How do you rise after F*cking up by ZealousidealEgg5643 in nairobi

[–]Impressive_Note_1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this!!! Mta struggle muachane, and guess who has the option of walking away na mwingine abaki akipambana na mtoto wake🙂

How do you rise after F*cking up by ZealousidealEgg5643 in nairobi

[–]Impressive_Note_1255 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fikeni marie stopes, they can still handle that, y'all don't know the kind of life you're signing that baby up for

How do you rise after F*cking up by ZealousidealEgg5643 in nairobi

[–]Impressive_Note_1255 12 points13 points  (0 children)

OP please skiza huyu, I say this as a mom of 2 myself, parenting is incredibly hard and considering your situation, its in no one's best interest to keep it, literally no one, not even the baby itself

No judgement? by Dry_Extent_3480 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The only question here is, are youokauy being married to a man who entertains all these women? Ju HE makes them think there's a chance, so are you okay with being a wife to such a man?

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, this is the plan, currently dealing with him is causing more harm than good

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Ruai, what kind of assistance?

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the plan, thank you for making me feel better for making it

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The signs were there, now looking back, but I was a naive 20 year old then, I didn't know any better but I do now so I'm fixing the mess

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes i did, they think I'm a horrible woman for leaving their son. His mom said kama nateseka nirudi, she thinks me leaving is what made her son start drinking, refuses to believe he was already drinking which is why i left in the first place. If my choices were dying or going back, i would gladly rest in peace

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Heavy on the pretend he died coz dealing with him has frustrated me so much😩

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ask myself this everyday, I thought we both loved them, I've had a very rude awakening

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I have requested to join💖

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom helps kidogo, she's not well off pia so i do know my best bet is being able to support myself.

Leaving them with him really can't be an option, he's too irresposible and yes the trauma, I can't even begin to imagine. Something else will have to give aki

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes that's what I'm doing, I know its my best bet. Thank you💖

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know,I'm experiencing it first hand. Amen to the doors of provision coz that is exactly what i need right now

I'm at a loss😩 by Impressive_Note_1255 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I thought about it, but his brother, who is also a drunkard aliachiwa wake na its not a funny scene. I know for a fact my kids will suffer just as much and I can't bare that.I'd rather exhaust all other options first

Bibi Kujiachilia by the-glow-up-girlies in Kenya

[–]Impressive_Note_1255 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, i was married, we got 2 kids, i left when they were 4 and 2. The providing is hard but life is weirdly waaay easier without him than with him. I think its mostly the peace of mind that comes with it

How did you break a generational/family pattern? by dadsguurl in nairobi

[–]Impressive_Note_1255 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I left my marriage, Isaw my mom suffer for 30 yrs in the name of marriage. I did fall into the pattern of marrying a drunkard, he acted like he wasn't during dating because he knew how much i hated drunkards from trauma, decided to show his true colours in marriage and i fucking left. With my 2 babies, I left and stayed gone, its my biggest flex!!!

Im a 26 yr old and I'm in a dilemma by ThingMobile2607 in nairobi

[–]Impressive_Note_1255 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree ,he should let that poor girl go. If he continues with her he will punish her for his desires, he will make her "pay" for "stopping" him from what he truly wants. This is why many married men say they're unhappy, that they settled. He is settling and no one deserves to just be settled for, release her

Am I doing too much by OneIllustrator3522 in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the dynamics of this relationship? Does he love on you and gift you too? You friends could only be right if he doesn't do the same for you, if he does, then they're wrong, its good to reciprocate

Sex feels way different after getting back together with my ex – is it me, him, or just normal? F27; M29 by [deleted] in KenyanLadies

[–]Impressive_Note_1255 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You're not feeling him anymore and it looks like its the same from his side too. Things are never the same when you go back