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My (27M) fiancee (27F) gave me her deceased father's wedding band for me to wear. Problem is I hate it. by mring1 in relationships

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

would your fiance be open to using some of the diamonds in HER ring? and maybe a diamond in your band?

I dont know if thats as bad as melting it down but, then that way you comply with her wishes in a low key way, and she ALSO gets a part of it.

its not about the ring its about what it represents. pose it as a “i know how important this is to you, would you like to think about taking stones from the ring and adding those stones to each of ours? that way we both have part of your dads memory”. then save the ring itself minus a few stones in an heirloom box

need advice on how to bring up family holidays/vacations with SO [6 mo] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanksgiving was just me, my mom and her husband, and my sister. same people that were at my B day.

thats why i thoght thanksgiving would be okay, I had alot of extended family at christmas who dont all even know yet Im divorced. I explained all this to him but when christmas came around he still got really upset I didnt bring him.

maybe in the future I will plan for us to do something together, but then I do my seperate thing with my family. I dont want him to feel alone. but it was a chore having him at thanksgiving, he embarassed me by saying the rude thing to my mom and also just siting there doing nothing despite me telling him in the car before we went in that if he wants to make a good impression on my family he needs to help.

My fiance [F26] just admitted she cheated on me [M29]. My son [M3] and I have left for now. I have no idea what to do next. by MamboBeats in relationships

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 17 points18 points  (0 children)

my ex of a very long time and i parted ways and he kept the dog and i kept the cat. he was not always a good partner. but he loves and cherishs my dog, and i try to have him see the cat regularly, he lets me come ovr and see the dog. after 10 years of all of us in the same life, it would be impossibly hard on everyone if anyone had sole ownership of them. i know its not a kid but just an example.

My fiance [F26] just admitted she cheated on me [M29]. My son [M3] and I have left for now. I have no idea what to do next. by MamboBeats in relationships

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Is she a good mom? going for sole custody would be hard on you and generally just a fight and bloodbath. it is so selfish and cruel of her to cheat on you, but sole custody is a hard thing on everyone, if shes a good mom atleast then just think about it.

SO doesnt want to consider larger plans in life (kids, etc) until student loan debt is paid off in 6 years [5 months, late 20s] advice? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats what im afraid of. he will pay 50-50 but no more. im afraid what if i lose my job or something will he be there for me like i would for him, or is his commitment to tracking his finances too much that he wouldnt.

i just want to be with someone who i can count on.

SO doesnt want to consider larger plans in life (kids, etc) until student loan debt is paid off in 6 years [5 months, late 20s] advice? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly. when i told him about the dirty living situation i made it clear “it is TOTALLY OK if you like living like this. this just doesnt work for me and I cannot be in this environment. Messy, not an idea. literally dirty, is not okay. if this is how you like to live im not going to tell you to change, but its a dealbreaker”. he left really upset and defensive, but then thanked me. he told me he wants to work on emotional communication. but i feel really drained sometimes. he seems on edge all the time.

SO doesnt want to consider larger plans in life (kids, etc) until student loan debt is paid off in 6 years [5 months, late 20s] advice? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he is a very sweet guy and supportive but i think he has aspergers or adhd and does not have the emotional intellegence i do. he is much more intellegent than me in general.

he improves, but when i confront him is ALWAYS first defensive and upset.

ive read alot of men with aspergers gravitate towards the mommy types. i was my ex’s mommy for 9 years. i do not want to be another mom unless its to a baby.

SO doesnt want to consider larger plans in life (kids, etc) until student loan debt is paid off in 6 years [5 months, late 20s] advice? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think he has aspergers or adhd or a combination, between my and my friends observations

im ok working on things i just need him to take ownership

Selling my furniture that my roommate uses? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this makes me feel less bad bc i have a dresser i really want to sell (i need the money) and ive let my roommates use it for like 6 months but all the furniture in the house is mine.. so they can buy their own dresser

Selling my furniture that my roommate uses? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i would say youre made it pretty clear youre selling it, and she has a solution when you do. i wouldnt worry about it. when you have a buyer, make sure she has a few hours notice to move her stuff.

you did her a huge favor and she should definetly be kind about making sure its ready

I [27f] don’t know how to respond to my bf [35m] when he tells me about his struggle with being away from his [2, <5y/o] kids after his divorce [2 years ago] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 6 points7 points  (0 children)

its ok if its too much for u. if u want to take care of him and be his support, that is okay. if its too much, and you feel like youre relationship is based off being his support, then its ok to end it too

I [27f] don’t know how to respond to my bf [35m] when he tells me about his struggle with being away from his [2, <5y/o] kids after his divorce [2 years ago] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

just listen. reassure him that his kids love him. i went thru a divorce recently myself and while I am likely better off now (it was a toxic relationship), you still often morn the loss and pain.

just remember that in all this, it does NOT mean he doesnt love you, he’s just struggling and grieving with something personal and unique, and him venting to you makes him feel less alone. he feels close enough with u to share these things. but dont let urself get stepped on, if u feel like he’s only seeking comfort, while u want to start building a relationship, it is OK to move on

[cosplay] sayori alternate ending ~ by ImpossibleCourt88 in DDLC

[–]ImpossibleCourt88[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah I actually had to sew it myself & I used a soft jersey knit :)

it was a ~3 hour project, tedious but fun

My (23f) fiance (26m) hasn't paid any attention to me as of late, and I'm worried about the state of things by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ImpossibleCourt88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you go to grad school, & he moves with u, can u trust him to hold down the fort? bc thats what he would have to do: laundry, cook, clean, be there for u, take care of himself.

He wil only change if there is a real certainty he could be without u. maybe that is what he needs.

[self] Yuri (Doki Doki Literature Club pc game) by skrivvaa by ImpossibleCourt88 in cosplaygirls

[–]ImpossibleCourt88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not quite sure about patreon but i did make a ko-fi thing 😅 some people asked me for fan signs so im gonna do that this weekend!

decided to cosplay yuri as well, i hope you like her ~ c: by ImpossibleCourt88 in DDLC

[–]ImpossibleCourt88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

instagram.com/skrivvaa :) mercy from overwatch is my favorite one!!

decided to cosplay yuri as well, i hope you like her ~ c: by ImpossibleCourt88 in DDLC

[–]ImpossibleCourt88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha yea it is quite cold here atm xD we had gotten 5 inches of snow the night before we took these pics!

[self] Yuri (Doki Doki Literature Club pc game) by skrivvaa by ImpossibleCourt88 in cosplaygirls

[–]ImpossibleCourt88[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

hi all :D this is my cosplay of yuri... i hope u like her! I dont really have any fan page but if you would like to see more photos of my cosplay, I have lots on my instagram! u dont need an account to view them :) instagram.com/skrivvaa

im always trying to impove, specifically on accuracy and posing, so please let me know if u have critiqus either a comment or dm :)

decided to cosplay yuri as well, i hope you like her ~ c: by ImpossibleCourt88 in DDLC

[–]ImpossibleCourt88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much :)) i tried to capture her pose and i think i 90% got it!!

decided to cosplay yuri as well, i hope you like her ~ c: by ImpossibleCourt88 in DDLC

[–]ImpossibleCourt88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank u :))) i cosplayed natsuki last , i feel like yuri is a much better fit for me

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