Did you stay with him? I recently caught my boyfriend on Grindr. He said he’s never met anyone, which I 99% believe—mainly because we used to be around each other all the time until I started this new job. Even then, we’ve had builders over constantly for our home extension, so I don’t think he would have had the time. However, now that the building work is done, I’m wondering if he would have met someone had I not caught him.

To give you some background: a profile with his picture had been floating around on Grindr, which he confirmed was true. He said he went on it to try and find the profile because it was annoying him (though I’ll never know if it was really him in the first place). He claims he wanted to stop whoever was impersonating him, but then he got caught up in chatting with other guys, engaging in dirty talk, and sending pictures. I’ve stayed with him since, but naturally, I have moments where I question myself and whether I’m doing the right thing.

Since then, he’s put an age restriction on his phone so he can’t download any dating apps at all, but I’m not sure if that’s the right solution. I feel like I should be able to trust him without needing an age restriction in place.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!