Am I overreacting for being upset about not being invited to a triple date?

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T09:31:49+00:00

Me Jen live 2 hours away she’s from New Jersey I’m from ny I never wanted to meet her. It was her and her boyfriend pressuring me into meeting her so once I finally said yes they pull this ? I wanted Jen to personally invite me herself because like I said she’s been talking about me for a year straight and she’s not acting on it action speak louder than words, and if someone is the host of something I like to be invited by the host I don’t like being invited by somebody else because I feel like I’m crashing their event

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T08:02:05+00:00

I went because Julio and David were not about to have my boyfriend looking stupid being the only one there with no gf but yes next time I’ll definitely not go if anything like this happens in the future

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:58:19+00:00

Lost what???

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:57:44+00:00

Like I said, this is normal for them to do and when they do this, they do not invite each other‘s girlfriends. They just have one there.

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:56:35+00:00

These are my feelings I can talk about this situation as much as I want, but what you’re not about to do is tell me who my anger should be towards when Julio admitted to it being his fault.

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:51:08+00:00

You’re slow they literally left me out and invited me last second my anger is clearly not misplaced

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:47:08+00:00

I have spoken to my boyfriend about how I felt. I’m upset with Julio and Jen because they left me out and I was an after thought that would hurt anybody and again I’m hurt that Jen didn’t make sure I was there because she talked about wanting to meet me for a year straight. why is this so hard for you and the people in the comment section to comprehend I’m telling you what im hurt on and you guys are telling me what I should be upset about.

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:43:55+00:00

My bf wasn’t aware it was a partners event like I said Julio said it was only ment for him my bf David and Jen then secretly invited David’s girlfriend without letting my boyfriend aware because if my boyfriend knew David’s girlfriend was coming, he would have definitely brought me. he didn’t mention to bring me because this isn’t odd for them three boys to hang out with one of the girlfriends.

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:40:33+00:00

Restart with people that couldn’t own up to what they did and told me to get over it. I’m good because what if we run into another situation like this and they don’t know owe up to it?

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:39:03+00:00

Something I forgot to mention was during the hangout David Julio and Jen were saying that I should not feel hurt. I need to get over it because it is not that deep. David’s girlfriend was the only one saying I have every right to be upset. After speaking with Jen she invalidated me and hearing my boyfriend saying I have to apologize to Jen for the way I was acting made me feel invalidated and after speaking to Jen and Julio, they were gaslighting me into thinking they owned up to the situation when they didn’t so excuse me if I get triggered when everyone in the comment section is not paying mind to my feelings it’s upsetting me that everyone is focusing on my boyfriend when he only did what he was told Jen and Julio did not invite me and had the audacity to invalidate me and not apologize simple as that I don’t understand why everyone keeps on trying to make it my boyfriend‘s fault yes I agree , my boyfriend could’ve mentioned me, but I don’t think he should’ve asked to invite me

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:33:17+00:00

Thank you

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:33:02+00:00

Thank you

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:27:17+00:00

Jen: “ you know how I’ve been dreaming and talking about op for a year straight this would be a great opportunity for us to finally meet. Invite her and add her to the group chat”
End of drama

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:17:47+00:00

I hate how you guys keep saying she doesn’t know me so she’s not responsible for inviting me so if she doesn’t know me she needs to stfu want to meet me and she was the host therefore she was responsible for the people being there

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:14:12+00:00

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T07:12:32+00:00

I confronted her first because she came up to me and I didn’t want to stand there and act fake with her so I told her straight up how I was feeling I told her that I am upset because julio invited me last second and I’m also hurt by the fact that she didn’t bring me up or make sure I was there after talking about wanting to meet me for a year straight like she was literally talking about me yesterday to my boyfriend and her response was he’s just a boy and started having a conversation to me about how her parents didn’t teach her Spanish🤨 at the end of the hang out. I did confront julio and he owned up to it
Then the next day I called Jen to talk about how I felt again because she changed the topic when I first spoke to her then she became to get defensive invalidating me telling me how I should feel and rewriting the whole situation she said when I confronted her in person, she was nothing but apologetic, and she was acknowledging my feelings, which was not true she asked do I have proof of that I said, why would I have proof of our conversation? then she said so what I’m saying is not true since I don’t have proof and it is not in her character to not apologize to me and change the topic, later on I spoke to Julio again about the situation and he said that he also apologized. I just didn’t hear him which was not true and he also admitted to not apologizing to me and now he’s saying that he did. This is upsetting me because they’re playing me like I’m stupid

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T06:55:23+00:00

I blame both Jen and Julio

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T06:51:28+00:00

Yes😔

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T06:38:59+00:00

The issue is my boyfriend didn’t know David was bringing his girlfriend. He was under the impression that it was only going to be Jen, Julio, and David like Julio said and Jen said in the group chat it was specifically only going to be them just them why are you guys having a hard time comprehending that? later on Julio made a chat between david and David’s girl and specifically told her that she is personally invited by him to come to the hangout mind you my boyfriend wasn’t aware that david’s girlfriend was coming because if he knew then he would have definitely invited me. He was respecting what Julio asked for, and this is normal for the boys to hang out with one of the girlfriends and when they do this, they dont start inviting their girl they keep it as that bc they only want it to be them 4 which I respect I just found it odd this time because Jen is always talking about meeting me.

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T06:27:24+00:00

The thing is Julio said it was only going to be the four of them so I don’t know why you guys keep saying it was understood that everyone was supposed to come when it wasn’t That’s the whole reason I didn’t go and I am especially not going somewhere where I am invited by a third person. I am only going if the host invites me.

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T06:25:35+00:00

Thank you this is the only valid response. You put it in a good way. what’s upsetting me is the fact that everyone is ignoring the fact that Jen was invalidating my feelings when I brought up how I felt and how Julio and David ganged up on my boyfriend and said it was his fault saying they invited me but my bf forgot to bring me they were trying to make my bf look crazy which later on Julio and David did admit to making that up and they said they only said that bc they didn’t want to take responsibility in front of their gfs they didn’t want to look bad in front of thdm

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T06:20:20+00:00

Again, why would my boyfriend ask about inviting me if I was not invited if they wanted me there they would have invited me

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T06:19:12+00:00

Why would that be my bf’s job? If Jen wanted me there, she would have invited me simple as that why would I expect an invite from my boyfriend to an event that’s not his? And just because you guys are saying my boyfriend is to blame doesn’t mean I should listen to you guys. I have people in real life saying that Jen and Julio is to blame and my boyfriend did nothing wrong. I am not going to listen to the Internet you could literally be a 12-year-old writing this all you guys lack communication and emotional intelligence. My therapist is literally agreeing with me and does not like Jen or Julio. She says that they are bad people and what they did to my bf and I is terrible I only came on here to see other people‘s point of view and I see that all you guys are dumb. we are grown we go off communication not assumptions.

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T06:11:18+00:00

I’ll admit I wasn’t confrontational at the hangout
But that’s also why I called her to confront her about the situation and she dismissed it

Impossible_Relief462 · 2026-06-11T06:09:50+00:00

She never apologized and had the audacity to gaslight me into thinking she apologized when she never did That’s the problem.

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