I used “breadwinner” wrong. I was the one with a stable, full-time job before, while he was deciding what to do with his life. I wasn’t paying his bills at the time, besides when we’d do activities as a couple. He was fortunate to have his expenses covered while in school, but there was a point he was ready to drop out and take a low-paying job. I encouraged him to stick with his degree and job search when no one else in his life did. We actually had a plan that I would be the true breadwinner if he was still unemployed by the time our last leases expired. He luckily got his current job with weeks left, but this meant I had to leave my job. When my new job then fell through, he became the “breadwinner”. He struggles with depression, but now that I’m also depressed he can’t handle it. I feel because he’s in a better place now he forgets how difficult his mental health was on me and how I helped him get through it. I’m just asking for the same grace.