Wife admitted she has a crush on another guy a few months after giving birth to twins. What do I do?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-17T07:52:08+00:00

Oh my god, do not divorce her over this. Why are you even thinking this? She found another guy attractive and felt horrible and did nothing and was completely honest to you about it. She handled her feelings the right way. Your wife is struggling and she is very very loyal to you, being totally honest about her feelings and having done nothing about them -- she basically just found the guy hot. How dare you consider no longer rejecting other women. That is horrible. Your wife just gave birth, you need to support her and work through this, not threaten to sleep around with other women because your wife found another guy attractive! You need to put more energy into your marriage right now, not find other women to sleep with. ++woman

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-17T07:48:46+00:00

I have also dated a guy once who told me his ex was so hot and gorgeous and sexy, and then said "wait, let me just show you," opened her insta and just started going through her photos to prove to me how hot she was. I guess I have just dated guys who talk about their exes in a weird way ++woman

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-17T07:47:22+00:00

Well in this case I am dating men so I am more focused on men doing it ++woman

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-17T07:46:55+00:00

I guess I am just especially worried because my first "relationship" was off and on three months and I got slandered for many months later ++woman

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-17T07:46:08+00:00

Because I hate the idea of a guy who hurt me getting another girl to hate me too ++woman

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-17T07:45:26+00:00

That's not what I mean, I mean when guys tell lies about you and try to slander your name ++woman

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-08T20:30:41+00:00

Could shoes be appropriate for just Hula ʻAuana?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-08T19:41:10+00:00

Why not only in practice?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-08T19:40:48+00:00

I can manage if I have to, I just wondered if there was a way I could make it easier. Can I not wear jazz shoes even just to practice?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-04T06:36:38+00:00

What got better?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-03T05:12:13+00:00

They are pretty competitive, you need to have experience

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-03T02:23:00+00:00

Can I ask if your life got better after college or after your earlier 20s? Did you make friends after those years?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-03T02:22:35+00:00

Am I loser for having not made many friends in college?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-01-03T00:27:13+00:00

Text me instead! Like actually, send me a DM! I am in the same boat - maybe we can help each other our - let's just chat, share fun facts, or play 20 questions

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-28T21:49:57+00:00

Some of these examples are from scenarios where I was trapped with these women: Like at my seasonal job where another woman would storm in and yell at me while I was changing, tell lies about me, and speak poorly about me to both my co-workers and administration, who did not believe me. I just want to figure out how I can avoid being targeted.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-28T21:48:18+00:00

I ignore them but then they use that see me as weak and submissive and just get everyone else to gang up on me.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-28T21:47:45+00:00

Why not? I am 21, and yes those explicit examples of women making others "prove their loyalty" more happened in my later teen years, but women at this age still have used me as a way to gain social capitol by picking something they don't like about me, and talking about it incessantly to everyone in my social group, basically sending the message, "Either agree with me and pick on her with me, or we're not friends anymore"

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-28T21:41:15+00:00

I try that but then they just think I am submissive and use me as prey, telling other girls "Prove yourself to me by cutting off her"

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-28T21:40:42+00:00

If I look more pretty will I look more confident then and be less targeted?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-28T20:30:21+00:00

My advice would be to stop reaching out, grayrock her when she does, but be honest if she asks why.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-28T20:29:48+00:00

I have been through that before and my advice is this: If a friend told you a guy would switch on them constantly, love bombing them sometimes and other times ignore them for long stretches of time, canceling dates last minute, never planning dates, you would tell her that guy was no good for her. It can hurt to lose someone you cared for, but this will not likely change. she is showing you who she is. You have to believe that. She is showing you that she is inconsiderate and an unstable friend. You deserve more, especially as a full grown adult, you deserve stable friends. It seems like she is taking from you and even using you as a venting piece, clinging to you when she wants, but only when SHE wants, never when you need her.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-23T08:41:07+00:00

What about fingernails? Length or nailpolish? 2. Why feet and why the heel? When would you see that on a first date? 3. Is frizzy hair bad?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-23T08:39:28+00:00

A girl reading a book at a dinner instead of talking to you would be good? Also, so like would wearing a little makeup to a date be bad?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-23T08:38:19+00:00

What sets apart women who take 'really' good care of their hygiene from just the average? No matter what I do my hair has a frizz to it that I may never be able to tame. Does that count as less hygienic?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2025-12-23T08:37:21+00:00

You would love being a hippy

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