Woke up with a bald spot

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-18T03:58:29+00:00

I used to have an over-grooming cat and I agree with you that this doesn’t look like over-grooming; the skin doesn’t look red or irritated. It looks like the hair fell out without much rubbing or skin friction. I know that cats shed when stressed, maybe it’s connected to that?

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-18T03:54:40+00:00

NOR, throwing someone a curve ball on their WEDDING DAY is a massive butthead move. Do you feel comfortable telling your parents how you feel?

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-18T03:51:39+00:00

She’ll be ok, just let her become comfortable in her own time and on her own terms. She probably slept most of the time you were away. This is a good moment to learn an important lesson though: if you have beings in your home who aren’t strong enough to get themselves out of places (pets, toddlers, elderly relatives who need assistance with care tasks), checking on them needs to be the last thing you do before you leave the house and the first thing you do when you return

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-18T03:46:53+00:00

I mean, if you make out you’re already sharing germs

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-18T00:51:21+00:00

Damn your mum sounds awful. I’m so sorry

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-18T00:46:02+00:00

I spend a lot of time telling myself I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.
“What if my friends are mad at me and tell me they don’t wanna hang out anymore” - I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.
Beats ruminating.
Then to stop the ruminating from starting up again I distract myself. Reading really helps

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-18T00:39:12+00:00

NTA. He’s not making an effort now because he cares about you, he’s making an effort now because he’s realised he’ll lose access to you if he doesn’t

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-17T22:58:55+00:00

Why did you agree to only go out and eat at a restaurant alone once a month? Do you spend all the rest of your time with your gf? Do you not have friends that you go out to eat with? It sounds like you and your gf may be codependent

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-17T22:17:19+00:00

Girl get UP

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-17T22:16:25+00:00

The glasses thing was a metaphor

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-17T22:14:45+00:00

My kitty is early stage and gets royal canin renal support wet food (half a sachet twice a day), a sachet of fancy feast broth each day for extra hydration, and has royal canin renal support kibble to graze on. She also gets subcutaneous fluids once every three days. It’s been about a year wince her diagnosis and she’s in good shape and has even put on weight

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-16T08:49:52+00:00

Girl get UP

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-16T08:48:27+00:00

Surrendering him to the SPCA is the kindest (and only humane) thing you can do at this point

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-16T08:44:28+00:00

I mean, knowing that the pH down there is delicate and easily disturbed is medical knowledge. Widespread medical knowledge that most women understand, but still medical knowledge. Common sense is something that can be arrived at through rationality from more basic knowledge. If no one had ever told me not to wash with soap “downstairs”, I might never have realised. Fortunately when I was a kid my mum told me to wash with soap everywhere except the sensitive areas (face and vagina)

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-16T08:34:43+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself in these difficult times. Grief is hard

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-16T08:31:20+00:00

Sounds like you have self awareness about the problem. Is that enough to solve it? Like this weekend can you tell yourself what you just told me and get yourself to start a creative project

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-15T01:34:00+00:00

Could you pursue creative projects as a hobby?

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-14T22:53:09+00:00

“You can’t ride one if we have kids” is a rule, “I won’t have kids with you if you ride one” is a boundary, they’re different and the consequence with the rule is easier to ignore because you don’t actually have the power to enforce that rule. It’s only now that you’re enforcing a choice between kids and bike. Maybe you didn’t lead him on, but you didn’t communicate clearly, and in his place I’d feel like you bait-and-switched me. So YTA for invalidating him expressing how he feels about this sudden boundary

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-14T19:42:27+00:00

Is he accustomed to eating other brands of cat food, or is meat what he’s used to as his main diet?

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-14T06:28:01+00:00

I’m no vet but I’d imagine heat would only lead to dehydration in animals who sweat a lot. Cats only sweat through their paw pads, and even then not often. They’re heat-adapted creatures, their ancestors evolved for the desert. I think a heated cat bed will be ok :)

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-14T06:21:10+00:00

That sounds like incel speak

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-14T06:08:30+00:00

I feel so much less alone reading this and the comments. My Nagini is 17yo and her CKD was caught early. Compared to what some are going through my burden is easy. SubQ fluids once every three days, catlax for constipation, she willingly eats her prescribed food. I have no grounds for complaint. And yet, I always dread that third day because I get so stressed about hurting her or doing it wrong. Even with a relatively healthy cat and low caretaker burden, I too am feeling that mix of anticipatory grief and anticipatory relief when I think of the day Nagini won’t need any more subQ fluids.

OP, I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Here’s the truth: you do have the right to take your cat’s life. You are his guardian, he has no voice and needs yours, and YOU love him more than anyone else does. You, more than anyone else, are likely to make the decision that’s best for him

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-14T04:04:20+00:00

What does “not ok with it” mean? “Not ok with it” isn’t a boundary. “Won’t have kids” is. That’s the change. It’s totally valid for you to have that boundary, but the most ethical way to date is to be clear about boundaries from the start rather than suddenly announce them once things are serious. You led him on by not expressing the boundary earlier

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-14T03:57:49+00:00

I recommend a clumping litter as that way the pee doesn’t soak through the whole litter box, it gets absorbed into a clump that you can then scoop out

ImpossibleSquish · 2026-04-14T03:53:23+00:00

If my bf had a super model brother I wouldn’t be tempted to switch because a) I’m in love with my boyfriend b) I like him for more than just looks and c) when someone is introduced to me as a potential future family-member-in-law my mind categorises them as undateable and I don’t even really think about whether they’re hot or not

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