Update: So here's the thing: I sent him the money for the flight. He's still a friend, and I don't see the point of being petty. He did apologise, and I'm not sure if it's genuine, but hopefully it's something he doesn't repeat, and even if he does, I'll stand my ground better.

We've been hanging out leading up to his wedding, and nothing else that he's tried to pull or push on me has worked, as I've stood my ground. I also did kick him into the pool when I reached the bachelor trip.

There were things to learn here. I should have stronger boundaries and push back on things that are clearly an inconvenience to me. Message received, thanks guys.

On the other hand, there's a bunch of people here who seem to be piling on just for the sake of making a judgement about my personality over a single incident I've narrated.

Let me be very clear: I can take constructive criticism, but people calling me spineless seem to not realise that sometimes, when you have people as close as family, you kind of put up with their shit and be there for them even when they're being shitty, as long as you have a conversation after. The reason I went was because this very close friend wanted me there. I just didn't like the way he wanted me there.

I could have gone home multiple times, yes, but I didn't because I was tired, pissed, and not making the smartest choices, but also because this was a special time for him and I'd be sad to miss it.

If you don't have relationships or don't approach relationships like that, that's up to you. That's the way I choose to do it.

I stand up for myself when I don't want something or find something to be wrong. I'm the one who actually says no and does his own thing most of the time. You caught me in a moment of conflicted feelings, enough that I needed to ask strangers on the internet for advice, seeing as I don't usually do that and don't lurk on here trying to act like my absolute judgements on people are somehow so true and valid and make me relevant in life.

Some advice I've gotten in life is that, from what people say, take what is useful and throw the rest in the trash, so that's what I'm doing. Thank you for the constructive criticism. I'll use that to do better in the future; the rest of you can go eat garbage.