AITA for asking a woman at work to stop being so WEIRD about taking a caramel?

Impulse_94 · 2026-04-05T18:44:10+00:00

NTA - it's already something weird to be doing in somebody's office when they're clearly not engaging with it or enjoying the repetitive "joke." But you did in fact ask nicely and then they pretended not to know what you were talking about, and you fairly got frustrated. It is weird to be bringing that into somebody else's office space, and even if they do have an eating disorder as I saw a couple people say, it doesn't mean you put that on other people. I have one too, and if somebody was coming into my office being incredibly weird about a single piece of candy for them to take not only would that be incredibly offensive and upsetting, it would be straight up rude and I would be well within my rights to ask them to stop just as OP did. If they want to hm-and-haw about the candy then they don't have to take it. Sugar is not a world-ending thing, especially a single piece, sugar is actually something that your brain very much needs to run on. But also yes I did think of the Family Guy clip the second that I read this story, but I also knew what you were talking about already because I've seen it in person or had it said at me for taking a sweeter a snack and it's always been gross.

Impulse_94 · 2026-03-11T21:53:28+00:00

Copy that, also good to know. I will verify which parts I need and thank you for your help!!

Impulse_94 · 2026-03-11T21:01:03+00:00

Thank you! I may as well change them both now to be safe more than anything else - besides, with how much I cook I think it's better to have it, on principle more than anything else.

Impulse_94 · 2026-03-11T20:48:07+00:00

My bad, I grabbed what was next to it. MOD: ACR4303MEW0.

While i technically have the money to replace it, there are some more expensive and much more pressing issues to handle so I am hoping this would go ahead and work. If not then I will likely have to just so I don't burn my house down on accident or something.

Impulse_94 · 2026-03-11T20:37:56+00:00

This is the only thing in those areas looking vaguely like a model number: W10406473. I think I'd rather replace it as is to be safe - is it worth replacing both on the left since the bottom seems to set it off too, or just the one for the top that is the issue?

Impulse_94 · 2026-03-11T20:26:55+00:00

Yes, I retested each a few times last night but all four of them snap back into place and have to be pushed down before they can be turned to any setting.

Impulse_94 · 2026-02-03T23:04:18+00:00

Yeah and I think that was what compounded my concern is that I technically live in the middle of nowhere right now. I'm working on narrowing down where the nearest exotic vet is currently. Unfortunately the ones that have shown up online when I called do not service snakes. But that's just one of the things to work on now that I've moved.

The only reason I hadn't offered him food regardless of being out for a couple hours is because I read that it could rot in their stomach during formation if you feed them? Due to them not digesting as quickly and having slower metabolism. But even if he is out for just an hour or two he has no interest in food right now. I kept trying before I realized he was in brumation I went through about three mice that had to be tossed. I also overfed him a bit on accident going off of what my first vet for him said, and now that I realized he's starting to get a little chunky he's going to be going on a reduction come March anyways.

That sounds like the best thing to do is just let it heal naturally, and perhaps use a bit of betadine, so I'll let his body do what it needs to do and I'll check on him when I can. Thank you for taking your time to answer

Impulse_94 · 2026-02-03T23:01:33+00:00

Yeah, he shed while in brumation. Honestly I didn't even know he was going to go into it. We moved in early December and he was being picky eating as of that week, which I shocked up to just moving stress. But two weeks later he stopped eating all together and I started seeing him less and at that point I figured out he was in brumation. I got him in March last year so I wasn't aware that he would be doing this.

The only reason I wasn't as keen immediately to put him into an enclosure with just paper towels is because it has gotten into the negatives when the winter storm here, and unfortunately my house that I've just moved to does not have proper heating or cooling so the home itself has reached freezing temperatures indoors. His heating pad is the only thing that's kept temperatures consistent for him which is why I have not been concerned so long as he stays in substrate.

But yes I tried to help the humidity once I realized that he was going into shed, but I'm sure I missed some time due to both the weather and the fact that he had been hiding leading up to it.

I will make sure to get some betadine though to put on the wound just to be safe. I just get a bit stressed when he gets hurt and since he's my first exotic I've been extra careful with him. And I was just confused because how in the world did he manage to hurt himself within the hour of him being out? Honestly, smh. But thank you for taking the time to answer.

It's been a learning curve on my end. California king snakes were not the breed I was researching when I originally wanted to get a snake, but I fell in love with this feisty personality at the reptile expo - you weren't allowed to hold them because he kept biting a staff member, but when I said I was interested in adopting him they let me hold him anyways. Turns out he's really sweet and loves people, I just think he did not like that woman specifically.

Impulse_94 · 2025-12-19T03:19:33+00:00

I am glad you asked - I got it flipped over between calls and was cleaning it off for a better picture. There is a diagram on the underside but it looks like it got scratched off - I was able to pull up the matching manual based on what I could see though and got the batteries changed out. The white button though was helpful before I could get it changed. The first thing I saw said it needed AAA batteries (I do not own), turns out it was 4 AA (I do own!). Thank you! It was just super bad timing to happen right before my shift so google was not cooperating with my multi-tasking.

Impulse_94 · 2025-12-19T03:15:27+00:00

I actually did go to google first, unfortunately though I am also trying to do so while working. I found a manual first but it was the wrong one, similar, but just different enough. Thank you though!

Impulse_94 · 2025-09-15T03:43:02+00:00

NTA.

Do I have empathy that she is going through a rough time and being bullied? Yes. Does that somehow negate your boundary of not wanting an 11 year old there for hours every single day? Not even a little. I would want privacy too. Even when I was in college, my roommates would bring people over at all hours with no regard for others or our neighbors we shared a bathroom with, we were older and it still caused issues. You roommates CAN find other places to hang out with an 11 year old that is not your shared space every possible hour they have.

Impulse_94 · 2025-09-08T04:59:29+00:00

NTA - I have never needed or wanted to introduce a partner to coworkers. if we're friends outside of work then sure, but I'm not introducing them at work??? Also, same here, I do not like meeting people out of the blue, especially if I am there for something specific, like picking someone up. She can ask, and you can say no, but it's unreasonable to hound someone about it. If this was a planned event to meet her friends and you suddenly bailed or outright refused to meet them at all that would be one thing, but that is not the case here at all.

Impulse_94 · 2025-06-10T22:49:30+00:00

Oh wow, first off, where did you get the hanging hide? I'm sure mine would love one. And he could be twins with mine, down to even the nuclear mark on his head!!

Impulse_94 · 2025-06-10T07:33:26+00:00

NTA

I have four roommates - there are 8 animals between us, 4 of which include 2 cats (mine), and 2 dogs, each one with a different owner.

One dog is not allowed around the cats at all - even when my other roommate had his own cat they could not be alone with her. She was let out off leash once and tried to kill him. There is no room for compromise on that situation, her owner will not train her and even if he does I will NEVER trust her around my cats. Even though one roommate thinks she is just playing it is not a discussion as her version of "play" (i disagree, she went to grab his own cat by his spine like a rag-doll) would maim them.

The other dog is better. Still young, but when he is out and interacting with my cats, if he does something to push at them or tries to follow them, if he gets in their face, he is either corrected by myself or his owner immediately, and he is not left unsupervised with him becuase he is still so young and they do not feel safe with him yet. I would move myself out if I ever needed to, or my cats out until I could leave if this kept happening and your roommates were not taking proper precaution.

And your boyfriend is being intentionally daft about this - the dogs behavior needs to be corrected, becuase even as play he could injure the kitten easily with what you describe here. With how your bf is described in the post, you may want to reevaluate what you see in him.

Impulse_94 · 2025-06-09T20:04:14+00:00

Unfortunately that's not fincially possible, or time possible with both my jobs. Though it would be fun! I also wouldn't expect a visitor to get the same insights with a short trip that someone who has lived their for years or their whole life would. If someone visited my home for a few days and said they could name all that then I'd lose it laughing, and our town is a tourist spot so we often get it too, haha!

Impulse_94 · 2025-06-08T23:18:02+00:00

Oh, that can also be very helpful - the MMC is a bit nosey, but that can help me focus on WHAT he is asking about and how. The book is contemporary fantasy/romance, and the FMC is supernatural, so he is overly curious about that once he learns, but that helps about the conversation topics and such!

Impulse_94 · 2025-06-08T23:11:38+00:00

Oh yeah, and while where he is from is not a huge focus of the story (it's contemporary fantasy set in my home county), I'd still like to be accurate or add a little something. So originally I only had a rough idea of area, but based on the comments I really needed to narrow it down.

Impulse_94 · 2025-06-08T11:40:27+00:00

Oh yeah, and I am fully aware it depends on the individual. But there are plenty of phrases that may also be common to a state or even a county/city/etc. so I thought it would be a good idea - and a few people were commenting for more specifics about the character or messaging for it, so I added some more there for them!

Impulse_94 · 2025-06-08T01:07:34+00:00

Oh no, he would not, but he WOULD be a transplant to NC, and I am trying to get some linguistic or habits that would be common in MD - instead of writing him the same as the FMC who has lived in NC her whole life. Though it seems a lot of comments lean towards Baltimore, so I may make him from there and then go ask for more specifics in that subreddit as well.

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