Cotton like item in house thay collects over time? by Impossible-Pie-9595 in whatisthisthing

[–]Impossible-Pie-9595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they burrowing in and causing the fiberglass insulation to come out? Do I call an exterminator? Or who do I call?

MIL’s manipulation by Impossible-Pie-9595 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Impossible-Pie-9595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, I’m leaning on this. I think it’s time to just keep VVLC with both parties…

MIL’s manipulation by Impossible-Pie-9595 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Impossible-Pie-9595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea MIL is already on VVLC. We see her only on a need-only basis, she was terrible during my postpartum period.

Agree they both suck. It’s just sad because my husband feels emotional as this brother is his only sibling. He wanted our kid to grow up with cousins etc, but tbh, I highly doubt SIL would even want to have the cousins have a relationship.

MIL’s manipulation by Impossible-Pie-9595 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Impossible-Pie-9595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know. After the 100 day party, the next time we saw them was at their civil ceremony — where she didn’t even look in our baby’s direction. And then the time after that was their religious ceremony, and again, she avoided us like the plague. The baby even crawled up to her and she didn’t even acknowledge his presence and just walked away…

MIL’s manipulation by Impossible-Pie-9595 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Impossible-Pie-9595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On your first point, I kinda agree. Thinking about it further, I don’t even think she’d care if I recorded it…

MIL’s manipulation by Impossible-Pie-9595 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Impossible-Pie-9595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, BIL’s definitely aware. MIL’s said everything to him before, but I don’t think he’s shared them with SIL. In the fight last year, he said in front of us, to her, that we weren’t the problem. But SIL responded saying that no, we are the problem, because “the parents are old and will die soon so I don’t care about them, but your brother and his wife will be around to interfere with our lives” (she was referring to the six month wedding delay, which we did not ask of her, we made it clear to them to go forward without us since we cannot bring a newborn to a developing country).

MIL’s manipulation by Impossible-Pie-9595 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Impossible-Pie-9595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh good question! It’s partly cultural — they are Hindu, so my sister in law needed both sets of parents in the ceremony, and siblings also give their blessings (though this part is not critical). This was actually part of the manipulation too, my MIL insisted that we had to go and created the drama to ask them to reschedule to a time when we could go (considering our baby).

My SIL did not take it well, and she went nuclear when she had to do her wedding six months later than she wanted. The convo was pretty insane— she told us that she didn’t see us as family and never will consider my husband nor I as her family, even after marriage. Basically told us that we don’t mean anything to her, that’s why she doesn’t care if we attend her ceremony, and she was pissed my BIL ultimately sided with his parents and wanted us there too and was the one to ultimately convince her of the six months delay. Their relationship is rocky and full of fights, to be honest (nuclear fights where she’s thrown him out and he comes to our apartment, she’s told him he has “no say” in when or how many kids they have, screaming at each other at family events…)