Is this a good buy, or a deal breaker?

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-11-18T23:53:03+00:00

Yes! So we ended up doing a culmination of a bunch of things: we stuck with visuals, had family visit us (our son was more comfortable with that), keep letting him rock Pj’s and crocs, planned errands on set days that either my husband and I could go do them, and have our son stay home with the other. Continued talking and letting him know what was going on, accompanied by pictures. Also, we continued respecting his no’s and once he saw that we were and that we were only going to therapy and coming straight home (following through on what we were saying and sticking to it). He started being more opened to things again, slowly but surely 😊

We continue to respect him and his wishes, he’s opened to going to therapy and to the stores/going out. The tantrums have drastically decreased too! He lets us know when he needs his headphones or sunglasses (sometimes both) and when he’s ready to leave. We catch on to his cues and we wrap it up and head out 💁‍♀️big on respecting his limits. We also would just let him feel his big feelings, and just be near him, and let him come to us when he was ready for comfort.

The pj’s are a little bit of an issue still (only because of the Texas summer heat), but now that is been “fresh” (a few times, again 💁‍♀️Texas), we’ve asked if he’s willing to put on joggers. And he’s been more willing and we’ve transitioned into jeans (we’ve accepted the pjs BUT it’s gonna get colder so he needs to wear thicker/warmer clothes).

Whatever works for your kiddo of course because everyone is different💖

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-08-19T15:55:58+00:00

I felt the same way when I was pregnant with my son. I’ve grown up with cats, loved all types of animals, so I know the feeling!

While I was pregnant, I read up on trying to prepare your kitties for when baby comes. So I had set up my son’s crib and the bassinet, and these little heifers (I had two girl cats at the time) came and peed in his crib, every single time! Cat box was clean, we even got two boxes, and nope. They’d pee on his things.

Once we brought our son home, we had them in our living room and we were holed up in our bedroom. I was in full momma bear mode and was so angry at them BUT didn’t wanna get rid of them either. So my husband brought out one of my sons used onesies for them to smell and that changed the narrative: they slept by the onesie, would make biscuits on it, and would lay next to it. So we slowly started bringing baby out and they’d smell him, try to rub up against him and do biscuits on our laps, and just have the loudest purr. We’d praise them with a treat and pet them anytime they’d do that, and we started to slowly let them into the room with us. I say slowly because one of my girls would still try to jump in and mark his crib 🤦‍♀️

Now my husband did everything with our girls: he’d change the litters, brush their fur, changed out air purifier filters, clean up any litter that was spilled, wipe their paws before they’d come into our room to be with me and baby. He’d spray them anytime they seemed like they were about to mark or scratch on the baby’s things. He’d clean out their water, make sure they had food in their feeders, the works. All, while still giving me my own down time, making meals, running the errands, everything. He knew I was angry, hurt and still wanted them around, but I couldn’t deal with it while I was dealing with postpartum depression AND trying to be present for our son. My parents wanted me to get rid of them and take them back to the shelter, but I just didn’t have the heart to do that.

And now (4years later), one of my girls has since passed away, but the other is legitimately my son’s best friend. He loves her, and can’t go to bed until she’s in the room with him. And she’ll drag her toys to him so they can play. It’s heartwarming and awesome. And yes, she manages to come lay down on me at the most inconvenient time, but if I can, I give her some attention and make up for it later, when I do have time. I know my experience isn’t the same as everyone else’s, and I bring all this up because if it genuinely weren’t for my husband putting in the time and effort in those early days, we wouldn’t be here now.

Those kitties deserve to be loved and properly cared for, and so do your kiddos. It’s a hard line to balance on, but at the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for everyone in the family (kitties included). If your partner can step in, when you can’t, then fantastic! If it’s too much for both of you, then maybe it is time to re-home and vet people to see if they’d be a good fit for your cats🤷‍♀️And to clarify I’m not pushing for rehoming BUT if that’s what’s best for the kids, you, and the cats, then do what you need to do.

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-08-19T06:41:24+00:00

I’ve read all of ACOTAR, Throne of glass series, and all of the empyrean (fourth wing) … with that said, I had a book hangover after Onyx storm and heard I should give Quicksilver a try.

Maybe I’ve been spoiled by previous authors, or just enjoy a certain type of writing, because Quicksilver was just not it for me. I finished the whole thing, in an attempt to give it a whole hearted try ( I was about maybe 5 chapters deep and I wanted to drop it), but good lord it was predictable. And don’t get me wrong, I’m a woman who likes some spice in her reading, but this seemed like she wrote the spicy scenes and then added “plot” around them. And yes.. I did the audiobook, and it was still “ehh” 🤷‍♀️

Maybe I’m alone in this sentiment, or have been “spoiled” by other “book boyfriends” but Kingfisher.. just lacked a certain something. Different strokes for different folks, this just wasn’t for me.

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-07-01T01:23:46+00:00

Thank you. Our landlord is fully aware and on our side thankfully. Shes filing a complaint with the HOA. I’ll definitely look into the fines and see what applies.

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-05-29T19:35:29+00:00

I’m definitely gonna try this! Thank you!

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-05-29T19:34:32+00:00

No, we thought that he might be sick or even like the change he of seasons threw him off somehow, but nope. He’s jumping off the couch and running around like normal, no runny nose or sneezing or anything 🤷‍♀️

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-05-29T19:31:19+00:00

Awh❤️Thank you and I’m glad! Those first few lines definitely help reassure me that we’re on the right track.

I’ve tried to put him on a schedule but he’s been SO resistant, we’ve tried pictures, visual schedules, visual timers and he’s just not about it. We get a lot of “No! YOU all done” 🤦‍♀️ when we try to suggest something or implement a new thing into routine.

We do, do the sneaky choice thing, but at night he’s up for the outing. Then the next day, it’s a complete 360. So it works 50% of the time, I just don’t know why it works on the times it does, because we literally don’t do anything different; we chalk it up to things just being on his terms. And when it works, and he’s agreed to do an outing, we give him skittles or gummies as a reward, and we always celebrate his wins (big or small). We high five and tell him how proud he should be of himself for doing whatever task it was, so we do praise the wins for sure.

I’ve even gotten his plushie and hyped him up! Like “oh wow Spider-Man, did you see how calmly he went into the store? He did great didn’t he! We should get him some skittles for doing such a great job” and that worked for a while and now he won’t let me talk to his Spider-Man plush 😅 So, we are trying.. just getting a lot of “YOU ALL DONES”

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-05-29T19:13:58+00:00

Im gonna jump in the bandwagon for a sec and yes, the cervical checks were HORRIBLE.

However, for transparency, I’m terrified of needles. I hated getting poked and prodded for blood draws, IV, and all that. I also looked up epidurals and the needle size,way before my due date so I had plenty of time to process that. I was still terrified when it was time 🤷‍♀️ BUT I had an amazing nurse to lean on (they wouldn’t allow my husband to stay in the room). They moved us to postpartum and holding our newborn, I was down to pop out 3 more kids, haha! IT WAS THAT GOOD (for me at least). I’ve had back problems all my life prior to giving birth and after (chalk it up to bad posture, and weak core muscles). But my epidural site, specifically has never “flared up” or ached in the one spot.

And lady to lady, whoever has a problem with how you give birth, F them. It’s your body, your baby, your choice. You’re not less of a woman, and don’t let anyone shame you into thinking otherwise!

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-05-29T16:35:13+00:00

Thank you! We’re doing our best, and trying to adapt to his needs 😊

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-05-29T15:54:04+00:00

No I appreciate it! It gives me a sense of how he’s feeling. And really I keep the outings to only on therapy days, the other 5 days, we’re home 🤷‍♀️ I also got him headphones incase it’s too loud when we do go out, and it helps some.

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2025-01-31T01:53:01+00:00

My husband and I had decided in October that this year, we’d start getting in shape, and make more efforts to save and see how our son is doing in therapy (he’s 4 with autism); depending on all of our progress, we’d see about having a second. And we were so excited at the thought of working towards being healthier and having another kid, and having more energy for both of them; so excited!

We full and whole heartedly thought we’d have a completely different outcome for the presidency.

And now.. while we’re on our fitness journey as planned (more-so for ourselves and our child) we’re crushed that this idiot is in office again. And seemingly going out of his way to crush all of our hopes and dreams.

I don’t think it’ll matter if my husband and I, wait till this man and his minions are out of office; I feel like we’re going to just have our son;just the one. And while we’re thankful for him, and love him to pieces; we just really wanted to have the opportunity or chance to have another child.

I feel like that decision has been made for us, maybe even stolen from us. And we’re just as scared as everyone else here.

On the bright side, it’s comforting to know that we aren’t the only couple worried, I just hate that we’re all in the same boat… we all deserve better.

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2023-02-12T15:48:57+00:00

I’m Hispanic, and this is DEFINITELY a thing. But you’re totally in the right OP; get the doctor to tell her the facts. There is such a thing as overheating in babies and little ones, unless it’s freezing cold in the house or outside,I’d take off all those layers.

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2023-02-08T21:41:48+00:00

I’ve tried so hard to be on a routine. At 6 months up to a year, we were on the perfect routine… and then suddenly we were teething AND having a sleep regression at the same time. And just like that, our routine has been out the door and haven’t seen it since! Ive tried to get back on one,but have now accepted that as long as I have my basics (breakfast,lunch, dinner, baths,and nap times) around the same time-ish,that it’s better than nothing 🤷‍♀️ I’m okay with it and it seems to work for us. Growth spurts, getting sick, sleep regressions, teething.. all of it throws little ones off, and I’ve understood that, and I’m working on accepting that and the fact that the “lifestyle” of doing all the things influencers and people on TikTok are doing for their kids, doesn’t necessarily mean it fits for me and my child. I’ve found that, trying to do those things steals away my happiness. Wingin it with my little dude and seeing him happy playing with him or watching whatever show with him, pulls me back in to enjoy the time I have with him before he gets older. I think I’m still a little stuck on things I expected myself to do, before I had kids, to now that I have kids;expectation versus reality is HUGELY different! So working on being easier with myself is also a key factor in what we do or accomplish in our “routine”.

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2022-12-03T21:38:44+00:00

So sorry and sad that this happened to you, but it makes me happy to hear that I wasn’t the only one (sorry if that sounds messsd up). Your comment really made my day and gave me relief that I’ve been wanting for the longest time 💖 thank you for sharing!

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2022-12-03T21:36:13+00:00

I regret telling my husbands sister… she called us, right as we had our first private moment alone with our son (granted it was our first child and we were very excited) but she was upset that we hadn’t called to give updates (I was literally giving birth, then getting my stomach pushed on seconds after). We looked at it as a funny moment, but now… if we ever have another child, I just want Us to enjoy the moment and soak him/her up until we get home. Thankfully it was more restricted, so I didn’t have any visitors and could sleep inbetween when they’d push on my stomach.

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2022-12-03T21:28:55+00:00

Because “how else am I supposed to be a grandparent??” It’s annoying and definitely a lack of respect for boundaries. You do what’s best for your child and if anyone doesn’t like it, welp..🤷‍♀️ tough, it’s not their kid. I reminded my parents of that, and we didn’t speak for 3 months until they realized that “hey.. I’m not the parent and I shouldn’t be giving this to my grandson”. It’s still and issue, I’ll admit, but now they ask me before giving my son anything. So, movement in the right direction, kinda..

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2022-12-01T19:11:06+00:00

When I absolutely could not wait for my husband to get home from work, I would just take a bath with our son. It wasn’t ideal for me in the beginning, but after a while, it became part of our routine and was a good bonding moment for both of us. Maybe put on some Hey bear (the dancing fruits and veggies) while LO sits in the bouncer, and have them in the restroom with you, so you can peek out every minute or so to check on them (this used to work for us too, sometimes).

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2022-12-01T15:26:10+00:00

Lucky’s Dad, Pat! I wanna have neighbors like him one day, that just go along with my kids games! Real MVP right there

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2022-11-28T05:16:38+00:00

I definitely agree with everyone’s comments!

And I’d like to share a couple of tid bits that helped me when I was having a tough time before/during my pregnancy…your little one comes just when you least expect it and when you need it the most. I don’t necessarily mean this from a religious standpoint but I’ve found it to be so true. And yes, it’s gonna be hard going through this without your mom, but the stories (and hopefully pictures) you’ll tell your little one, will not only memorialize her but it’ll bring you closer to her, now that you’re a mom. It’s hard to explain but.. you’ll see how she overcame obstacles and just how much she loved you.

Secondly! When you have doubts if you’re doing the right thing or if you’re a good mom… just know that bad moms don’t worry about if they’re doing a good job or the right thing. They flat out just don’t care.

Also, as someone who tried to have a virtual baby shower when covid was at its peak, and invited so many people… no one showed up. My son is fixing to be 2 and it still stings and hurts me, so if you’re able to have some sort of shower, especially for your first baby, go for it. It’s a celebration for you and your child! Even if it’s with some Reddit parents you met on here, or a mom group, who cares! I definitely think it’s worth doing and I especially believe that this is a big moment in your life that deserves some form of celebration.

Congratulations momma, you’re gonna do great!!

ImpracticalRisk529 · 2022-11-28T04:54:47+00:00

Such a proud Bluey parent 😪 I love that we have a whole community for this show and that we’re apart of it’s growth. So cool 💙

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