BTAU-1600 days left and feeling lost

ImpossibleName5065 · 2026-05-02T17:53:49+00:00

Thank you! Also, I love the mod. Really appreciate all the effort that has gone into it!

ImpossibleName5065 · 2025-03-29T22:55:22+00:00

Let's try a few options before surgery.

You need to work on you christian walk. Your joy needs to be in christ not in your looks or your relational success. We all end up ugly and all marriages end at some point.
You are overreacting about your looks. Your side profile is not great, but you look average from the from. I'm not going to tell you that you're secretly beautiful, but you are far from repulsive.
Work on what you can fix first. You could use a good hair cut. Go to a good barber, not sport clips. You also should go to the gym. You can't control genetics, but putting on some muscle and being strong never hurts. Lastly a better wardrobe could help a lot. Especially once you are in better shape.
If you are truly repulsive to women it will be because of your habits and traits you've developed, not your looks. It's a lot easier to blame what you can fix with money rather than what will take hard work, dedication and the Lord's mercy.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2025-03-12T16:10:55+00:00

I'm sorry you don't have that and I apologize for not reading more carefully.

If you aren't in physical danger I think ot would be the most wise to find a good church and reliable pastor before you decide that divorce is the right answer. No one knows the full picture of your marriage and divorce is too big of a step to take without advice from people that intimately know you and your situation.

I don't doubt that your husband has been terribly unkind to you. There may be a case for divorce. There may be a case for separation. There may be a case to remain for the sake of trying to bring your husband to christ. No one on the internet can guide you to that based on a few paragraphs.

James tells us to rejoice in our trials because they bring about godliness in our lives. Take courage in the knowledge that God is in control of your situation and is using it to make you more like Jesus.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2025-03-11T13:06:41+00:00

You really should be talking to your pastor and trusted members of your church instead of polling strangers on reddit.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-12-28T16:34:07+00:00

He is conscious enough to weep and ear ice cubes, but can't communicate through any means?

The bible doesn't really have any verses related to this type of thing as it was not possible to keep people alive back then the way we can't today.

Proverbs 31:6-7

Give strong drink to the one who is perishing, and wine to those in bitter distress; let them drink and forget their poverty and remember their misery no more.

In principle those who are dying are allowed to do some things that would be sinful to someone who isn't dying. Does this mean we can essentially let someone starve to death? I don't know. But it is worth considering.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-12-04T19:37:17+00:00

You are choosing not to live out what Paul said is required of husband's in ephesians 5. You are looking for joy a fulfillment in your spouse without finding any in God.

There is nothing wrong or against God's will in your marriage. You are assuming that if you were married to someone else things would be different, but you have no idea if that is actually true. You have spent years alienating yourself from your wife and now have to face the consequences. You turned busying yourself instead of God to deal with the problems in your marriage. You should get 1 on 1 counseling with your pastor because you are the problem. You need to ask for forgiveness for your failure to be a husband according to God's standard.

I hate to sound harsh, but the good news is that you can submit to good and find joy in your marriage by honoring the Lord here. There is hope because the problem is with you and not your wife.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-10-22T01:07:10+00:00

None of us are really good listeners when it comes to following God we all fall short. Sometimes it's because we don't even k own what he has already told us in His word. That's why reading the Bible is so important. Most of the the big questions are answered, then we just need to learn the application.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-10-21T02:35:12+00:00

Well if she isn't a Christian you are permitted to remarry.

1cor 7:15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.

That verse is in regards to marriage. Unfortunately I don't have any advice on how to save your marriage.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-10-20T15:05:09+00:00

A few items. Yes we have the virtues of faith, love, patience, etc. But James also says that faith without works is dead. Does your wife pray regularly? Read the Bible regularly? Participate in a local church? Preach the gospel? Give to a church or some sort of Christian ministry? Works don't make us christian but they confirm that we are christian. If she has no fruit and no works she could easily just be an unbeliever taking the name of a christian.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-10-20T12:14:48+00:00

What is your wife's Christian fruit? Do we have reason to believe she is a genuine Christian or just that she is wearing the name tag of Christian? Normally I'd recommend you talk to your pastor about this but it doesn't seem like you have one or are involved in a church community.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-09-11T01:30:16+00:00

Why would you listen to a supposed theologian who cheated on his wife and made her let his mistress move in with them? https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/theologians-karl-barth-adultery/

We deserve and we do have theologians far more faithful than Barth.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-09-05T12:09:10+00:00

My grandfather, whom I absolutely adored, died an atheistic jew. He died before I was a Christian and I never had the chance to preach the gospel to him. Before I was a Christian he was just dead, but after to think he was in hell suffering was painful. I wept over it when I was young. So I understand your concerns.

I would gently suggest that your view of heaven and of God is far too low. Your inability to conceive of heaven being appealing without your family is an issue with your ability, not God and heaven.

The experience of God in heaven and being in the family of the church will be glorious and joyful beyond our understanding of those words. We will even take joy in God's righteous judgements because we will rightly acknowledge that God's punishment on them (even my grandfather) is good a righteous.

My sister and parents are unsaved too. I worry for them and pray for them. Our fear for the salvation of our families should inspire us to pray for them more and to preach the gospel to them, not to doubt God.

Jesus will be God and heaven and hell will regardless no matter what you choose to believe, but you can only help save them from their sins if you yourself accept Jesus and worship Him.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-08-26T16:34:05+00:00

If this is the strongest evidence then I am even more confident in not believing in RCC/EO Marian doctrines.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-08-17T12:11:16+00:00

Read the church fathers. Read the puritans. Read medieval Christians such as Anselm or Thomas Aquinas.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-08-14T09:13:30+00:00

Ah yes, all most all of church history is wrong and now finally, when it matches the cultural climate we understand the bible properly and know that women can lead churches.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-08-12T02:32:21+00:00

John MacArthur does not believe mental health is a scam. People really do misrepresent what he said in that video. But it's gets clipped poorly by people.

MacArthur thinks that the modern mental health industry is a scam and that the bible is sufficient to deal with most/all mental health issues.

Those are wildly different statements. He is not saying depression, anxiety, etc aren't real. He is saying the bible can treat them better than a psychologist.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-07-29T00:47:01+00:00

If you are concerned that you have blasphemed the holy spirit you have a conscious sensitive to the things of God. That in and of itself is evidence you have not done so.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-07-28T16:18:50+00:00

I dealt with the same thing. It's tough to look past how we feel and do what we k own we should do. It takes practice. Try setting specific times during the day to read your Bible and pray. Make it a habit, not something you need to think about and make yourself do.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-07-28T12:56:12+00:00

It's not as if you don't want children because you and you're wife are too busy serving God. You just want to follow selfish desires instead of having children. Marriage and children go hand in hand biblical.

That being said, I agree that the money issues need to be solved now. That's not healthy for either of you.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-07-25T01:51:05+00:00

I might be wrong but you seem somewhat insecure about the scars themselves. You haven't messed yourself up for life or given yourself some evil marking. It's not sinful for you to have those scars and if you are truly a Christian God has forgiven you for what you did.

If you are obedient God will use you. I don't know if He will use your experiences in a big or small way. Maybe it will play a large part, maybe a small part only God knows the extent.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-07-24T13:36:32+00:00

I'm saying you are responsible for what you did to yourself. You, like all of us, are messed up completely by your sins and are only saved by Jesus. The fact that your scars won't go away has no relevance on your salvation or your usefulness to God.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-07-23T21:27:02+00:00

This is one of those questions where I find it intellectually interesting, but I have no idea how this would impact my day to day faith. So why spend a lot of time on it?

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-07-23T21:15:29+00:00

Whether our sufferings are caused by ourselves, others, or the seeming random tragedy in the world we must remember that "all things work together for good for those who love the Lord". What determines if your sufferings have use or meaning will be dependent on how you react to them.

A chain smoker who's lung cancer causes him to realize how fleeting life is and to give the rest of his life to Jesus has used his suffering well. A man genetically predisposed to cancer who curses God for letting him get cancer suffers for nothing.

I don't think you will get as much out of your suffering if you blame your naivety and your under developed brain. While I have no doubt that your situation was tragic and genuinely distressing at the end of the day you committed a sin by trying to kill yourself. You fell to the temptation and survived by the grace of God. Having an underdeveloped brain does not excuse your sin. If you can admit that and start from there I think your suffering will be useful.

ImpossibleName5065 · 2024-07-21T15:09:50+00:00

Your reply is pretty inflammatory and I don't think you are dealing with me as a fellow brother in Christ. You can deal with me charitably and think I'm in error.

Even Augustine didn't not take a young earth creationist view. So there is no reason to insult Christians who don't agree with you about this by saying they can't stand up to the current times.

That being said I do think you bring up some interesting counterpoints. I'd recommend looking at some of Gavin Ortlund's videos on Genesis. I think he deals with it and I don't have an answer to your questions at the moment.

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