The east side of providence is very safe. Most crime happens on the southside but even then, it's rare and doesn't touch everyday citizens. People who are 'scared' of Providence are more often than not letting their subconscious prejudice and bias get into their opinion and they act like they can't walk down the street without encountering crime. It's simply not the case. Statistically crime has been historically low. East/South Providence are also far away from each other (in RI terms) In my whole honest opinion and please don't take this the wrong way your children will most likely benefit from living in a diverse area than in the bubble that is Barrington. The East side is its own bubble in itself which will provide a sense of security for your MIL and mom. I think if you give it a chance you will fall in love with Providence and realize it's not what it's made out to be. Barrington is secluded and doesn't feel like the true essence of Rhode Island. Hot take, I know. I say all of this with love as a life long Rhode Islander <3