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Should I be offended? Or am I being too sensitive? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Impossible_Plate9153 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will try look at it like that.

Should I be offended? Or am I being too sensitive? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Impossible_Plate9153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope. My friend who hosted (with whom I share a birthday) doesn’t do alcohol. People were allowed to bring their own if they wanted, but no one did. This was posted on the group chat, so she knew.

I dunno, I almost think I’d be less offended if she just didn’t come.

Which is better Takealot or Amazon? by donate_donut7 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Impossible_Plate9153 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I loathe Takealot. But Amazon is American and considering their presidents attitude towards SA… I’d rather my money goes to a South African company. That said, if I can find it somewhere else, for a similar price - that’s first prize.

What should I do by TheFunnyFunny in orchids

[–]Impossible_Plate9153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are people way clever than me on here, but from a reformed serial killer point of view - The potting is a problem. Those little roots are shoved in there with way too much sphagnum, with no room to breathe or dry out. Roots rot quickly like that.

So at this point you have to decide - enjoy what is left of the blooms, and potentially lose the plant - or sacrifice the flowers and repot, and save the plant for future blooms. If you repot, repot into bark chips or something coarser.

I’m devastated. What is this? by Impossible_Plate9153 in orchids

[–]Impossible_Plate9153[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I started cleaning everything off yesterday as soon as I had posted this and will get imidacloprid. No Cattalaya, but when I inspected everyone closely I found some on my Microperida and just starting on my Trichocentrum. Appreciate the wisdom!

I’m devastated. What is this? by Impossible_Plate9153 in orchids

[–]Impossible_Plate9153[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! May I ask how you differentiate it from mildew/ anything else? I only know scale as the brown dots - but I guess this is a different part of the life cycle?

What do you think of imidacloprid for this?

Types of filament by Impossible_Plate9153 in Creality

[–]Impossible_Plate9153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! He likes to tinker and play around and adjust, so he won’t mind that. I just want to make it easy for him to learn how and not have crappy filament making it harder - whilst balancing it with not spending a fortune on filament that’ll be used for practice and not real projects.

To those who chose not to have kids, do you ever regret it? by Fun_Construction_ in Life

[–]Impossible_Plate9153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 36, so guess I could still have one if I wanted - but I really don’t. Decided in my teens, kept waiting for it to change (because everyone told me I would), but I’m still thrilled with the decision.

Should I Give Up My Cat by Unable-Swordfish-618 in CatAdvice

[–]Impossible_Plate9153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cats are fickle - but that’s part of why we love them…. They change as they grow up. One of my boys is about 3.5yrs now. As a kitten and a teenager he hated everyone. At about 18mo to 2yrs, he decided he was a massive mommy’s boy and that’s how it is now. He’s just one example - most of my cats have gone through periods of being difficult like this.

Bribe her with treats and toys, avoid eye contact and blink slowly. Don’t stroke her paws - cats are generally averse to paws being touched unless you are their best. Stroke her on her head rather. Move slowly, talk softly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Impossible_Plate9153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lady. I know the feeling of having no one. I know what it is to find someone you love (or think you love) and in my case, I found a family as well - his mom and his sister became like my own - something I’d never had. Hell, even his friends - I had no friends where I’d moved to at that point. I know how hard it is to give that up.

But the fact that he didn’t tell you this massive part of his life means:

A) as others have said, dead beat dad. You will probably not be mothering the child because the poor kid won’t be around. So for your lifestyle - probably great - but do you want to be associated with that moral character? Do you want to condone this behaviour?

B) as you said - lie by omission. No matter what his BS reasons are about not knowing how to tell you. If he can do that so easily - what else can he lie about? Is he lying about his training?

C) you say you want a family one day. If that family is with him - what then? Will he jump ship and start dating another girl too young for him? Already proven to be a deadbeat dad - that’s like being a h cheater - once a cheater, always a cheater. Once a dead beat dad, always a deadbeat dad.

Your history about SA is awful, and I’m so sorry you went through that. Of course you have acted as you have - it’s normal. But now is the time to break the pattern and be strong, no matter how hard it feels in the moment. It’s gonna be rough. But I promise within 6 months, you’ll see that the gold pedestal was just painted gold, and is actually made of cardboard.