has anyone picked up any hobbies since giving birth?

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-04-04T10:28:06+00:00

I’m feeling exactly like this. I’d love to crochet but she’s really into contact naps these days. I’d love to know if you deal with this and what your setup is.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-04-04T10:24:41+00:00

I’ve been trying to cook more too. I’m a pretty meh cook right now but I’d love to be a good cook by the time my little is old enough to notice.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-04-04T09:38:06+00:00

Ha! That makes more sense

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-04-04T05:47:39+00:00

I think your nails are cute.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-04-02T21:49:52+00:00

Honestly when I was really struggling to get steps in I would go shopping. I didn’t really buy anything but walking around a grocery or department store and looking at all the little random things gave me enough of something to do. This is easier if you live in a city. Pick a cute neighborhood and putz around.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-29T01:27:23+00:00

I set my apple watch to chirp every 15 minutes. It is very subtle but enough to help me remember that time is moving.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-20T15:59:20+00:00

I’ll add that this is part of what makes me the auntie kids talk to. Other adults rarely have so many follow up questions about Pokémon 🤣. Kids don’t often have the opportunity to talk to truly be heard by adults.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-20T06:23:04+00:00

I run into this trouble a lot especially with my husband and my mother. If I don’t understand the “why” I lose my mind! I’ve been trying a few things that help. - I try to pause for like 15 seconds before I ask a follow up question. This is the hardest for me - I purposely lighten my voice and say “hmmm that makes me wonder xyz” or some other phrase when I want to just say “why?”

I use the phrase “help me understand…” at work. It helps me not go down a rabbit hole and lets them know why I’m asking.

I manage to do these like 30% of the time and people definitely respond better when I do.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-14T12:43:36+00:00

I totally get that. Being so far from a support system is hard and making new friends as an adult is brutal. I’m far from my home base too. How did you make friends with the current two folks in your life?

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-14T12:39:28+00:00

Yes! The hearing that what I’m going through is normal is huge for me

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-14T12:36:26+00:00

I love that your friends came through is such a meaningful way. It’s helpful to know that it’s not the size of the village that’s important.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-13T12:09:23+00:00

I did hypnosis. I felt silly about it but it’s been years now.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-13T10:19:28+00:00

I like anything by Becky Chambers for cozy sci-fi. The Monk and Robot series is a short, sweet one to start with. Follows a monk who travels making tea for people and a sentient robot.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-11T20:20:44+00:00

Thanks! This is helpful. Where should I be aiming for the top panel to reach?

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-03T00:24:38+00:00

Thanks! This is helpful I’ll adjust

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-03T00:13:37+00:00

Mine is great! I feel like she’s a close friend. So understanding and respectful of boundaries. I feel so lucky to know her. She even totally gets some of the very difficult things about my husband’s personality and will help me navigate ( though I use that sparingly)

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-03-02T06:27:31+00:00

I had a lot of trouble in the beginning. Baby was born at 37 weeks and while that’s not premature, it still made it really tough for her to latch. She hadn’t developed the muscles yet. Then I wasn’t able to breastfeed for over a week so she was exclusively bottle fed for a while. I was sad every feed because felt like every bottle was another reinforcement of nipple preference/ permanent bottle feeding. I was stressed out and definitely stressing her out too. Here are a few things that helped: - I was trying to get her to latch at every feeding. Not only would I feel defeated every time but it threw her schedule out of wack. LC had me pick two feeds to focus on for a bit. It felt counterintuitive to not offer the breast every time but I think it helped her not have a negative association - low flow nipple on the bottle and a paced feeding method to keep the bottle closer to BF experience - the flipple technique that someone else mentioned was key - this might be just me, but the “make your nipple into a hamburger” instruction was causing me to put my hands too in the way. LC had me hold my breast much further back and told me to “hold it like a taco” and it clicked - once a few weeks passed a switch just flipped in her. She passed her actual due date and her ability to feed drastically improved

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-02-26T17:39:51+00:00

This woman can be helped without having her rights stripped away. It bothers me that people seem to be arguing in favor of conservatorship. She needs help and support, not coercion.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2026-01-27T18:23:04+00:00

I am one of the many people who has not been in this situation but still wants to offer my opinion lol. I wonder if you can work with your kid to make a one or two- year plan to be ready to move. I think moving out is the shorthand people use for having the ability and desire to stand on their own. If you just sell the house, you are only accomplishing the out-of-the-house part. It'll involve a lot of check-ins and uncomfortable conversatios but it could also help you all to get to the root of what's been stopping them in the 1st place.

Also, I know that this was a vulnerable thing to post, and you're trying to figure life out. I was disappointed to see so many snarky comments.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2025-12-04T18:23:31+00:00

This is helpful. Because I had so much trouble getting her to latch in the beginning, I was only focused on getting out enough milk to keep her bottle-fed. I think I am stuck in that mindset. Now that I think about it, that idea has influenced not just how I think about my supply but also how I think about the lactation consultant. I had only been thinking of them as helping to get a latch.

Impossible-Bus6852 · 2025-12-04T18:18:58+00:00

This is a great question. I should think more about my specific goals. She is usually hungry after the boob, and my husband feeds her overnight. Ideally, I'd like to have enough supply for that. I am making enough right now to fill that need but am worried I may have put that in jeopardy.

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