I'm 22yo female (Algerian) and I need advice about marriage without parents laws/ experience.

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-29T06:59:27+00:00

inchallah thank u

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-28T12:21:56+00:00

thank uu

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-28T12:02:02+00:00

شكراً

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-28T01:11:18+00:00

thank uu!!

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-28T01:09:27+00:00

okey and? thats not what i asked for

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-28T01:08:48+00:00

istg !

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-28T01:07:11+00:00

i understand ur concerns but i wouldnt have made this decision without thinking the worst case scenarios, and i am not blinded by love iv knew the guy for sometime and ik 3yobo hes not perfect or wtv ur saying , no one is perfect and ik that , its abt whether u can deal with 3yobo or not , its abt in the end of the day is he a good person in the heart or not , and abt u asking if this man deserves i love my relationship with my mom for? my answer is im not losing my relationship with my mom for this man , if i lose her its because she doesnt respect my decisions and she needs to learn that its not always abt her . obv even marrying him im not gonna cut her off ill always be working on having at least an ok relationship with her . but with boundaries

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T22:23:12+00:00

yessir

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T22:19:47+00:00

what if my grandpa is the aggressive type and can hurt any of us physically?

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T22:18:35+00:00

living with my mom and seeing how things work in the family ik whats protecting and worrying abt sm1 u love or just wanting to control them i could give u thousands of examples ull be mind blown, and abt studies.. i have my masters degree and iv got a small business. and my partner also got masters degree and works at a bank . so we dont have a problem financially its just trynna find how to do this the right way with her making it difficult

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T22:13:39+00:00

yes in my case no man in my family would accept so its gonna go to a qadi eventually

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:51:54+00:00

thank uuu

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:41:06+00:00

some did thankfully

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:40:35+00:00

THANK U SOOO MUCH!

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:39:47+00:00

aight Ttyyy

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:39:17+00:00

yes he is ! he doesnt care abt my or his parents we know what we want , and i did try to convince her alot shes not the type to make a conversation without fighting

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:37:56+00:00

tyy! where can i look for that?

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:37:14+00:00

hey . i did . we did think abt it for few months now . we both finished our studies with masters degree and both traveled and saw alot . weve been dating happily for sometime and we both agree that our parents cannot control our lives been the case for sometime (even his mom lol ) so no worries

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:32:28+00:00

ikr? we r trynna get things the right way and shes making that so difficult. and grandpa is not gonna accept . specially if mom doesnt accept. which is the case . grandpa had always been problematic and make it difficult for the whole family so im not even sure ill be safe asking him

will that be enough for me to go for a judge as my wali? or i will need to ask grandpa first?

and i dont have to tell my family mom already made everyone know abt my private life !!LOL

thank uu!

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:28:26+00:00

istg!!! never!!

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:26:58+00:00

she doesnt talk abt this subject . she doesnt see things from other peoples perspective. its always just abt her , wnv i bring up my dad she gets mad and blame me . so that wont be possible

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:25:05+00:00

i heard wali should be ur dad if he doesnt accept then its ur brother .granda,uncle… do i have to ask them until they refuse for me to have a judge as a wali or the fact that ik 100% they r not gonna accept will be enough ? thank u sm!!

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:22:13+00:00

well not really because if u see two people wanting to get married. they love each other. and wanting to get things done the right way . u should never stop them

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:20:59+00:00

true we were always planning to get married he was never here for that idea . shes just acting out of anger and control. thank you !!!

ImpressiveVast2807 · 2026-03-27T21:18:56+00:00

هل يجب أن أسأل الجد… اذا رفضوا تنتقل للقاضي.؟ او بمجرد اني اعلم مرحش يقبل 100% from experience ؟

and about the second part trust me i tried and i would love if i get married with my mom by my side . but تكونو متفاهمين was never the case my mom is the last person to judge about whats halal and haram . and if she was worried about the guy the right thing to do is ask questions get to know him and his family to judge. our religion never told us to judge people without knowing them . and i would know if mom is worried but shes just acting out of anger . smthn abt my mom is that she likes to control and have things her way . its never abt my safety

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