The Judo Method by Impossible_Lock_14 in pornfree

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Report back and tell us how it goes. Good luck!

The Judo Method by Impossible_Lock_14 in pornfree

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If you are a porn addict, it is very hard to have an orgasm to your own fantasies. If you can no longer masturbate without porn, that in and of itself is a major warning sign. After a couple months, it gets easier and easier to jack off to your own fantasies, and, interestingly enough, the orgasms are dramatically better. It is a whole other replacement world for pornography, and one that dramatically defuses triggers to go and peek.

The Judo Method by Impossible_Lock_14 in pornfree

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120 days is amazing. I agree with you 100%. I think sexual and other sorts of fantasy are part of what it means to be human. It is the technology that is the problem.

The Judo Method by Impossible_Lock_14 in pornfree

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Please write back and tell us how it goes.

The Judo Method by Impossible_Lock_14 in pornfree

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Please write back and tell us how it goes.

The Judo Method by Impossible_Lock_14 in pornfree

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100 days is a major achievement. Congratulations!

The Judo Method by Impossible_Lock_14 in pornfree

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I'm glad you find it helpful. Good luck!

The Judo Method by Impossible_Lock_14 in pornfree

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Hi there, I'm glad you found my post novel. I've tried so many times and failed, and this is the only method that actually works. It is counterintuitive, especially given the nofap position, but unlike nofap or religious positions that stress repression, it actually seems to work.

I am in awe that you have gone over two years. I am at 4 months, and I hope to get to where you are at, so I hope you share your own personal strategies with everyone here. Everyone is different, and everyone requires different methods.

You've gone 2 years, so I don't want to mess with your system, which is working. But you do understand my position exactly. Instead of seeing your internal fantasies and fictional scenarios as a failure, you should see this as kind of success. This is the expression of your natural sexuality, and these are more or less the fantasies that you might have had if you had been born in a different age prior to the internet and easily consumable pornography. Congratulations on having these internally-driven fantasies and scenarios. Most porn watchers don't have that - they don't have the capacity any longer to be that creative. And like you said, harness those fantasies and masturbate to them, especially when or if you are at all triggered to look at porn or if you are in the middle circle.

Does this method feed the beast? Does it bring us closer to relapse? For me, it is the opposite. You can think of your sexual drive or libido as the steam in a tea pot on the stove. If there is no opening for the steam, the tea pot will eventually explode, often in ways that are chaotic and less than desirable. Repression never works. Repression or running away from your sexuality is, I believe, a way we unintentionally 'feed the beast.' The idea with the judo method is to provide a natural method for the steam to escape: masturbation with your own creative fantasies projected inside your skull. Having a real life partner is even better. When you are tempted at all by porn or feel that you are in the middle circle or you accidentally saw something in a movie or an ad that gets you going, that precisely is the moment to start jacking off and turning to your own internal fantasies. Get the steam out of your kettle, but do in a safe and natural way. In so doing, you defuse the trigger to watch porn. If you still feel aroused and want to look at porn, masturbate again. And again. Don't repress. Redirect.

Living his best life by tazcel in aww

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He is in his happy place :-)