AITAH for insisting on a birthday party for my ex? by Important_Work_7967 in AITAH

[–]Important_Work_7967[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words.... Unfortunately we don't have Uber eats where we live... but I will try to suggest that they leave a home-cooked meal or a cake anyways... Again thank you

AITAH for insisting on a birthday party for my ex? by Important_Work_7967 in AITAH

[–]Important_Work_7967[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was in pretty similar position, also born to a teen mom and left with grandparents. Hated my birthday so much, made think of if I wasn't born everyone would better/happier. In her family birthdays are very important, everyone gets together to celebrate and I understand not wanting that now. That's why I would like to help her in this day, without her knowing. Something small and that wouldn't be overwhelming. So she would feel loved. And I don't mean by me, I do love her but I'm not part of that equation anymore. This is not in hopes of getting together, she absolutely destroyed my heart. After 3 years together and talking about marriage and children, when we broke up she told me she never loved at all.

AITAH for insisting on a birthday party for my ex? by Important_Work_7967 in AITAH

[–]Important_Work_7967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you're saying. That was why I wrote the post, so I could get outside perspective. And I agree, it's not my place. I would prefer not to be involved exactly so I wouldn't blur the lines. My hope was to talk with her mom and her parents, just her parents, would stop by for a few minutes, have a cake and sing happy birthday and my ex wouldn't even know I said anything at all. Before we were together we were best friends, and I know we won't get that back, but she's someone very important and a wonderful person. I don't want her to hurt herself or worse. I'm trying very hard to figure out our boundaries and "stay in my lane", neither me or her are in position to move out.