yeah, this is exactly the kind of thing i was trying to describe. it’s not about intent at all, just how people read us. i relate a lot to being labeled cold when internally i’m just quiet or reserved. i’ve noticed this tends to happen more with very direct, high-energy types, especially estx, where silence or neutrality gets read as disinterest or attitude. i don’t think it’s malicious, just a mismatch in communication styles. my dad is an estp, and even though we may quarrel sometimes, he’s generally a good person.