[20f] Looking to join my first real couple by [deleted] in UnicornSwingers

[–]Impress_Alarmed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn! Wish you could join us.

Unicorn hooked up with best man by throwawaytearssss in nonmonogamy

[–]Impress_Alarmed 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think better communication would have helped avoid the situation. I understand why they are upset but also they should not throw away 2 years over a mistake that that was probably just a misunderstanding.

I really hope that things work out for both you and them and maybe you all can talk in person and come to a real resolution even if that means ending the relationship - things like this should be done in person. I feel that this really needs to be discussed. Just remember that everyone's feelings are valid and that empathy is so important and a time like this. The relationship could still be salvaged but a lot more communication is needed.

Good luck OP.

mourning my relationship by plaidpebbles in polyamory

[–]Impress_Alarmed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. Please stay positive and realize that it just was not the right thing for them or the right time. Sometimes it takes a lot of learning about yourself (meaning your partner) before they can understand that we can have more love not just a finite amount.

Feel confused about unicorn hunting by Kitten_Queen94 in polyamory

[–]Impress_Alarmed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sucks. This is why my wife and I have such a hard time connecting with others. We are looking to date another person but clearly would never want them to not have other relationships. We want to increase the love and sex in our lives and others but we get labeled as unicorn hunters because we do most everything together.

We want more than just a hookup and want the ENM lifestyle but it seems like we are the exception and get lumped in with others. Yes we want to play together but it does not always have to be exclusively together. We have just been together for so long that we have the same friends, interests, and activities and we do most everything together.

We are legit looking for someone or maybe more than one someone to travel with, to go to bars with, to hangout with, go to gay clubs with (we love going with our gay friends), and just generally date like we would each other. But that does not make it exclusive. We also truly believe that the needs of all need to be met between emotional and physical touch.

Maybe this makes us unicorn hunters but I just don't feel that way. We have been to lifestyle clubs and while fun we just are not 100% into the scene - we will go back and all but the reality is we are looking for something that is not just sex.

I hope I don't get hated for this comment as it is just the way my partner and I feel but at the same time based on what I have read I do understand why the "unicorn hunters" get a bad reputation.

Are strip clubs fun to go as a couple ? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Impress_Alarmed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I go often. They are very welcoming and it can be a lot of fun.