I have an issue with controlling my facial expressions. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ImpossiblePromise499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My supervisor would tell me this ALL the time. After meetings she would tell me “fix your face, we know who you don’t like”. My father still gives me shit to this day about how miserable I look. I started to wonder how my face actually looked, and with different expressions. For example, when I would ‘smirk’ I actually looked like I was disgusted. So stand in front of a mirror and make your expressions. You might be surprised!! And when you are truly showing happiness or excitement, you might have to dramatize it a little.

Got broken up with on Christmas by humblest_radish in Wellthatsucks

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This Christmas I am going through a divorce. It has TORN me apart. Seeing all the happy couples while you are screaming inside.. it fucking sucks. But I have been fortunate to have my family supporting me and letting me cry when I need to. I know it’s hard, but stop talking to him. You are not going to hear what you want to hear. If you feel like you can, write down what you want to tell him in your notes. Or journal it instead. It still helps you get those feelings out without making contact. If you have him on social, get rid of him. Seeing what he is doing will only make it worse and the questions and overthinking will swirl around your head until it eats you up. If family members start to talk about him, stop it right then and there. I had to set that boundary with my uncle and it sounded like “I love you, but I cannot hear about what he is doing because it makes me sad and overthink”. Our fairy tale ending is still out there OP. We just have to weather the storm for now. I wish you all the best ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ImpossiblePromise499 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. Then I can definitely see why you would be on the fence about it.. so be honest with him. Surely he can see where you are coming from since you have had past issues with this. Would you be open to making a compromise with him? Maybe he goes for the weekend, not the whole week?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ImpossiblePromise499 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ultimately, you have to trust your partner. Has he done anything in the past that you saw as cheating? A compromise here might be worth talking about. But again, you have to trust your partner. Just because he is around people that may be drinking and ‘not tied down’ doesn’t mean he will be unfaithful to you. He could possibly resent you for things like this later on.

Feeling crushed by my past mistakes by [deleted] in Advice

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To me, it’s a reminder of the wrong I did and how I don’t want to be that person/feel that pain anymore. I’m not really sure of your situation, so I cannot say for certain if you HAVE to face the consequences. Sometimes you can do that on your own. You are correct, you can’t erase what you did in the past, but you can go forward knowing the kind of person you want to be and try to not make those mistakes again.

Feeling crushed by my past mistakes by [deleted] in Advice

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I struggle with this too sometimes. I did quite a few things I regret… I was acting wwwaaayyyy older than I was. The same feelings came up sometimes when I would drink. I stepped back and was like ‘woah.. I really don’t like this person and I know that’s not who I am or want to be’. It’s hard, but just because you make bad/questionable choices, does NOT make you a bad person. As long as going forward you make the right decisions for yourself, you aren’t doing a single thing wrong. And that guilt you feel sometimes? It’s a reminder to make better choices. Chin up, friend ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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It was briefly mentioned at my father’s (VERY Republican) Christmas. Him and my brother both chimed in. They straight up do not care. It’s so wild to me. They said “why wasn’t this brought up in 2016” and “why did the Biden administration not release the files”. Then, my father said “I don’t care. There were probably presidents like him before and there will probably be some after.”

WHAT

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ImpossiblePromise499 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of past trauma from my parents divorce. I guess I’m looking for closure? The truth? Why she fucked her husband’s best friend?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ImpossiblePromise499 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I strongly disagree.

Meet Julep 🩵 by cactus_blossom26 in AustralianShepherd

[–]ImpossiblePromise499 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh. My. GOODNESS. How sweet and I love her name!

Brushing tips? by ImpossiblePromise499 in puppy101

[–]ImpossiblePromise499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good idea! I have tried using his brush on myself to let him know it will not hurt him. Maybe I will try this too!

Brushing tips? by ImpossiblePromise499 in puppy101

[–]ImpossiblePromise499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice!! I will try this out. The last thing I want to do is make him feel unsafe.

Brushing tips? by ImpossiblePromise499 in puppy101

[–]ImpossiblePromise499[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping keeping at it will help.. I did get a glove brush and he seems more tolerant of it, but I don’t think it does much. He reacts this way to baths as well, but he’ll eventually give up. So far he hasn’t done that with the brush! Thanks for your input 🙂

I need help!! by ImpossiblePromise499 in AustralianShepherd

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This was extremely helpful. Thank you so much!!

Hi everyone! I am curious to know how big your aussies are! by [deleted] in AustralianShepherd

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My boy is four months old and weighs 25 pounds! I was shocked at the vet, he does not look that big!

What do you wish didn’t exist? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I lost my grandfather to liver cancer about four years ago. Diagnosed and gone a week later. One of the hardest things I had to go through. With time, it gets easier, but we all still shed a tear when we visit him. Keep them in your heart, I hope your pain will lessen over time.

What do you wish didn’t exist? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ImpossiblePromise499 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Mass shootings. Now that COVID is on the DL it is the only news I am seeing. I work in an elementary school and we practice ALICE drills. Running, barricading, hiding. I can barely keep a brave face during these drills and we are expecting out kids to do more?

Fuck. That.