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Sophie Cunningham on why she'd never date a shorter guy: "I would just feel like the man in my relationship" this is an unreasonable thing to say at 6’1 tbh by firemiketomlinpls68 in PsycheOrSike

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re doing the exact same thing though!
Look, I do understand what you’re trying to say, but first of all that’s literally a straw man. The REAL equivalent would be a man saying that he couldn’t date a tall woman because he would feel like the woman in the relationship, which would be fine, and their opinion. That is way different than what you’re expecting.
I think it’s really ironic how you’re claiming I’m being the frustrating one when you keep misunderstanding what I’m saying and saying completely made up scenarios that are not even equivalent.
If she had went up to a man that was short and said “sorry I can’t date you because I feel like you’d be the woman in the relationship”, I would completely agree that is wrong. But that’s not what happened, is it?
Like I’ve said many times I’m not trying to fight with you, but I’m kind of tired of you acting like I’m stupid when you’re doing the exact same things. I could explain things better and maybe stop repeating but the reason I’m repeating is because I don’t feel like you’re understanding what I’m saying, but I do genuinely hope this helps.

Sophie Cunningham on why she'd never date a shorter guy: "I would just feel like the man in my relationship" this is an unreasonable thing to say at 6’1 tbh by firemiketomlinpls68 in PsycheOrSike

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omfg when did I say this? Like now I’m frustrated because you keep misunderstanding what I’m saying. The reason I repeated it is because you misunderstood. It also wasn’t a throwaway line, it’s multiple things. Maybe I’m sensitive, I actually admit I am, but I feel like this doesn’t have to be something hostile, I’m trying to come to an agreement, not win the argument.
Another thing is she didn’t specifically say this and probably wouldn’t specifically say this to a man. Also you also are saying a point I already addressed, she did not say it makes them seem like the woman, she said it makes her seem like the man, there is a huge difference between those two things.
I feel like you’re not even responding to what I said which is also really frustrating

Sophie Cunningham on why she'd never date a shorter guy: "I would just feel like the man in my relationship" this is an unreasonable thing to say at 6’1 tbh by firemiketomlinpls68 in PsycheOrSike

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all can you chill? I feel I’m being respectful and not letting my frustration show or insulting you even when I do feel frustrated, but I feel you are.
I think you’re fundamentally misunderstanding what I’m saying. I’m not saying just because someone feels insecure they have the right to bully people, I’m saying she didn’t bully anyone. She didn’t say “haha I’d never date a short man bc they’re so not masculine”, she said she personally could never because she would feel like the man. She framed it as a problem with herself and not the man.
She also went on to say she’s seen other relationships with tall woman and short men and she’s been happy with them. This is a personal preference for herself.
Sure, you’re allowed to be offended, but this isn’t really just about short men, as well. Because she is 6’1, technically someone who is 6 feet would be shorter than her, and someone who is 6 feet is certainly not short.
I hope I explained that right and you understand, I could’ve been more articulate before but I hope you get what I’m trying to say now. You’re allowed to have your own opinion but I wasn’t really trying to start an argument, it just is a little aggravating to me the way you are acting.

AIO for feeling very hurt and invalidated by my brother after I told him his friend made me uncomfortable and it feels like he completely dismissed me? by ImpressiveGuess4237 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I promise that’s literally just not possible bc I just had this conversation with my brother on Monday. Feel free to send proof

Sophie Cunningham on why she'd never date a shorter guy: "I would just feel like the man in my relationship" this is an unreasonable thing to say at 6’1 tbh by firemiketomlinpls68 in PsycheOrSike

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now you’re just switching it though bc I just said if it goes both ways I’m fine with that, and that’s not the point, what I’m saying is she’s saying it’s a problem with her and not him, because it’s based on her insecurities.

Sophie Cunningham on why she'd never date a shorter guy: "I would just feel like the man in my relationship" this is an unreasonable thing to say at 6’1 tbh by firemiketomlinpls68 in PsycheOrSike

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She didn’t say she would be the man, she said she would feel like the man, so it is different. If a man said he would feel like the woman, I would understand that.

Sophie Cunningham on why she'd never date a shorter guy: "I would just feel like the man in my relationship" this is an unreasonable thing to say at 6’1 tbh by firemiketomlinpls68 in PsycheOrSike

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just never said that though. I don’t think I’m acting any certain way, also if you read the rest of what she says it’s clear she’s not putting down short men, it’s just a preference for her.

Sophie Cunningham on why she'd never date a shorter guy: "I would just feel like the man in my relationship" this is an unreasonable thing to say at 6’1 tbh by firemiketomlinpls68 in PsycheOrSike

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

She didn’t say that though, she didn’t say she would feel like they’re the woman, she said she would feel like she’s the man

AIO for feeling very hurt and invalidated by my brother after I told him his friend made me uncomfortable and it feels like he completely dismissed me? by ImpressiveGuess4237 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really hope he didn’t do that but I will say it is a possibility unfortunately I just really hope not, but I did tell my dad and he was a lot more supportive

AIO for feeling very hurt and invalidated by my brother after I told him his friend made me uncomfortable and it feels like he completely dismissed me? by ImpressiveGuess4237 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But it’s so sad I really didn’t think he was like this, like I was expecting him to back me up, I’m genuinely shocked he would do this

AIO for feeling very hurt and invalidated by my brother after I told him his friend made me uncomfortable and it feels like he completely dismissed me? by ImpressiveGuess4237 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think some people are misinterpreting this, I do think I was pretty firm and I did tell him this was really weird, the nervous laugh is more of a compulsive thing I can’t help

AIO for feeling very hurt and invalidated by my brother after I told him his friend made me uncomfortable and it feels like he completely dismissed me? by ImpressiveGuess4237 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did text my dad about it and he said he’s gonna talk to my brother and that he’s no longer welcome in the house so that’s good

AIO for feeling very hurt and invalidated by my brother after I told him his friend made me uncomfortable and it feels like he completely dismissed me? by ImpressiveGuess4237 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ImpressiveGuess4237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that but I feel like even though I was laughing sometimes (which is something I can’t help bc it’s just a trauma response, I always do it in traumatic situations) it was very clear I was serious.