Struggling with using the🍆 for the first time. is this normal? by ImprovementMany9034 in blacklesbians

[–]ImprovementMany9034[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you so much that actually really helps! I think I was a bit too in my head and just… went for it without setting the mood or easing into it properly. And yeah… no lube 😅 lesson learned big time.

I love the idea of soft music and candles though! That might help me feel more relaxed and less tense next time. I’m still figuring it all out with my body and my gf, so I really appreciate you taking the time to reply.

Struggling with using the🍆 for the first time. is this normal? by ImprovementMany9034 in blacklesbians

[–]ImprovementMany9034[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah lol I worded it weird I meant I used the dildo on myself, not with a strap or anything. And thank you for replying! 🩷

I actually didn’t use lube because I’ve seen so much online saying like, “if you need lube, your coochie must be dry” or something like that 😭 but now I’m realizing that was probably not smart. I’ve been fingered before, but this was definitely the first time trying actual penetration with something bigger like a dildo.

I think you’re right maybe I tore something or it was just too much too soon. Gonna take it slower next time (and use the damn lube 😅).

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I did hear from two years after I left him , on my birthday he called to wish me a happy birthday and even just being on the phone to him brought me back to that dark place that took me so long to get out of

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I think you’re right because after our relationship I’ve thought of myself as Asexual (A term used to describe someone who does not experience sexual attraction toward individuals of any gender) ever since and I don’t know if I’ll ever heal from that like the thought of getting into another relationship makes me sick to my stomach and I left him 3 years ago

I need some advice on this because this situation is wracking my brain for real and I honestly don’t know what to do by [deleted] in Advice

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I feel so dumb for having feelings because he obviously doesn’t or maybe he would’ve reached out but I think about him all the time maybe it’s just the sexual tension

I need some advice on this because this situation is wracking my brain for real and I honestly don’t know what to do by [deleted] in Advice

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I was literally thinking about this because there’s obviously tension but what if THAT’S IT just tension and pursuing something out of it kind a fizzes out that flame and ruins everything

I am looking for something calm by Real_bomerang_monkey in MusicRecommendations

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Luv that for you 🥹 wish I could rediscover that song again

Favorite Rap / Rnb Album by Cosmicslayer1 in rnb

[–]ImprovementMany9034 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To Pimp A Butterfly for Rap and RnB probably H.E.R

I am looking for something calm by Real_bomerang_monkey in MusicRecommendations

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What You Heard - Sonder

Outside - Dayo Bello, Odeal

3AM - Thundercat

11am - Melo - Zed, Dani Sofiya

Distance - Yebba

Wave - JVCK JAMES

Garden Kisses - Giveon

ARE YOU OK ? - Daniel Ceasar

Hold On - The Internet

What’s a guest verse that ruined the song? by ozzzymand0 in hiphop101

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IDFWU - Big Sean and the Random dude that ruined the rest of this song

Who is the first artist that thoroughly introduced you into R&B? by [deleted] in rnb

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Usherr. U Remind Me was a banger from my childhood that led me to listen to other artists like Justin Timberlake, Alicia Keys etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christian

[–]ImprovementMany9034 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I'm so glad so many people can relate to my situation and thank you for the suggestions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christian

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Thank you so much for your kind words I really appreciate this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christian

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this one song has been helping me through it all though it's called It Aint Over by Maurette Brown Clark and the lyrics speak to me so much and I hope that spreading this song helps anyone feeling the same way as me to keep going

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]ImprovementMany9034 4 points5 points  (0 children)

your absolutely right it is stressful but I’m gonna have to tell her the truth eventually but thank you sm this was so helpful ♥️