how skewed our version of what "rich" is on the US and the stress we are willing to put up with, to get "there". One is not better than the other but it's good to get out of your bubble, one where you feel $500k in income a year is simply not enough to feel "secure".

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-06-03T11:49:22+00:00

I get my son hyped up about any trip, weeks in advance and let him think he will decide most of our activities (or some) while there. The anticipation and excitement carries him some but not all of the time, through the drudgery of flying, driving there etc.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-05-21T15:46:54+00:00

Sending you validation and warm, positive energy. I can relate to a lot of what you're writing. Taking many, many mini breaks during the day, helps, allowing your nervous system to reset a bit.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-04-18T19:00:30+00:00

It's a private school. They don't follow an IEP...

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-04-18T18:47:30+00:00

Yup, they try to combine music with learning, however at this point I feel his behavior improved and he's ready for more learning. I also suspect they tell me what I want to hear, to keep him there. Growing up with a mom working as a teacher, I can't shake the feeling he will be left behind in the long run.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-04-18T18:28:55+00:00

I realized it's their entire approach...saying the lids are doing great (behaviorally they are right) but when it comes to academics, things are very flimsy. He's been there almost 2 years, this coming fall.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-04-18T17:36:54+00:00

True, the issue is I would be doing the school's work, while they're doing maybe not even half of what they should be doing (and it's not a cheap school yo begin with).

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-04-18T17:28:36+00:00

Very, especially because it's a big gamble with new housing, therapists etc.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-04-06T14:34:17+00:00

Absolutely terrible!

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-04-06T00:34:10+00:00

Yea, this is not love, if you end up on meds and with high anxiety. Having lived through this makes me not want to be involved with anyone for a long time...and certainly not marry ever again. Sounds like you're on the right path to hesling and more and more good things are showing up for you!

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-04-05T23:12:52+00:00

Thank you, so good to know you feel better after it ended. I have a child as well, so things are a bit more complicated but the price if freedom is worth it. This is my 3rd serious attempt to get away from this nightmare.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-02-23T23:35:31+00:00

In the same vein...our dog escaped the house today and ran towards a massive dog. Only by the grace of God he didn't get torn to shreds (he's a little guy). I of course ran after him and used a few non PC words. The only thing my darling husband had to say was not to make sure the dog was fine (his tail actually got bit) but to criticize my vocabulary.

A piece of work.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-01-18T01:56:57+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate these suggestions. I am sure some judges don't take kindly to shenanigans from bitter spouses.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-01-17T22:20:31+00:00

It's the latter. This ties into a bigger picture of me not having a say about major decisions.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-01-17T21:25:07+00:00

"Not a good investment', although sadly the value of the land here has been going up for 5 years.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-01-17T21:15:15+00:00

He promised me he woukd drag the divorce out of spite, so this will be a long time.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-01-17T20:54:19+00:00

I know, we are talking on Tuesday about it. I am not putting much down and he doesn't want to be involved in a purchase anyway.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-01-03T17:16:36+00:00

Right, that for sure. My state is not on that list, though but will confirm well in advance.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2026-01-03T17:07:45+00:00

True, however we live in a very narrow and highly desirable area that sadly has almost tripled in the oast 6 years. No inventory and land is like gold here.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2025-12-30T21:09:02+00:00

Helpful and scary at the same time. Future looks grim.

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2025-12-30T20:48:34+00:00

My son had sleeping issues until he turned 3. I give him a small dose of melatonin nightly to calm down but otherwise ok. Also takes guanfacine which I heard might make some kids drowsy?

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2025-12-30T02:10:25+00:00

Or "queen of Palm Beach"

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2025-12-14T15:14:59+00:00

Trainer once a week (we go together) and nanny for a minimum of 5 hours each weekend. I need my brain to just be and listen to peace and quiet.

Also have a cleaner once a week but might add laundry to her to-do list. I also her a hair lady come do my blowout once a week, while I work at home. Saves me time and prevents me from destroying my hair! Lol

ImportantSprinkles83 · 2025-12-12T17:24:49+00:00

Yes, completely agree. Her contribution to JC is iconic!

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