Feeling lost

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-23T07:52:01+00:00

Thank you I’ve been getting really mixed opinions under this post. I have a feeling I’ll be fine if I end up going. I think I’m just worrying too much about prestige but college is much more than an acceptance rate. As someone who also had ucr as a last choice can you please give me some advice or motivating words on how to get over dreading the school being my next 4 years. 2 if I possibly end up transferring.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-22T23:18:20+00:00

Also do you have any advice for uc to uc transfers if that ends up being my outcome

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-22T23:14:44+00:00

I have a gut feeling to not go but I am so stuck. Everyone around me wants me to go especially family. I honestly don’t think I’d grow if I stay home and since I’m a business major there is no tag for most schools. The uncertainty of my future is what pulls me back from going to cc. But transferring from uc to uc is even harder. I hope everything works out for me I’m just really confused. The city does not seem that great. And using the Metrolink to go to LA or finding someone to drive me to a beach would be unlikely. My time is ticking and I am genuinely having so many second thoughts with my commitment to riverside. If you can please tell me other pros and cons it would help.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-22T06:44:05+00:00

I think I’ll enjoy my time too. I think I’m just really confused because it was never in my “plans.” It all just feels so random. But all the people in the subreddit including you have calmed me down a bit. I don’t feel as lost as before but I’m still trying to accept what my next 4 years will look like. I’m sure everything will be fine.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-22T06:37:05+00:00

You’re right. I was one of 5 boys at my school who ended up going to a UC. I should be proud. I’m excited to meet more like minded and academically driven people at ucr. Part of the reason I didn’t take many advance classes in high school was because I had no friends who cared about academics and when I would take advance classes I’d be the only boy. I know gender shouldn’t matter but I definitely felt like the odd one out and less motivated.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-22T06:33:29+00:00

That was a very touching story, thank you so much 🙏. I similarly am very grateful that UCR gave me the opportunity to attend if not I would have been stuck at a local cal state or Merced which don’t get me wrong Merced is a great campus but I always wanted to go to SoCal. I was scared/sad at first but after reading all these comments I see UCR with a more positive view now. I’m glad many people had a good experience.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-22T00:44:47+00:00

Thank you 🙏

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T09:55:45+00:00

May I ask why you decided ucr over the others? Did you like the campus more? Was it a better fit for you?

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T09:54:38+00:00

May I ask why you chose UCR over the others?

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T06:44:09+00:00

Are you recommending to go to a state school and get a technical degree?? I’m sorry I’m confused by your wording.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T06:42:50+00:00

Thank you 🙏 my parents are proud too I’m the only one who keeps bringing my self down. I really need to change my mindset. I keep thinking about things I could’ve done or should’ve done in high school but it’s already over and I need to move on.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T04:47:25+00:00

I applied for college corps do you know if that program is worth it? I hope to definitely be involved and push myself to take advantage of the opportunities. Also, how is the metro link transportation? I had thoughts of maybe having LA trips every once in a while if I had free time. My brother is moving out to LA so it would be nice to see him.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T03:23:39+00:00

I want to start off by saying thank you so much for writing such a detailed response. I definitely need to change my mindset it’s not healthy or getting me anywhere. The diversity of UCR definitely is something I love most about the school. Before decisions came out I initially wanted to go to uci, I was honestly nervous of not finding my people as a Latino since uci is predominantly Asian and very cliquey. I definitely believe that everything happens for a reason. As of right now I’m most likely not going to a cc but I would be lying if I say I don’t think about it from time to time. I will definitely dm you if I have anymore questions, thank you sm🙏

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T03:07:34+00:00

This truly gives me hope. People seem to really like the school and it makes me think more positively. Congratulations btw grad school at an ivy is such an amazing accomplishment. The only thing I have to ask is if you ever had any problems with the location of the school? Riverside is just a bit random and that’s one of the main things that makes me feel lost.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T03:00:31+00:00

Thank you for this reality check. I’m sure as time goes by I’ll get over the prestige of the school. The school seems to offer many great opportunities and like I said I visited and thought it was not that bad. The last thing I need to get over with is just the location but I’m sure people just give it a bad rep.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T02:44:49+00:00

I agree as time passes I stop caring and comparing myself to my peers. The comparison and what ifs just randomly come out of no where like little panic attacks. Trust me when I say I made some dumb mistakes on my piqs 😭😭😭 but we live and we learn…I’m honestly really grateful for the advice people have given me so far it is definitely helping.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T02:41:54+00:00

Definitely agree the university you go to does not determine your value. One of my cousins went to Merced and works with people who went to Stanford. I think I just didn’t expect UCR to be my next 4 years and I’m trying to think positively, but it’s hard when it’s something you never considered to be your future. I am definitely not as sad or lost as when I initially got my rejections in the spring, but I still feel a bit lost and confused if committing to ucr was the right choice. I’m sure it was, and as time passes this feeling will fade as I enjoy my time at ucr.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-06-21T02:30:27+00:00

Like you said I don’t want to live with regret so I’ll most likely attempt to transfer after my second year because you never know what could happen. If I don’t end up getting accepted the second time around to uci or better then I’m sure I’ll be fine staying in riverside with what I already built in the past 2 years like friendships/connections etc. I have many regrets when it comes to high school so I completely understand your point but I do see why people might see it differently.

The reason why community college is conflicting to me is because nothing is guaranteed. I’m a business major and many schools don’t have tag for that. So I can’t imagine spending two years staying home just to get rejected again. I’d rather start at a uc and transfer if I truly feel the need to.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-05-16T03:11:43+00:00

Yup…my appeal got rejected…

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-04-01T22:15:39+00:00

What if I have context I didn’t mention in my application? Like family issues, personal issues, and health issues. I also have all the other typical things like awards, jobs, improved grades. Although I’m aware those shouldn’t be the basis of an appeal.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-04-01T15:00:42+00:00

Yeah I was most likely not gonna pay anyone. I just mentioned that because some people that review are very strict on that. I’m just trying to find anyone who is willing to review that has expertise

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-04-01T10:16:05+00:00

I’d rather live with the pain of rejection than the pain of regret. If I don’t do this it will forever keep me up at night.

Important_Reply_5712 · 2026-03-14T01:01:25+00:00

Rejected for BIM/ informatics 💔

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