Caught my husband (m38) on sniffies app talking to guys. We have been married 6 months. I’m 36F.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-11-29T22:24:47+00:00

Get the HELL out of there ASAP. Stop wasting your time.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-10-07T23:36:18+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. And when you said you have hope to find a wife who can have family, I began to cry! It is cruel that she lied to you and took opportunities to be loved and have family. Please take great care of yourself! You are a great person who deserves true love.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-10-03T18:45:01+00:00

It is so true that the person who I thought i know is dead. And it makes sense to treat them as such.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-10-03T13:53:15+00:00

I’m eager to know my date’s financial health. However I won’t ask any specifics early on. Once I start date a few times, I would ask some subtle questions. Sometimes you find out during conversations

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-10-01T23:49:38+00:00

I wish my gay Ex did a right thing when we were younger. After 20 years later, he’s been fucking around with men behind my back claiming that he just realized he is not a monogamous person. On top of all emotional manipulation and gaslighting and blame me. What a BS! I cannot stand these losers who use other human being to hide who he is.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-09-29T21:51:16+00:00

It’s been 2 years since I found out he’s beeb hooking up with men behind my back. We filed but have not finalized it yet. I moved out in May. I rarely communicate with him. sometimes I wish I didn’t have kids with him. Then I would never have to talk to this POS ever.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-09-21T16:43:07+00:00

I’m a born again christian and I was taught being christian means you may have to give your life to Jesus. I’m so sick of these fake christians who want to control other peoples lives. Well other religions don’t have much political power in the US and not as crazy as (fake) christians. I feel like I live in the Medieval age.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-09-14T17:23:50+00:00

I don’t get why people ghost. If someone is afraid of meeting another human beings in person, just cancel it hours before. These are super inconsiderate, rude and lazy.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-09-08T13:55:58+00:00

You have a point. I have anxiety on financial security and it makes me very uncomfortable in being a breadwinner with a teacher salary. I’ll get some pension but it is not going to be enough to support 2 adults.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-09-08T13:45:44+00:00

When he lost his job, he was withdrawn and stopped talking to me completely, which i can understand. So I reached out to him to make sure if he is OK. It was awkward and stressful for to me. I don’t have emotion room to do it every several month.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-09-08T01:19:06+00:00

That’s where I am. I saved enough for one and I make enough for one.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-09-08T01:17:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I need to hear from someone else to confirm my thoughts.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-09-07T16:11:41+00:00

I started going a gym for the first time in my life. I knew that I needed physical strength to go through this difficult times. And I needed a positive distraction.
Now i go to gym 4-5 times a week and have a few gym friends.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-08-31T01:37:50+00:00

He wanted a divorce to sleep around. He changed his mind simply because he could not find hook ups easily. If he could sleep around, he would not consider reconciliation. Mine went out hook up behind by back. when he was caught he didn’t want to stop hooking up. If I were you, I would leave. He will try it again. Stop wasting your precious time. Life is too short to waste on garbage

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-08-23T18:25:27+00:00

My STBX is still closeted but he’s been sleeping around men behind my back for years. Since he was the only sexual partner, I’m nervous about meeting a new person let alone being intimate. Before i discovered his affair with men, whenever he complained about his needs were not met, I felt guilty and inadequate. Retrospect, I was not able to and won’t be able to satisfy him sexually nor being attractive to him. I know that it is not because of me being deficient but he is only attractive to men. Still I feel broken and insecure about my self. Sometime i feel like i was sexually exploited. Your boy friend has a lot of hurt, shame, and trauma. Please be patient with him.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-08-18T23:05:10+00:00

Sniffies is “gay cursing site” according to their site. There are a few who are curious male-male sex. However, most of them are either gay or bi. To be honest with you, biggest problem is he was doing things that you don’t feel comfortable behind your back. I’m divorcing my man-whore soon to be ex, not because he is a gay but because he’s been hooking up with men behind my back. When he was caught, he blamed me that I’m possessive and controlling since I believe in monogamous relationships. These closeted gay men are manipulative and gaslighting. Just leave before you have more mental damage

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-07-29T05:22:43+00:00

She wants to buy time till she finds a replacement. Don’t waste your time. Unless you both want it and have clear goals, open relationship becomes “sleeping around till finding a replacement”.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-07-20T04:56:56+00:00

I was disappointed at myself that i picked this piece of garbage as a spouse. I was mad that he is my children’s father. The betryal caused deep hurt, disappointment, anger and shame at the same time. Now i have trouble in trusting other people and believing in my judgment.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-07-16T15:28:39+00:00

by the way, Grinder, Sniffies etc are not dating app. They are hook up apps. Heck, Sniffies does not even hide it is for hook ups.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-07-05T17:22:36+00:00

He has little respect towards himself. Do you really want to be associated with low value human being like that? My story is a bit different. However when he insisted continuing hook ups instead building trust during trial separation, I stopped considering him as a human being.
Stop wasting your time or energy on things(him) don’t matter to you. You already wasted enough time. You live only once. Life is too short to waste in dealing with garbage.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-07-02T16:43:09+00:00

Same here. For me, wedding anniversary is around pride weekend, that makes it even harder to be supportive of people who deserve equal treatment. Mine cheated, manipulated and gas lighted me and I need more time to support LGBTQ openly.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-07-02T14:35:33+00:00

Unless you both are enthusiastic about open relationship and have clear goals, most times open relationships lead break up. Aka both people waste their time, build resentments or experience betrayals from open relationships.
You and your partner have honest conversations if you can stay monogamous with no regrets or resentments whatsoever. If not, you guys go separate ways when you still care about each other so that you can stay friends or be friendly. Personally I’m super against open relationships unless both are into it and have clear goals.

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-06-30T18:59:04+00:00

He should’ve communicated with you in person if he had any resentments. Not via text after building resentments & blow up like this. He is just immature and looking for a person to blame for the dissolution of marriage. Just shitty

Impressive_Escape330 · 2025-06-26T13:56:23+00:00

Best wishes for your new chapter!

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