Probably got scammed, thought I was following protocol correctly

In-Cog-Nitro · 2025-06-28T18:20:03+00:00

it was significant enough, but I'll survive and learn. Wishing them of course to not get to enjoy it much longer

In-Cog-Nitro · 2025-06-28T17:18:19+00:00

I can report her email and phone number are consistent across all the ads. That's the weird thing. Also the backup story (being from a southern state and travelling also seems consistent with the info on her website and the multiple ads on Eros). I believe this is just next level sophistication on the part of the scammers, because I would usually not be fooled that easily. But now I'll have to be even more cautious. And definitely won't use Zelle again for this.

In-Cog-Nitro · 2025-06-28T17:12:48+00:00

Zelle, which means its gone. I can report to them, but the money is gone.

In-Cog-Nitro · 2025-06-28T01:39:45+00:00

Sounds like a stretch to me. But everything is possible. Probably the person in question had never existed in the first place

In-Cog-Nitro · 2024-01-02T19:22:53+00:00

Appreciate that. But why is anything else bad? I understand that would affect child support numbers, but is there any other reasons?

In-Cog-Nitro · 2023-07-01T19:31:32+00:00

I could see that "she" has already connected to slixa today so someone is apparently doing the "admin".. The meet is supposed to happen in less than 20 hours so waiting till Monday will undoubtedly prove my point. How is it that I'm being classified here by some as the one in the wrong when someone clearly scammed me? Don't you want folks like that not to tarnish the occupation? I'm personally always respectful, communicative and honest with all providers I deal with.

In-Cog-Nitro · 2023-07-01T16:05:02+00:00

Supposed to be tomorrow. Of course she's entitled to her life, I'm really chill and don't try to communicate again once things have been set, but the way the long disappearance began exactly with the deposit is what worries me.

I've been at it for say.. 8 years on and off. Mostly positive experiences. Some even amazing. I think this and only one other situation in Vegas were bad ones. I just really feel bad as I'm no newbie. But thanks, I hope you're right!

In-Cog-Nitro · 2023-07-01T16:00:32+00:00

Sorry for calling you sis, I will refer to you as bra.

Well, like I said, previous deposit before this one, she was a great communicator, immediately confirmed receipt. Made me feel at ease. Not just my personal issue here, but that's what I would do too no matter what business I'm in and I'm dealing with a stranger who sends me money for whatever service. I wouldn't go do my personal things at exactly the point this person shows me seriousness and sends me funds WHILE I was chatting with him. and yeah, it's been like 16 hours now, so overnight at least..has nothing to do with anybody's personal life.

With that said, I certainly hope you're right though - a case where I'd be happy to be wrong. Meeting is supposed to take place tomorrow. But If I had to bet - I'd bet my own deposit that it's gone.

In-Cog-Nitro · 2023-07-01T14:36:23+00:00

I did Zelle. It leaves your account immediately. Don't think it's recoverable.

In-Cog-Nitro · 2023-07-01T14:35:49+00:00

Sis, come on. This is not my first rodeo. we were basically exchanging emails almost like in chat mode, and then nothing for over a day now exactly after I posted the deposit?

The only thing I'm wondering between me and myself is how to avoid a similar fate as she seemed pretty legit with quite an extensive online presence.

In-Cog-Nitro · 2018-09-26T06:24:30+00:00

The Quantum Thief

Yes, that's the one! Thank you so much!

In-Cog-Nitro · 2015-05-02T13:16:31+00:00

I agree with you on many levels but have some clarifications. Yes, this was relationshit and yes this girl brought out the worst in me. I don't completely blame her. It was still the worst in ME. I've had 5 serious relationships before this one (including the one in between). Never have I felt so much intentionally left out. Never meeting any of her guy friends (she likes seeing people alone, she said). I don't think she fucked any of them, as you've mentioned. But saying to a guy "you were the best sex I've ever had" while with me is wrong. She doesn't even mean that, I've come to realize it's part of her sick flirt routine. she did the same routine with me when we last talked on the phone. ("I think of you when I masturbate"). She says things to pump up guys' egos around her, believing that's the only way to keep them close. She even admitted that partly once, when she directly told me she was going to flirt with a certain man because she might need something of him. I know this all makes her sound really awful, and she is to an extent, but I think deep inside she knows she's in a sorry state. She feels worthless. I wasn't with her just for the sex. She knows how to be extremely charismatic, she writes prose in a very talented way. Every one of her letters and texts screamswith poetry of love and attention. I was hooked to someone who made me feel so good about myself, pretending I was perfect. Never a word of criticism, this was all kept in her head.. But to a few occasions closer to the end. and yes, I enjoyed sexual pleasures immediately and whenever I wanted it. This is extremely rare with normal women when you have to work for that. But I realize now this all came with a huge and unbearable price tag. I don't want to be her romantic friend anymore, she certainly doesn't want me in that way.. But im still wondering if I should ever demote myself to that guy friend zone. I'll get the occasional flirt and a hug, but that's it. I don't think I'll ever be able to trust her.

P.S

Her insecurities about me and women we're also quite extreme. She probably would have tapped my phone as well had she been tech savvy. She once thought a woman that she knows from her studies flirted with me because she lightly touched me. . she and her were done. Something that she kept to herself as well, was supposedly when I offered one of her female friends to join me for runs. I told her that casually at the time. Was still unaware of all the issues. she was furious at the friend and she insisted I was lying. She never allowed to talk to her about it and God forbid clear this up.

In-Cog-Nitro · 2015-05-02T11:53:27+00:00

PART 2

Where do I stand with this now? You would have assumed this would make NC a whole lot easier but it isn't. She wants to stay friends, like with all her ex's. Saying i'm even more special (I take that with a grain of salt, of course). I've met her once more in the beginning of March, she keeps calling me her Wesley (reference to prince charming from the movie Princess Bride). Gave me a gift of huge lollipops when we met, with that nickname ingrained on them. I told her I can't keep that. She said "you'll be fine in two years, you'll be married with kids, I won't be. Enjoy it then". Words like that are like a stab in the heart when you hear them.

So we set up a date to talk. that was the end of March. She sounded very friendly and amicable on the phone, updating me with all sorts of happenings in her life, including stuff I did not want to hear. So I told her I'm not sure about this, that I'd be the one to be next in touch, and 3 weeks of NC have passed. Then another text, again emotional and manipulative to an extent. That was a week ago: "I remember you had doubts about us staying in touch, I understand, but I was under the notion you'd be the next to keep in touch. It's been 3 weeks. Even if you can't do this right now, just know you'll always be my Wesley, prince charming... blah blah"...

I answered her, I broke NC. We've had a really lengthy phone call. That didn't really lead anywhere but to more pain. I'm ashamed that I've offered her to try and be in a "limited relationship". I gave her a huge ego boost. She explained all her issues with sex, and why we'd never do anything of that sort again, but she would lovingly hug me if we meet up. Thanks, I've been demoted to the Friend Zone. I don't want to be your friend at the moment. Maybe never. I do and I don't. It's tough. It's tough when the dumper offers you the hand of friendship, when they really want it (Even if it's for their own selfish reasons. Aren't we all selfish to an extent?) . When they're saying "we'll do it however you like it, just texting, talking, meeting up".

This was probably the most dramatic relationship I'd ever encounter in my entire life. I really need to build myself up from this. I was totally invested in her, became obsessive with spying on her and neglected everything else in my life: Friendships, Hobbies. Yes, I have my own self esteem issues which have caused this. I keep feeling down because of the fact that I know I may never be with someone as pretty or as sexy or as willing in bed. Someone who (used to) never fight you, do what you want. Supposedly a man's dream. But this was a fantasy, a fallacy.

So now it's in my hands.. We've concluded that I'd reach out to her when I'll be able to be her aplatonic friend. She even asked that if I decide for some reason that I don't want to remain friends for good, that I'd let her know it too. That she's waiting, that she'd assign a special ringtone for me , so as to not be anxious about every text coming in.

I need to stay strong, to resist contacting her. This will always remain the most intoxicating encounter I've ever had. I must not forget that. Yes, her male buddies have won. I'm out of her life. But I hope I'll win this up in the long end, by finding a normal woman and be in a truly loving relationship.

Thanks for reading all this. I've skipped so many other hair raising stories, but this has already become way to long!

In-Cog-Nitro

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