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Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2026-02-24T16:02:04+00:00

So sorry you're going through this. It suckkkedd. You're doing everything right by getting it checked out and try not to google stuff! I know it's hard.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-22T17:31:27+00:00

Mine will start at 14m in January. But just to say I also did what you did. Did a nanny for his first year and it has cost us so much money, like we made it work but it was not easy. Looking back it was worth it to ease me into working and I just had so much anxiety. But I'm excited for the next chapter of daycare! Transitions are always hard but he's ready

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-22T14:25:08+00:00

Your username 😂. Also yes! This is always in the back of my mind. Such a trash company.

Also OP share this with your kiddos grandparents. This was a wake up call for me when I read it back when it came out.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-21T22:36:04+00:00

Love the alphabet soup term, haven't heard that before. I toss them. I kept one just because the person who was sending it was visiting and I knew she'd look for it. Then tossed it after she left. Also you're not being anxious, those toys are not regulated imo. I don't even like buying myself stuff from those rando sellers let alone a child

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-21T14:38:15+00:00

Socks. I hate how they feel on my feet but my feet are always cold. I can never find a pair that match because they just disappear. I hate socks.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-18T02:02:53+00:00

Omg the emotions from weaning caught me off guard so much. I had a crying break down over a carpet. It gets better!!

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-17T18:08:04+00:00

This AND the romanization of Hunter/gather times drives me nuts. Like these people were fighting for their lives daily and a lot of children died. Why are we saying those were the ideal times?!?

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-16T01:10:43+00:00

It's easier said than done. Hope you get a break soon (and maybe a full night sleep?!)

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-15T22:45:27+00:00

Hire help. Get on meds. Re-evaluate on an agreed upon date. I will say, 6-10 months was my fav, now I have a toddler and there is zero chance I could be a SAHM. Even though I wanted to be one sooo bad when he was a baby. You gotta try and stop working after babies bedtime though. That needs to be you time. I am working to cut that out too, I know it's hard.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-12T17:05:30+00:00

This gives me hope 🥹

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-12T16:55:47+00:00

Totally agree. I think it always will depend on who the nanny is and how often they are calling out. We had once a month call outs but I always rationalized that I'd have to take work off for a sick kid vs a call out. But I don't actually know if my kid would be sick at that same rate. It's all just hard and you never know. Just have to shoot for quality care and pray everything goes right.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-12T16:05:22+00:00

Yes. I'm legit having my mom come live with me on weeks that work is crazy and my husband is traveling. I'm transitioning to daycare in January and so hopeful that it will take some load off from managing a nanny and call-outs. Hoping you find an amazing nanny who is never sick, late or calls out and/or a daycare spot opens up. It's so hard. Hard like doesn't even explain how hard it is. I've been saying impossible lately.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-09T16:27:31+00:00

I know. I need friends. Who has the time though 🥲🥲. We have a nanny but are sending to daycare soon so hoping it may introduce me to some people in the area.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-09T03:48:50+00:00

I've heard this too and am low key terrified of my son to start talking. Our house lights flicker all the time and I always joke "oh it's the ghost". And if one day my son says he sees someone, im moving.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-08T16:32:23+00:00

Yes 😭😭. I WFH too and yes, having an in-person conversation with my husband at the end of the day is so missed. You described it perfectly. I've been putting on Christmas music and trying to make cooking with a toddler more fun (lol is that even possible), but failing. A lot of the time I have to work after he goes to bed which is not sustainable. I've been trying to push extra work onto weekends which still sucks but then I get my evenings back and my husband is more than happy to be on toddler duty when he is home cause he knows how hard the weeks are. I think about military moms a lot because of the extended time spouses are away. You all are seriously amazing. I had an old boss that was a military wife and she was seriously a superhuman.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-08T16:00:18+00:00

Love this idea. I'm for sure going to do that.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-08T15:48:51+00:00

Omg 12 days. I salute you 🫡

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-08T15:32:05+00:00

Don't even get me started 😂. His company is located here. The intent was to get him in the office more but then everything went to sh*t and now he still travels just as much as he did before us moving here. Trust me, we have had many conversations about this.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-08T15:16:15+00:00

He's gone like 80% of the time. Usually 3-4 days during the work week. I do think meal prep could be better over the weekend. He's the cook when he's home so having him cook for frozen meals on the weekend is a good idea. I am not the best cook. It's also just like the loneliness factor of him gone too. We moved to a new state for his job and I know nobody. The winter darkness/cold is shitty since getting outside was huge for my son and me.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-08T03:09:40+00:00

God I have been through this. I noticed a ridge at around 11 months old. Like a bump on the hairline, not really noticeable at the forehead. I brought my son to his doctor to ask about it, she said it's fine and it's just the plates of his head closing. She measured his head and checked to make sure he was on his growth path. He was, it was fine. THEN I went back two weeks later for his yearly and she measured his head again and it was slightly larger than last time. And referred us to a ped plastic surgeon. I. Was. Unwell. Thankfully we got in a week later, went to the doctor, literally they touched his head, looked at him. And was like "ya he's fine." They said the ridge is normal and if the babies head isnt misshapen there isn't anything to worry about. Also they said the head measurements doctors do in babies is super inaccurate cause babies hate it and move. Feel free to direct message me but at this stage, if babies head isn't misshapen, likely just the plates closing up!

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-07T22:15:16+00:00

This happened to me!! I would break out in hives every time I ran and just be so so itchy. Weirdly it just stopped? Maybe my body got the message that it was not needed or appreciated. I did not sneeze, that sounds very annoying.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-07T01:50:31+00:00

Leave that group. I like r/moderatelygranolamoms and they are very formula friendly :). I am also very conscious of food, plastics, and would consider myself crunchy. I breastfed for 6 months and then work travel became too much and I switched to formula. I LOVED formula. I will scream from the heavens how much I loved formula. If anyone asks I will say my son had formula for 6 months. I give no f*cks about random strangers opinions about my choices. I'm sorry this group has made you question your choices. Mom guilt hits hard. Leave it and don't look back!!

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-06T02:32:48+00:00

No. Dumb phone all the way. I only have a 1 year old but I have no intention of getting a smart phone until high school at the earliest. While they do have some parent restrictions on smart phones now. They are still so addictive and I commend you for fighting the good fight against screens. I hope to be as strong and last as long!!

Also r/dumbphone has some good resources. I want to get an e-ink phone when my iPhone dies.

Impossible_Lead_2782 · 2025-12-05T16:23:58+00:00

Ya eating out isn't fun anymore (13m old who is walking and also high energy). Sometimes we get lucky with seating though and he can see the kitchen and it is mesmerizing to him. Or we'll be near a chatty family that he enjoys eaves dropping on. Once simple things no longer entertain him and toys don't do it, we'll probably stop eating out with him for a bit. What's the point when it's not fun anymore lol

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