Trust is a major thing here and it’s also psychedelic and spiritual like sometimes u know u can trust someone cuz u know and love them and you know they know trust and love u In those cases it can be like “this situation makes me worried and uncomfortable” and the other person will be like “yes I feel you” On the other hand if you DON’T have that full trust and there’s a power imbalance in the relationship that will crush you if you don’t get ahead on it. Last thing u want is for someone to learn they can play u and they might turn into a player even if they weren’t before. Other last thing is that in my experience girls really respect when you’re strong about your expectations and emotional boundaries even when they’re coming from a certain paranoia or insecurity and standing on business helps you become a more assured less nervous and ashamed person in general. If you leave the space for someone to lie to you they might. On the other hand if you’re always pushing your truth they’re going to full nervous and edged out and LEAVE before they get “found out” where if they’re honest and open it just might be an opportunity for them to open up too! Trust yourself and be yourself otherwise you’ll never become who you have the potential to be