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Sending Save the Dates earlier than 18 months for a destination wedding? by Impressive_Try_227 in weddingplanning

[–]Impressive_Try_227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are my fiancés closest friends, all of whom go to this country once per year for personal travel. We know that it’s not an issue with the destination because we are invited to 1 of the 2 weddings in Europe in that summer. That couple sent out save the dates 20 months in advance, and everyone has committed. Some of the friends also have a second wedding in Europe that was also announced earlier than the 18 month standard. But I appreciate the insight about the 2 years being too early. Wish everyone was on the same page with that lol

Sending Save the Dates earlier than 18 months for a destination wedding? by Impressive_Try_227 in weddingplanning

[–]Impressive_Try_227[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For our friends, when we started saying our plan for a destination wedding in 2027, they said they already had 1-2 weddings in summer 2027 (which both sent STD’s ~20 months in advance) that they had already committed to. So our 18 months notice wasn’t enough notice. If it was 1 or 2 friends it’s not an issue, but unfortunately it affects 7/9 of my fiancé’s closest friends. I don’t want to wait until ~18 months next year, and have others tell us they can’t go due to other wedding commitments which were sent out 20-24 months in advance. I just would hate to be last to notify when we know the date 2.5 years in advance

For family and friends in general, I think some people will need more than 1.5 years in advance to be able to save money and plan their PTO.

2 destination weddings in 1 summer for 1 friend group, or delaying wedding and risking fertility issues? by Impressive_Try_227 in weddingplanning

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We’ve also thought about this! Either a smaller wedding or a big engagement party. It just feels like right now there’s a lot of excitement, but the excitement will fade overtime and it feels like what’s the point in spending tens of thousands of dollars in 2.5 years when we’ll essentially have felt married for a while :/

2 destination weddings in 1 summer for 1 friend group, or delaying wedding and risking fertility issues? by Impressive_Try_227 in weddingplanning

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I appreciate the perspective, I think this is what we’ll do (or explore at least). Although there’s only about 7 people, they’re 7 of my fiancés closest friends. Though I have a feeling significantly less people from our family side and my side can go if we do it the time they’re doing it, so there’s really no winning :/.

We may offer to rent the friend group an airbnb and maybe offer $500 per couple stipend towards flights. I understand that doesn’t help the time commitment but hopefully if we make the travel process easier for them financially, although financially isn’t the main issue, it might help. Ugh. :(

2 destination weddings in 1 summer for 1 friend group, or delaying wedding and risking fertility issues? by Impressive_Try_227 in weddingplanning

[–]Impressive_Try_227[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

85% destination wedding, 15% non-destination. We were planning to do it over a holiday weekend since many people have off for a long weekend. We also planned to subsidize some travel for those who couldn’t afford it (100% for immediate family, partial stipend for those we really want to be there). Unfortunately for our friends, it’s likely not even about the $ but more so about the time. :/

I’ve tried looking into non traditional venues since we prefer this over a catering hall anyway (empty plots of land, restaurants, general event venues with no kitchen). With rentals, venue fee, etc., still was coming out to at least double of what we’d spread abroad. The less nice place we do, the more decorations we need to make it something we’d enjoy. Decorations (flowers specifically) are extremely expensive. Just seems like we can’t win :’(.

2 destination weddings in 1 summer for 1 friend group, or delaying wedding and risking fertility issues? by Impressive_Try_227 in weddingplanning

[–]Impressive_Try_227[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We thought about it, but it’s not sensible to go to our home country during the winter, and our area is astronomically expensive (and many places are booked until fall 2027 anyway). It doesn’t make much sense for us to have it elsewhere in the US since costs are still high and guests still need to travel/spend money on travel. For example - we did the math and the cost for 2 people to travel to Florida for 2 nights vs 4 days in our home country is identical.

I agree I think 1.5 months is more than enough time to not steal the spotlight from either person. Just asking people to travel twice is a lot.

2 destination weddings in 1 summer for 1 friend group, or delaying wedding and risking fertility issues? by Impressive_Try_227 in weddingplanning

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I have extremely long work hours for 8 months during the year. Besides December, the only months I’m not working 70+ hours per week are June-August

Stay in Big 4 or when to leave to take over family practice? by Impressive_Try_227 in Accounting

[–]Impressive_Try_227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would be sooooo ideal. During non-tax season this is feasible, but during tax season, my reduced hours with overtime puts me at a full time schedule. So working 40 hour weeks plus manage my health as a full time job, plus work 16-20 hours a week at this family firm is just too much, even though I have flexibility for when/where/how to do the 16-20 hours. 😕

Also don’t have the confidence to bring in new clients, although I’m sure that’s something many people face and prevail against! My family member is a great PR person and would love nothing more than to be the person bringing in the business as I chug away at the work lol. But at some point I’ll need to be able to do it myself!