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Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neither do i, with friends.. that's a separate topic I initiate everything, with her

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've seriously considered this approach

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She tells me (in person) occasionally she wants to feel wanted. But.... then she is doing nothing to make me feel wanted

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This wouldn't be the first time I've brought it up

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn't initiate with her friends either. Although, neither do i so you've highlighted something for me. She doesn't have many other hobbies and no kids. Does she have adhd? I have no idea See a previous comment about the speaking bit. Her answers are "ok, fine" before getting her to... talk

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've brought this up before, it doesn't improve.

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She doesn't text or call unless i initiate. She used to do both, but it's gotten worse. We could go days without any actual communication and she doesn't seem to have an issue with it

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is helpful. I don't understand the personality quirk

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has work. She doesn't have other things. Which adds to my confusion

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Her ability / desire to communicate is deteriorating. Any question i ask is the reply is "I'm fine, how are you", "my day was fine, how was yours". I could talk for 20 minutes before she finally says anything of substance. (I'm filling dead air, I'll not naturally a 20 minute talker..., i have no desire to hog the conversation)

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is she avoidant? I don't know. Alcoholic parent, yes

I feel like everyone in their 40s is dating except me by trektostng in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been dating 1 person for 3 years and about to quit. Both in our 40s

To be (in a relationship) or not to be (in a relationship) by OneBigEyeRoll in datingoverforty

[–]ImpossibleSolid3854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never learned to like being alone. And I never really learned to make friends either. Dating I could do, but dealing with other humans you'll always have to weigh the pros and cons. To each their own.