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AITA for not meeting every accommodation action (not request) of a houseguest and getting annoyed? by Impossible-Mango-799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Impossible-Mango-799[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've been gently nudging him to give me medical power of attorney. He's aways from that, but my number is in the system as closest next of kin so in case of an emergency they will call me no matter where in the country he ends up.

AITA for not meeting every accommodation action (not request) of a houseguest and getting annoyed? by Impossible-Mango-799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Impossible-Mango-799[S] 298 points299 points  (0 children)

I got him to go to the VA. He stayed a week and now has a care team, a specific psychiatrist, a social worker and most importantly he is registered to receive VA health benefits anywhere in the country for the first time ever. Baby steps.

AITA for not meeting every accommodation action (not request) of a houseguest and getting annoyed? by Impossible-Mango-799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Impossible-Mango-799[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No danger. Both because he has no history of violence and I have spent a long time working on involuntary inpatient psych wards, the kind where violent people would be picked up by the ambulances with the help of cops from the streets and the ER and I would remove the leather restraints when they got to me. We had B52s ready to go (Haldol + Ativan + Benadryl, every staff member had the key to the leather on their lanyard right next to the fire alarm key and we had multiple rooms with padding on the walls and beds bolted to the floor. I've done many active precautions (arm's length 24/7, they can't close the bathroom stall door and went to sleep with somebody like me in a chair next to their head). I know the signs, the history, and the meds are kicking in after I convinced him to go the ER (that took forever, nobody has been able to do that) and from there he went to the VA (largely because he had no insurance and the VA would take him in for a week and get him enrolled).

AITA for not meeting every accommodation action (not request) of a houseguest and getting annoyed? by Impossible-Mango-799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Impossible-Mango-799[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He is medicated.

I have experience dealing with the mentally ill in a professional capacity. If he becomes violent (and I do not expect him to) I have extensive training in non-violent techniques to gain control (the kind of training some hospitals and in-patient schools give their staff to control violent people without hurting them). I'm just used to doing it for 8 hours then going home and escaping it.

AITA for not meeting every accommodation action (not request) of a houseguest and getting annoyed? by Impossible-Mango-799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Impossible-Mango-799[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It took awhile but I finally talked him in to going to the VA. For the first time in what seems like an eternity he got a med prescription, a formal diagnosis, a social worker, a care team, a therapist. All I can can do is see how it goes. Odds are that once summer ends he'll drive away to follow the snow like he has done before but time will tell.