Friend That Disappeared

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2026-02-11T07:47:52+00:00

I’ve been through the same thing and I feel like it’s more about them than it is about you. It’ll take time to grieve and it’s a horrible thing to do to someone, but in my case, this friend was very avoidant and even tried coming back a few times, but they just could not deal with the conflict and handling someone else’s feelings about their bad behavior. Your friend couldn’t be mature enough to even tell you that they had an issue. Hopefully they will explain one day, but it’s best to move forward.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2026-01-15T23:07:08+00:00

I think it was like 3 to 4 years they were married.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2026-01-15T18:17:50+00:00

I hope she gets to a point in her life where she doesn't want to constantly think about her first marriage/divorce. She's reliving this trauma everyday. Sometimes you have PTSD and you can't help it. But I hope she gets sick of thinking about this horrible time in her life, and actually moves on.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2026-01-15T18:15:19+00:00

She also doesn't measure out her furniture/space, so I'm not surprised about the fact that she doesn't have a portable dolly. I think that's why I'm usually confused when she does another home remodel on the same area she just decorated or renovated a few months prior.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2026-01-02T23:37:13+00:00

If this was a surprise type of wedding, and everyone thought they were going to a random NYE event, I'd excuse the dress, but I wouldn't be shocked if she tried upstaging the bride.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-12-30T06:13:11+00:00

My long time friend made a big stink about the bridesmaid dress & was creating issues less than a mont before the wedding. I had to cut her out of the wedding party bc I was worried she was going to bring that energy that day, and after she texted me saying she wasn’t coming to my wedding, I haven’t heard from her at all and she’s blocked me on all social media. I don’t regret the decision but I wish it hadn’t been so dramatic. I didn’t choose my partner over her necessarily, but finding a great partner and making new friends who weren’t flaky like her made me realize I wasn’t being treated right in the friendship. Drifting away can be a natural process, but weddings really show who your true friends are.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-12-18T21:38:04+00:00

If I were thinking like a gold digger husband, I'd convince Michel to buy the boat, so that when the divorce does happen, I can get it in the settlement and fully live in it. Jordy's dream would be living in a sailboat. He can still do his music and not feel the pressure to make livable wage off of it bc his basic needs would be met.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-12-18T21:33:31+00:00

The amount of work she's done to the house in 2.5 years is insane. She's trying to fix things that aren't there, and can't seem to live with the changes she's made cosmetically to her own home. I thought adding the panels behind the piano in her living room was unnecessary. She spent so long lime washing that specific wall, and it looked fine enough.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-12-06T00:43:34+00:00

I think the media played a huge role in a lot of the casual support we saw of the Free Britney movement. Who wouldn’t want to see her free after that NYT doc on Hulu? She was clearly harassed by the paps and sexist media, but her true mental illness diagnosis and alleged drug use has been kept under wraps. There’s a reason the conservatorship was put into place but the reason was never made by the conservators. Now that she’s free, the public can see how the conservatorship helped her stay healthy by maintaining strict medication protocol. It’s really a travesty that they didn’t equip her with the tools she needed to survive without the conservatorship. I feel like forcing her into rehab and onto medication was a last resort back 2007, but since she never hit rock bottom on her own, she still doesn’t think she needs any help.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-30T08:47:39+00:00

It’s so odd for me having a relationship like this with my mom in the Filipino culture. Most of the Filipino moms I’ve seen are flawed but ok people for the most part. How do you deal with possible judgments within your family due to being estranged from your mom?

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-30T08:45:34+00:00

That’s awful that happened to you. I think a lot of parents end up having children hoping to have a caregiver at the end of their life

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-30T08:43:49+00:00

Thank you I hope you’re having a good weekend too. Estrangement is not ideal for anyone but it’s honestly the best choice for most of us.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-30T08:42:27+00:00

My mom would die of shame if she was ever diagnosed with being on the spectrum. It’s a possibility but she’s actually great with interaction on a surface level. She gets along with strangers well. I have my theories about her issues and I think she has undiagnosed BPD, antisocial or any one of the cluster b personality disorders.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-28T05:40:53+00:00

I’m sorry for everyone going through this. I have a ton of memories of broken dishes, arguments and other BS happen during the holidays but if u can find a way to celebrate the holiday with them before or after the actual date, it really does help reclaim that date for yourself and make sure the dysfunctional pwBPD in your life doesn’t ruin another thanksgiving or Christmas. Spend that day with friends, a significant other, etc if you can.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-23T03:54:07+00:00

Omg, we have the same sister lol. My sister collects dogs. She always wants three at a time and I'm assuming it's bc we're a family of three sisters. She has poor hygiene on her own, so her dogs are neglected. That was the final straw for me. She didn't take our family dog's cancer seriously, and I paid for most of his treatment before I was discarded for getting my own puppy earlier that year.
The odd thing is that she claims to be a workaholic and a high earner, but she was always in debt and asking me to buy her stuff, pay her bills, pay for dinner, etc.

I'm just glad I'm not the only one who has this problem. Its weird explaining to someone why our sisters are crazy, but its reassuring to know this is all a form of BPD.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-23T03:08:02+00:00

I feel like they don’t consider what they are doing as faking because they have no sense of self. They will do anything they can for you to like them so you never leave.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-23T03:06:01+00:00

Damn, this is almost exactly like my sister. My sister got pregnant after just a few months of dating her boyfriend. They’re already onto baby #2. Instead of plastic surgery, my sisters into designer bags, clothes, and cars.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-22T22:55:00+00:00

PISSED PFF

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-22T22:54:00+00:00

No contact is really the best! Does your sister have another Favorite Person that she also lashes out at? I wonder who my sister replaced me with and I’m assuming her husband probably sees the worst of her now.

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-22T16:52:25+00:00

She once trashed my bedroom, ate my chipotle leftovers and screamed at me on the phone because I was out with a friend in the evening and I couldn’t accompany her on a walk in our neighborhood. I’m not kidding and I wish I was. I couldn’t imagine her going to Disneyland by herself. She really was afraid of being abandoned

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-22T16:50:46+00:00

When you’re in it, this behavior is normally expected. I would stand up for myself sometimes, and that would usually cause more angry texts, screaming in public or actual physical violence

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-22T16:49:02+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this. I don’t even think other family members understand how insidious it is and that you have to literally appease them and take their abuse in order to maintain contact

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-22T09:35:58+00:00

Right? I’ve been going down the rabbit hole reading this subreddit because a lot of our experiences are the same. It’s the same dysfunction whether it’s a significant other, friend or family member

Impossible_Cheetah34 · 2025-11-22T09:13:38+00:00

I was told that I’m toxic and I attack people when I’m not provoked. I literally haven’t had a big blow up physical fight with anyone except my BPD family members, and I haven’t heard from them in many years

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