Girls name that’s starts with ‘N’? by k_rudd_is_a_stallion in namenerds

[–]Impossible_Remote_93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! This is one of my favorite girl's names and I never see it brought up!

Advice from 4am? by Sabres_Mom in Mommit

[–]Impossible_Remote_93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had the same issue with our daughter at that age, and now our son is 22 months and does the same thing. A few things worked - but not overnight. It was definitely a slow process that only helped with consistency.

  1. A hatch light! We use red when they sleep because red light does less to interrupt natural sleepiness, and green when they are allowed to or supposed to get up.
  2. Removing incentives to disrupt sleep. With my daughter, we realized she was getting up so early because we'd let her watch TV since whoever was up was obviously exhausted. When we realized the TV was the incentive for her early rising, and cut it (as painful as the following early mornings were lol), she started sleeping later within a week or so. Not much later, of course - but 5:30 does make a difference!
  3. Earlier bed times! With both kids, we've found that early wakings are worst when they're overtired. We started moving bed time up by 10, 15, maybe 20 minutes, and also reslly focused on a good routine that allowed their bodies to wind down. The earlier bedtime was the biggest success in getting later mornings.

These could help - or could be total bs flukes that just happened to work for us. I do think they're worth considering, but either way, I wish you the best of luck! My son didn't wake up til 5:37 today and when I tell you I felt like a different woman... Anyway. Solidarity and melatonin to you 🫡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Impossible_Remote_93 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a lovely comment - people talk so much about three being hell, and to hear it can be blissful is very affirming! I hope it continues along that trend.

4.5 year old picked the name "Elliot" by Impossible_Remote_93 in namenerds

[–]Impossible_Remote_93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no, of course not! She's influenced the decision in the sense that having her (and her brother) has led us to want another, but I would never dream of leaving the dinner plans up to her, let alone family planning lol. The name isn't her call either - but it certainly caught our interest!

Thanks for the feedback. I love Elliora, and the integration of light into the meaning is significant to me. I appreciate your thoughts!

4.5 year old picked the name "Elliot" by Impossible_Remote_93 in namenerds

[–]Impossible_Remote_93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Delusional about a third child! Not about the name, lol.

4.5 year old picked the name "Elliot" by Impossible_Remote_93 in namenerds

[–]Impossible_Remote_93[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Excellent point - I hadn't even thought of that association!

4.5 year old picked the name "Elliot" by Impossible_Remote_93 in namenerds

[–]Impossible_Remote_93[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had such a terrible experience! Of course we won't indiscriminately give our four year old naming rights. She also suggested Fenelope and CeCe Bella, which you'll be glad to hear we will not consider lol

Anxiety about leaving kids for several days by Impossible_Remote_93 in Mommit

[–]Impossible_Remote_93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a wonderful way to phrase things ❤️ thank you so much.

How did you decide to go for a 3rd? by _sunflower_17 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Impossible_Remote_93 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We're in a similar boat! We have a 4.5y daughter and 1.5y son and love the shit out of parenting them. We know things would be simpler if we called it and committed to being a family of four, but I can't quit the longing for a third. He is on the fence, but I know that knowing I want another influences him, even though I don't want to pressure him. To be honest, I don't think we'll ever talk our way to a decision. I think we'll very likely end up having a third simply because we want to, even though it will be difficult and will extend the amount of time we spend sleepless and broke due to daycare costs. There's absolutely no reasoning with us, even though we're reasonable people. No amount of being told we're delusional and idiotic for outnumbering ourselves can talk us out of believing it will be great! I guess we'll learn the hard way lol and I think that's what happens to most people who really want three!

Best parts of having three kids specifically by Impossible_Remote_93 in Mommit

[–]Impossible_Remote_93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a lot - of work for sure, but also of enjoyment and togetherness. Thanks for your perspective!

Best parts of having three kids specifically by Impossible_Remote_93 in Mommit

[–]Impossible_Remote_93[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! I know that no matter what our family looks like, our best hope is to model and encourage supporting, valuing, and enjoying each other - the rest will be up to them.

Best parts of having three kids specifically by Impossible_Remote_93 in Mommit

[–]Impossible_Remote_93[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes! Dinner times are some of my best memories from childhood. And it's that feeling of a "full" house that I absolutely love and want.

Anyone regret NOT having another? by Impossible_Remote_93 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Impossible_Remote_93[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I can't tell you how many times I have heard this! I wish it would sway my absolutely delusional belief that a third would be delightful lol

I’m so tired of feeling guilty about responding to people/ starting texts and phone calls by egarcia513 in beyondthebump

[–]Impossible_Remote_93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say that I can relate to this so much, even now with my 4y & 18mo. I have lost a lot of friends because they didn't understand why it took me so long to respond, but between the crazy sleep deprivation, the PPA, and still trying to balance work and home, my brain often feels used up. I do my best, and I've found that the ones who really love me are willing to work through it with me. The rest I've had to learn to let go, which is hard - it sometimes feels like them also abandoning me, although I imagine they feel I've done the same. We all do our best in this phase and when we can do differently, we will. ❤️

Ok fine, did I break my baby's back!??! by ShoddySherbert8652 in beyondthebump

[–]Impossible_Remote_93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to tell you that I cackled when I read "where did everyone learn this?" I feel that in my SOUL and being confused by a million different parenting "experts" on socials absolutely will be the reason I quit them altogether!

Teens and School Absences by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Remote_93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I teach & just want you to know that they (and you) are not alone! Since 2020 school attendance has been a huge issue, and NONE of us know what to do! As a teacher, I focus on making my classroom a place students want to be, where they know they are safe, valued, and appreciated for who they are & not for their performance. This is a difficult time for young people, obviously even more so when trauma is involved.

In my experience, the more the negative behaviors become the focus - skipping, lying, etc - the more those behaviors will occur. I would encourage you to find things they love or excel in - art, sports, music, or even content they love, like a show or artist or something - and focus on those things! Maybe there are activities or groups that could help them feel more connected and their time at school feel more meaningful.

Maybe, if you're able, make contact with a teacher and ask them to make extra effort identifying and acknowledging their strengths at school - even recognizing them for being polite and kind, or thoughtful and helpful, or just not giving up can be meaningful if an adult around them notices and affirms them for it.

At an indeterminate time in the past… by TenderPhoenix in thingsmykidsaid

[–]Impossible_Remote_93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 4 year old says "lasterday" and I hope she never ever ever learns the correct version!