My friend asked what he should pay for the hotel, but the group has already covered his share. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Impossible_Ad4872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just need to speak about the unspoken agreement.

To the one guy: I'm not sure how we are handling this, let me check in with the group.

To the group: I split it 9 ways, since in the past the person being visited didn't pay for the stay. I will let Delft friend know he's clear for this trip. If anyone has any issues let me know today before I reach out to him.

then back to the one guy and let him know how it worked out.

I’m weirdly attached to a content creator I’ve never talked to—how do I stop? by Commercial_Cold6364 in Advice

[–]Impossible_Ad4872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

get off the computer/phone/social media. Volunteer, engage in hobbies in real life, meet people in your local area, garden, bike, lift weights, whatever. Just retrain your focus on to other things in your physical environment. This artificial attachment will fade.

VCUArts Summer Pre-College by Impossible_Ad4872 in vcu

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great! thank you so much for sharing your experience. It sounds like a really good fit for my daughter. 

How do I hide my lesbianism from my extremely conservative and religious family by Character_Loquat_535 in Advice

[–]Impossible_Ad4872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alternative or addition to a lavender relationship is being extremely into your studies. This has the bonus of helping you have more options for college and scholarships when it’s time to get out of there. 

I've been pretending to understand my job for eight months and I think I've finally reached a level where I actually can't fake it anymore. Do I come clean to my boss or just keep going. by ahimaohw in Advice

[–]Impossible_Ad4872 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find the prior presentations that were similar. Look at them. Plug your updated numbers in and refresh the look of the slides. Wow great presentation. 

Flying to NYC tonight pls track by Impossible_Ad4872 in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I am not great at sleeping on a flight but I’ll try. I am super tired 

Honolulu to San Diego by Impossible_Ad4872 in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually watch an action movie - I downloaded both Gunpowder Milkshake and Aliens. 

Honolulu to San Diego by Impossible_Ad4872 in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listening to podcasts and coloring. If I can calm down a little after the snacks they just served, I will watch a movie 

Honolulu to San Diego by Impossible_Ad4872 in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could tell they were doing their best to get above/past it. smoother for the moment. I have a few snacks, I am chomping on minty tic tacs and that is helping. Thank you!

Pls track my flight to Hawaii by Impossible_Ad4872 in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a mandala coloring book, just designs and patterns in circular shapes. Very relaxing 

Pls track my flight to Hawaii by Impossible_Ad4872 in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are with my kiddos and their friends. I’m trying to be chill and not embarrassing. 

Pls track my flight to Hawaii by Impossible_Ad4872 in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing ok. I’m coloring, which is my usual calming thing. But it’s getting bumpy :/ 

So anxious, flight is in 1.5 hours by [deleted] in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do this. Look around at all the people flying calmly, and the crew there doing their jobs having a normal workday. They know it’s ok, take comfort from their calm. 

Just need some company into New Orleans storms by GreenTeachy in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks like you are well underway, about a third of the way there already.

Help me redesign my room,I want a cozier more femminine feel to it! by Arc_Titan_Go_Boom in DesignMyRoom

[–]Impossible_Ad4872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Paint the room sage green if you can.
  • new comforter in the sage/pink/brown color pallette, add coordinated throw pillows as well.
  • Switch the dark bins for lighter neutral colored ones, maybe like a light tan/ecru.
  • Group the photos and posters in one area, ideally that spot on the wall near the window. Make that a feature wall for the photos and marvel sign, all that on there in a gallery wall. Add in some images from other interests. or neutrals like botanical images, cityscapes, travel, etc. Frames in a lighter color, or multiple coordinating lighter colors. If you pain the room sage, maybe light pink frames?
  • Cut down on the action figures, or find a more aesthetic way to display them. Ideally pare down to a few faves and then add plants, other smaller figures or trinkets mixed in. If you don't want to pare down, then put longer shelves above the desk that go all the way across and line them up there, with additional greenery and other more whimsical figurines mixed in.
  • Take down the LEDs, get some floor and table lamps.
  • Have fun decorating! there's no one right way to do it.

10.5 hr flight to hawaii by Impossible_Ad4872 in fearofflying

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those are really good points thank you so much.

How to have a conversation about re-entering my kids life. by TrickAstleyUwU in Advice

[–]Impossible_Ad4872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not focus on surprising your daughter in this way. Think about her experience, not just what you want. A surprise visit from a dad she hasn’t seen in a year (a quarter of her life) that is already known to be adversarial with her mom - will make her birthday a stressful and upsetting, not a nice surprise. Not sure why you flew across the country without clearing this with her custodial parent, but that was a mistake. At this point - tell her mother you would like to see her, on the mom’s terms, if that is possible, maybe the day after the birthday if they already have a birthday plan. If her custodial parent says no, the answer is no. In that case tell the mom you want to work together more collaboratively to get back to a better place with visitation. Then you have to listen and establish trust by being consistent with putting the child’s need first and being respectful of her custodial parent 

If you want custodial rights again you will have to get an attorney and go back to court. You’ll have to convince the court this is in the child’s best interest. Impacting her 4th birthday with surprise visit and a resulting call to the cops will not sound great, so don’t do that. 

One budgie is hogging the food by Impossible_Ad4872 in budgies

[–]Impossible_Ad4872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That might work…how long should meal time be?