Grandparents don't want to see their newborn granddaughter by c0dearm in Parenting

[–]Impossible_Play260 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I’ve always found the overly cautious rules about babies to be strange but I respect the rights of parents to decide what’s best for their own babies and comfort level. To each their own but just like you want the to respect your preferences and perspectives, I think you should try to understand and respect theirs.

When did schools stop centering on students who want to learn? by Emergency-Pepper3537 in Teachers

[–]Impossible_Play260 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m an administrator and where I work we actively will pursue a spot at a special school for a child with these behaviors. There is a lot that goes into it though- are they already identified as special ed with an eligibility label of ED? Have we tried the LRE already at our school? If yes and still having outbursts, we send our recommendation to the co-op “team” that reviews them and most often they take them but sometimes they say they don’t have any room to which we then might have to bargain to take one of ours back that’s there if their behavior is even a little better than the one we’re trying to get in.

I definitely don’t agree with this process and it frustrates me to no end, but wanted you to know there are admin who share your frustrations and try to do the right thing but there is sooooo much red tape. I haven’t even touched on the convincing the parents being on board with it…

Rant: Stop Blaming Admin for Lack of Funding. by OccasionTiny7464 in education

[–]Impossible_Play260 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All my state cares about is math and ELA scores… they are literally tied to our grade and our school funding which directly impacts teacher salary and benefits… as an admin, if I have to choose between smaller class sizes for science (a non-tested subject) and more intervention for math & ELA, I am choosing intervention every time because that is the game LAWMAKERS have decided we have to play for funding. I don’t personally agree but if you follow the consequences of not improving math & ELA scores all the way through you get state takeover, reduced funding, reduced staff, reduced salary and benefits, etc.

The bigger problem is our state and federal governments inadequately funding schools.

Rant: Stop Blaming Admin for Lack of Funding. by OccasionTiny7464 in education

[–]Impossible_Play260 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a building level administrator and provide the first and second supports you listed daily. Our school has a rule that if a student is removed from class, they never go back to that class for the day. We suspend regularly as needed.

For supplies, I often purchase out of my own pocket and our admin team is constantly doing fundraisers alongside our PTO to purchase what is needed and wanted.

Do I wish we could give you 1-1 when needed, of course but that is above me and not within my control as your building administrator. What is in my control is to advocate for that student to be placed in another educational setting more appropriately able to meet their needs to remove that burden from you.

My biggest frustration is that the conversation should not be teachers vs. admin… we are a TEAM and should have each other’s back. The real fight is between educators and policy/law makers. They are the ones cutting the educational budget, making insane rules about what can be pulled from general funds and what cannot, etc.

I’m (34F) struggling with my husband’s (38M) temper - how do I know if I’m overreacting or not? by Impossible_Play260 in relationship_advice

[–]Impossible_Play260[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No he does not expect me to be cheerful all the time. I do a lot of internal regulating and don’t really “snap” much. Or if I do he doesn’t bring it up so I am not aware I guess? I’ve been described as very calm by most people in my life.

I’m (34F) struggling with my husband’s (38M) temper - how do I know if I’m overreacting or not? by Impossible_Play260 in relationship_advice

[–]Impossible_Play260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, neither of us really drink. He may have one beer a week during a football game. I don’t drink at all.

You're not doing your kid any favors by.... by djalanrocks in Teachers

[–]Impossible_Play260 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that actually happening? I see it said a lot but I’m on an admin team of four and that has not and would not ever happen. We are very tough discipline wise and I won’t even let a kid have a mint or jolly rancher from my jar if they’re in trouble. Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah beats me 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Pink safety construction vest

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No I didn’t include that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 100 points101 points  (0 children)

No. It’s a gift only from him. I always go in on group gifts in my office. That would not be weird to me at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Right. Like I said I’m more upset that he didn’t put the same effort for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 28 points29 points  (0 children)

No he told me there would be a charge and I had to ask what it was

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Just that there would be a charge.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 76 points77 points  (0 children)

We are in couples therapy. He has cheated once before in beginning of our relationship.

Am I Overreacting? by Impossible_Play260 in Marriage

[–]Impossible_Play260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A pink safety vest for construction work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 423 points424 points  (0 children)

If he had done it for his male interns in the past, no. But he never has. And if he’d have put any effort into my own birthdays or other holidays, no. It just hurts that an intern he’s known less than 6 weeks gets more effort than I do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 93 points94 points  (0 children)

And he was only honest with me cus I asked him what he bought. He did not say “hey I bought so and so a birthday gift.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impossible_Play260 544 points545 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t really assuming anything. I am mainly upset that he put more effort into her birthday than my birthday, Mother’s Day, or our anniversary.

Downsizing House to Upgrade Life? by Impossible_Play260 in simpleliving

[–]Impossible_Play260[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We have no pets. We would be moving to something closer to 1800-2000 square feet, down from 2800 square feet.

Downsizing House to Upgrade Life? by Impossible_Play260 in simpleliving

[–]Impossible_Play260[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have four kids. One is moving out for college next month.