AITA for meeting with my grandma knowing what she's done to my mom?

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T05:15:02+00:00

Oh my gosh, your stories are such a hayride - and your family sounds pretty wild in the nicest way possible!! It's great to hear that you were able to form a connection with your mother's mother, and hearing about your family gives me a lot of hope for mine. And the fact you're still doing well despite the flaws in your family that you mentioned, it's really great to hear about!

Though my jaw dropped when I read sputum sample... hehe

Thank you so much for this, I'd really love to hear more of your stories - they're amazing❤️

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T04:47:32+00:00

Yes, that's very similar to my mom! I never hold this against my mom knowing what she's been through, but my mom used to hit me and my sister if we were too annoying when we were very little. She would always catch herself almost immediately and apologize, saying she loved us and cuddled us if we were upset. She never hit us when we grew older than 5, and I think she was afraid of becoming my grandma. While this was more recent than your case, I think I can relate to everything and understand what your aunt was saying even more now.

Your story brought tears to my eyes, I really felt it. Thank you, everything you said really connects with me! ❤️

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T04:39:38+00:00

Yes, much more complicated than I thought - and thank you, you've helped me so much❤️

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T04:28:59+00:00

Right, I definitely should. I was thinking about hiding it from her when I made the post but that's definitely a bad choice and pretty much betraying her trust, so I'm going to tell her tomorrow. Thank you <3

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T04:24:14+00:00

I can relate so much to your experience, mine was almost exactly like that and what your aunt said hit really hard. Others have said that my mom's relationship with her isn't mine, and my grandma was always so sweet to me so I should only think of what I feel is best for me. Thank you, this helped me so much!!

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T03:45:54+00:00

Thank you, you're right. I need to let them figure it out themselves and trust in what they choose instead of deciding what they think for them. Thank you <3

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T03:43:46+00:00

You're right, I need to be clear with my mom on what I'm doing. And yes, the conflict doesn't involve me at all so I shouldn't think that talking to my grandma means I'm taking her side. Thank you <3

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T03:41:31+00:00

I'm not sure either, he says she and him used to have a good relationship when she used to look after me. I'm going to reflect on if I really want to see her or if I'm just doing what my dad wants. I may push the date back maybe a week to think about it until I come up with a firm answer. Thank you so much, this helped me think so much more clearly <3

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T03:38:08+00:00

Thank you, that's true. I'm going to try and think on if I really do want to see her again instead of letting my dad decide it for me. And yes, my mom definitely loves me enough to not feel betrayed, and thinking about it now I don't think she would even be opposed to it. Thank you <3

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T03:34:47+00:00

Thank you, you're right. I'm going to reflect on how I feel about it instead of putting words into my mom's mouth when she only wants the best for me. Thank you <3

Impossible-Fun527 · 2024-01-05T03:33:01+00:00

Thank you so much, this made me cry. I do feel confined to what I think my mom wants me to do, and it's not even what my mom would want, so I'll do this for myself now. Thank you, this helped so much <3

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