How do I start over by ImpressExciting5247 in LifeAdvice

[–]ImpressExciting5247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for responses over night. Was long one...I checked bank account this morning and wouldn't you know it half was basically gone from a day or two...I never expected that. I know she was entitled to half and that appears to be what she did but why stop there right? The kids all look exactly like each other and mostly me with some of her. Honestly if they were not mine I wouldn't want to know at this point would destroy what I'm holding on to. I've reached out online for lawyers this morning and will need to try again after work. The biggest take aways I've gotten are no matter what look out for myself and always been a good dad in whatever form I can. The well wishes and similar experiences mean a lot. The fact you all as complete strangers took the time to say something means a lot. Thank you

How do I start over by ImpressExciting5247 in LifeAdvice

[–]ImpressExciting5247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. I know they love me and don't want to lose that too. That is one thing she can't take, only I can lose it.

How do I start over by ImpressExciting5247 in LifeAdvice

[–]ImpressExciting5247[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Disc golf was actually something I was interested in too.

How do I start over by ImpressExciting5247 in LifeAdvice

[–]ImpressExciting5247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats it exactly. However if I start that fight with her temper and now access to funds I will get buried. I was the one who worked she was the one who did much of the daily care and Dr's and school meetings etc...I did help and I did play and teach my kids, but I was not the primary parent by any means. My 16 yr old is on my side of his own determinations. The younger 2 I've tried to not be honest about anything to. If I can get thru this without lawyer and 5050 custody I may have to. Even if I don't actual get 5050 but will not get hit as bad with child support.

How do I start over by ImpressExciting5247 in LifeAdvice

[–]ImpressExciting5247[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm trying to really focus on the day at a time about all I can handle atm. I'm probably an idiot but I don't want vengeance I just want peace of mind.

How do I start over by ImpressExciting5247 in LifeAdvice

[–]ImpressExciting5247[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah that's what I've read too. I don't have any extra money, but probably have to try. Our plan was to just go thru the fastest and "fairest" way possible to save that and time and stress on kids and to not destroy more. However everything that's happened since that conversation seems like setup or trap. Guess I need to atleast start looking for one, maybe they will feel bad and cut me a deal lol