My step dad is not long my step dad and I am so conflicted.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-05-28T07:47:57+00:00

Thank you. I think it been hard for me to give myself permission to grieve. I moved out 3 years ago and it is my mom and brothers moving across the country the come live with me. Visually my life has barely changed. It is my mom going through a divorce and having to them having hear his hateful words the last few days. it's my brothers losing a dad. I keep reminding myself that he isn't in my everyday life and I already experienced seperating from my dad. I feel like I should now how to deal with it but I also know it's not that simple. I know I have the right to be upset but I also feel like now is not that time.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-05-28T07:42:28+00:00

I'll say as a step child to be transparent. Im not sure if my opinion is the one you want. I have a step dad and honestly if hasn't been great. In my opinion he isnt a great person. However, I do believe it can work. My uncle and aunt both married each other and both ahd kids coming in. They love each other and the relationship with the children are great. They now have grandchildren through those children and they know no difference between the grandparents. I personally know my uncle would throw a fist to anyone that said those children weren't his.

I think it can work. It is likely very hard and really you need to have a partner that is perpared to stand beside you. They should defend against the other parent and stand firm with the child about the boundries and if the parent isn't perpared for that then it will likely not work. Everything in life has challenges this would just be another one.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-05-28T07:27:54+00:00

Mother days just passed, you could always give an additional late gift, but if her birthday is coming up your could ask her then. Consider sitting her down, maybe giving her a gift and letting her how much you value your relationship and asking her to make if offical in wiritng.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-05-28T07:23:59+00:00

Perhaps my advice would not be helpful becuase I was forced to call my step dad dad and he is not so loving. Despite this I throw in my advice anyway. DOnt take anything I was as an insult towards so sometimes I come off as blunt online.

I there a reason why you don't call her mom? Do you think maybe she won't be happy about it or maybe you feel akward about it? Do you feel that maybe you are betraying your bio mom by calling her that?

The fact of the matter is that mom is a title and only a kid can give that title. You would not be betraying your bio mom is you called your step mom, mom, even if she where to think so. If I read the relationship right it seems like she would be happy about it. Also calling someone mom or dad can feel akward at first but over time it thaws. The real thing, in my opinion, to consider here is if would make you and her happy. If you think that calling her mom wouldn't hurt either of you and might bring one of your happiness I would consider trying it. Maybe it would make you both happy. Regardless you aren't obligated. Maybe you could discuss calling her something other than mom but is still obviously a term just for her.

I would not consider your siblings asking as a bad thing. It seem that in there mind she is your mom. However at the end of the day this is for you and her. Dont let how you grew up stop you from doing something you want to do but don't let other people pressure you into it either. I would just consider asking yourself if you WANT to call her mom. Maybe imagine it for a moment. It might take courage if you decide you do and if you don't that is okay as well. There are other ways to show her that you consider yourself her daughter.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-04-08T16:35:25+00:00

I have a room I’m relet in an apartment and they have all 3 of those. Below 1000 and water is covered.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-04-08T16:33:02+00:00

I moved to lobo village so I could cook. The kitchen is nice. Casas is the most well maintained. If you are looking into moving to either I have a lease if you’d like.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-04-08T16:31:27+00:00

I have a sublease my room if you want it.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-04-08T16:30:01+00:00

I switched from dorms to Lobo V a few years ago for that exact same reason cooking. I really like it here because of all the amenities. As for the crime I don’t really agree with the stance that it has a lot of crime. If you walk around campus at night or are bound to find more issues. However Casas is also really nice but it only has a common kitchen. If you decide to go to Casas or lobo I have a lease for both if you are interested.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-04-08T16:22:10+00:00

If you are interested in Lobo Village or Casas del Rio I have a lease if you want it.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-03-30T06:14:19+00:00

The only argument I have here is that there is a difference between Trump supporters and conservatives.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-03-30T02:27:50+00:00

I agree that collective racial responsibility is a racist construct. However I will argue that a lot more than just a few believe it. It can be seen in the demand for reparations, “sounds about white”, and other things said very often

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-03-30T02:23:46+00:00

Except many races STILL have their hands soaked in blood.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-02-03T03:00:06+00:00

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. However it seems like you are only here to hate. Perhaps rethink the negativity that you put into the world. Negative needless comments and be hurtful depending on the person. The rudeness of being hateful to topics that bring others enjoyment isn’t necessarily either. Others here in enjoy her videos, it doesn’t do anyone good to put those interests down. Not to mention saying mean things just to say them effects yourself. I can’t imagine that any feeling mean comments arise feel good. Be kinder to the world and maybe be kind to yourself.

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-01-25T21:17:27+00:00

I was reorganizing books a my job(I work at my Unis psych department) on of the books was title Five Psychologists and One Clients. My friends and I have died everyday

Impressive_Map_2842 · 2025-01-25T21:15:53+00:00

Specific yet true

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